Is it ok for my husband to go to lunch with a former co-worker?

yes, if you went you would feel left out because you don't know what their talking about if its about co-workers so be glad your not awkwardly sitting there eating a taco.

Black Heaven - Band

Yeah, don't worry about it.

Look Mama No Hands

Sounds ok. I gather he would've done it anyway without telling you. so yes

Mr. PhD

You obviously don't trust your husband. Is there a reason for this? If you love him and he loves you, you must trust him unless he does something to hurt that trust. To do anything less is immature. Jealously is for the feeble minded.

Just take it for what it is worth. Going to lunch with a female, for the most part, is just like going to lunch with a male friend. I do it all of the time.

If you love him, trust him. If you don't trust him, find someone else to be with. It is pretty much that simple

sarah B

I think he deserves the benifit of the doubt and you should trust him but in saying that if you think he may be cheating on you then keep your eyes and ears open cause he is bound to slip up sooner or later. Also I just can't understand why he didn't invite you to come along with him if there was nothing going on and it was just gossip....

hello :)

i think you have the right to be a little jealous. but just trust him. it wouldnt bother me but i am a pretty laid back person.

Tbone64

Has he given you a reason to be jealous? Have you ever had a suspicion about this woman?

Glenn B

if u can trust him

k0rben.dallas

I smell a rat.

Since when men gossip?

Linda

that would be a lil wierd to me, but if you trust your hubby, then i would try not to worry about it.

bztodai

you shouldnt be. dont become one of those people who become jealous over little things. its totally not worth it.

Bennart

well you have a right to be jealous especially if they had prior relations together. then again trust in a marriage does become an issue if you decide to jump the gun.

spy99gsx

You are being to jealous. Lunch at taco bell? Come on now. What are they gonna kiss over a Mexican Pizza? If he is going to cheat, it will happen regardless of you being jealous or not. Instead, be his love slave the night before and odds are he will concentrate on the food because he will need the nourishment.

hammer

It is OK as long as it is lunch. But if lunch also means a quick afternoon screw than you are in trouble.

sad_lonley_wife

not only no but HELL NO!!!

Deanna

That would depend on the basis of your relationship. My husband has coffee with ex-co-workers who are female but he always tells me about it. Once we even went out to dinner with two women co-workers of his. He was just thrilled to be having dinner with "three beautiful women" as he puts it. Get your husband to introduce the two of you, then maybe you would feel better about it, or you could go along if he invites you along. If not, just let him go, especially since he's told you about it and is not hiding anything. How long can lunch at Taco Bell take anyway?

Live_For_Today

Not sure on this one, especially when a male says he's going to talk gossip. This rings my alarm bells as one thing can lead to another and then it becomes a real hot lunch. Only you know your husband as we all don't, so you should have some idea how strong or weak he is in the presence of another woman.

dragonlady

If you have never had a reason to doubt him before, you should trust him now. I do have to wonder, however, why you where not invited to go along. If there is a reasonable explanation, then I see no harm in it.

You are the one that knows your husband and without any background knowledge it is difficult to assess the situation accurately.

ryladie99

Yes, it is okay and do not get jealous for nothing. Taco Bell is very busy at lunch time and this place is no romantic atmosphere and it is not a dinner date. Take it easy and do not over react.Your husband is not cheating if he tells you where he is at. Remember let the man have a space then everything will be all right.

Tiss

Well, he told you about it, so he's not being sneaky, and they are going to Taco Bell, for Heaven's sake! It's not exactly a candlelit dinner at a romantic restaurant, in another town. I wouldn't worry about it!

juanes addicion

former co-worker..i would see how you could be concerned...but there is a trust issue at hand...

has he been shady in the past with other girls? or has he been faithful?

you NEED to use this as a barometer...

if he has screwed up,...then yes I would call him on whether it is appropriate..

if he has been good...then I wouldn't worry about it..

my wife has male friends and i can trust her with all of them..

but i do not have those insecurities...

limtysfam

why not?
If you cant trust your husband than who can you trust?
Reverse situation
can you be trusted?
Don't make a big deal about it ...treat him and trust him as you'd want to be treated and trusted

Depends...has he done this before? I mean gone out to "gossip" with a former co-worker? That would strike me as odd, since men don't really gossip...

Edwin S

a man who is going with, not a co worker, but a former co worker...to gossip? those are two red flags right there. Dont become insecure and jealous, but let him know that it bothers you.

Guzel K

no, it is not OK that your husband is going outside with some boded else. you must to lock him in his bedroom!:) for a long time as punishment for not loving YOU.

LAL

There are former co-workers I would let my husband go to lunch with......BUT, there are a couple that he knows are NOT acceptable. Which is it for you?

Titus12

Stick to your guns, what's next he's going to want to go to dinner with her and so on and on and on? If it were she, he and others as a group then no problem. But the cozy two, not acceptable put your foot down. Let that "Jezebel" find her another lunch date not your husband or any married man. He can talk gossip with you. How would your husband feel if you were to go on a lunch date with another man? Best to you.

Linni

It's a public place, and not the high end. Do you know her or her personality or family life? Is she an ex-gf? I'd just ask everything I want to know about her from my hubby and if he's relaxed about answering, I'll be ok. If he seems to be avoiding things or uncomfortable, my antennae are up.

hiba

Yes it should be ok.. but gossip is not a good thing. Why does a concerned husband find time to gossip ? Doesn't he have other priorities ?

Devon

Yes if u have faith in him. Depends how long you have been married. Would you trust him with your life. Has he had late nights? Has he lied to you. If hes been a honest man trust him. But the evil thing to do (Which i don't recommended) Spy on him. But have faith in him.

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