Is it ok for a single guy to be friends with a unhappily married woman ?

I was just asking. I have a friend. And she is a breath of fresh air.
We talk sometimes, and we know very little of each other. However,
she seems to like me a lot. And I like her too. She is in her late
20's early 30's. I am 30. She is a nurse, and works at her office
downtown. I work about 2 blocks from her. And in the middle of it
all, there is this park downtown in our city. Do you see it ? OK.
Now when I am sitting there during my lunch hour, I see her
walking by, or relaxing and eating her lunch too. But everytime
we do see each other, it is like we are so smitten. She smiles, and
gets that look in her eyes. Like, hey handsome, I remember you.
Listen folks. This woman is gorgeous. She has dark brunette hair,
a nice body, and she has prety skin. Her eyes are out of this world.
I know, I know. But I just want to be friends with her, because she
makes me feel good. I mean, like you wouldnt believe. She is a flirt,
and talks to me when she sees me always ! But there is one problem.
She is married. What can you tell me about this woman ? Should
I be her friend......................

Invisigoth

you are in dangerous territory.

It is perfectly fine to be a friend, however your description of her indicates you are interested in far more than mere friendship and an unhappily married woman could be easily seduced (or could easily seduce a willing partner) and then you would be inviting more drama into your life than you really would care to have.

if you want more than just friendship from this woman but you don't want the trouble and complications an affair will bring into your life, then let her know that when she's available (ie, divorced) you're interested but until then you don't have much to offer her.

Satanic Brainsmasher

Bad choice. Husband could be a killer. The other thing is if you can steal her away from her husband someone else can take her away from you. Don't be foolish.

cjmessy

Ok, it doesn't sound like you are asking for permission to be her friend. You want to start an affair with this woman, and it sounds like it is mutual.

You are heading for heartache. If she is unhappily married, let her figure it out first. You will one day regret involving yourself in a marriage that could have had a chance...

blueberry

i wonder how long it'll take for her to cheat on her husband with you

happy 1

no it's too shaky.

Reverend Willy

Being friends with her is ok but it does carry a certain amount of danger. the both of you risk developing an emotional attachment to one another which could open the door for you going somewhere you shouldn't until the relationship she is in is ended.

If she cheats with you eventually she will cheat on you. Be careful and honorable and you should be able to keep your head should her husband work for the Post Office or be a sword nut.

Reverend Willy

Complicated

Sure you can be friends. But the feelings you're describing aren't of the 'friendly' variety, ya know. I'm not usually inclined to wax poetic about my friends. It was fun to read though. :)

You have a lively writing style. I love that you wrote, 'do you see it?' Of course, it is possible you're writing for someone specific, but if not, you have an engaging style.

Have a lovely day! :)

sarah

Say, you marry this perfect woman, would you want her walking around the park with some other guy flirting and secretly wanting each other? How would you feel about that?
Even if she is unhappy in her marriage, it's unfair to her, or her husband for you to interfere. And lets face it, you don't just want to be her friend. You are secretly hoping she leaves this guy for you eventually.

Edwina n

BECAREFULL NOT TO HURT ANYONE ITS TIME FOR YOU BACK THE HECK OFF A LIL UNTIL SHE WORKS IT OUT OR YOU CAN BE VERY DECENT AND HELP NOT BY SLEEPING WITH HER OR LEAD HER INTO IT

Space Cadet #5

No, stay away. She is being selfish to her husband.

I work with a very nice and attractive woman who used to come on to me like that (still does, actually). About a year ago she got married and the guy lives in ANOTHER COUNTRY. This poor dude probably goes to bed wacking off every night, and all he wants is her. Yet, she wants to play around with co-workers, and she won't give up her life to go be with him. I give her the cold shoulder now, and she probably doesn't even realize why. I'm just disgusted, and I feel sorry for her "husband".

Marina

You shouldn't be her friend at all, because you obviously want a hell of a lot more. She's unhappily married and on a slippery slope. Don't go there.

James

dangerous ground.....your gonna hook up with her...becareful

noitall

Run. This has red flags written all over it. Unless you want to find yourself in an affair with a married woman and considered the scum of the earth, I wouldn't even go there.

The Bitter Truth

This :

"This woman is gorgeous...blah blah blah... But I just want to be friends with her, because she makes me feel good."

does not make sense... You either have massive personal issues, or are having a problem admitting you want a married woman. Honestly, if she's flirting with you, and is MARRIED, what makes you think she's not flirting with other guys too? Probably other guys that aren't as slow to pick up on the hint as you are at that. I say go for it, if what you say is true, you're probably not the first guy, and I doubt will be the last. And for God's sake, don't make it more than it is.

Bio hopeful

lol doesnt sound like she likes you at all. she is just being nice. and it sounds creepy the way you talk about her

David

It's fine to be friends with married people. Getting married does not mean she can't have friends, male or female.

However, anything more than friendship would obviously be bad for her marriage.

Edith D

everyone needs friends

Legandivori

You have no idea about husband or her home life! He might be an angry raging nut job, and if you befriend her she might be beaten by husband. You wouldn't want that. Nor would you want him to beat you either. Be cordial, but NO MORE THAN THAT! If she approaches you, make it very very low! If she is married, even unhappily, and she makes a pass at you, tell her you'll wait until she left him, but not until then.

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