Is it ok for a married man to go to a club with his brother who does not respect me or like me?

My husband and I have had a shaky marriage. We separated for awhile, then about a month ago I moved myself and our son to VA to live with him and try things again. There's a lot of trust issues and I'm still insecure about things. Anyways he wants to go to the club with his brother who does not like me, respect me, or even want me to move to VA. I'm not ok with him going, he thinks I'm being unfair. Am I wrong?
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*Sarah Belle*
Thank you for your answer even though you have no idea what you are talking about. My husband left because he is in the army and had to PCS to VA, his brother dont like me because I'm not a push over wife, his brothers a single, stripper who thinks its ok to club whenever. Now you can take this info and come up wit a better answer.

Thanks everyone else who actually answered my question without making there own conclusions.

Nancy

No you are not wrong. It is NOT OK for him to be going out clubbing. He is married and needs to stop acting like he is single. If he wants to go out clubbing he should file for divorce then.
And I do think that relatives and friends have influence on men who are unsure of their relationships with their women. My ex bf started going out to bars with his roommate and next thing you know his cell phone is ringing off the hook. He may not have slept with someone but he certainly gave out his number. That was my first clue. We didn't last.

Sarah Belle

You are way more than wrong. If you knew you couldn't trust your husband, you should have stayed where you were and gotten a divorce. This is not about his brother, it's about you. There may be a reason why his brother does not respect you and why your husband left you to go to VA. Besides, you can't dictate where a grown man goes.

Anonymous27

I found your question very interesting. Girl... I understand it may bother you about your brother in law. But girl he is just one of those guys who like to make chiks feel this way, he knows exaclty how much it hurts you. But you just trust your hubby and your hubby knows all about the way his borther is and if yourhubby is in the military, I am sure he wants alot better for you. So at least he is going out with his borhter and not some other dudes. Just trust your man!!! he is not like his brother at all.

Consultant

Love is never easy, but I believe it is inappropriate for a MARRIED man to go to the club. I believe most men go to the club searching....It's not about the music or having fun.....it's looking for the hook up! If you currently are in a strained relationship, why would he go to a club and you are in a strained relationship as it is......You are not insecure, he has violated your trust and it is his responsibility to rebuild that......He needs to take ownership of how your relationship got to this point, going to the club doesn't help at all.....Ignore the brother, regardless of what he thinks, your husband married you and not him....Let him find his own relationship to get in the middle of. Good luck and stay strong!

Green Eyed Angel

yea you kinda wrong... i think you need to give him a break... if you really want things to work you really need to try trusting him.... if you wont try to trust him then you need to let him move on with his life...

I think that you and your husband need to have a solid, open chat with his brother about your feelings and how he made you feel this way.

Your husband should insist that people respect you- his brother as well.

Maybe this visit to the club would be the start of a new relationship but I'd be clear about my needs and who should support them.

POXXY

you darling is not wrong.your totally right.i dont think letting him go is a good idea...it will creat more issues...think about it.. gud luck.. :)

autumn

I dont think you are being unfair at all. first of all I dont think it is appropriate for a married man to be going to a club without his wife. clubs are meet shops thats all they are. if you were having problems and are moving to work on them, the first place he should be is with you talking about how to make things work, not with his brother at a club.

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