Is it ok for teen couples to be thinking about getting married and having kids?

morbidlybeautiful

no, you should be thinking about college and careers.

An0nym0us mAn1Ac

No. Terrible idea.

Big J

Yeah, it is ok to think. But there is no way you are actaully ready to do it.

eqaddix

No, much too young, think about having fun for about 10 more years first.

Birdie

No No No No No, please No.

snik

Thinking about it yes, getting married, maybe, having kids, NO

maxinegirl_2001

its fine to think about it, as long as you're willing to wait until you're old enough to deal with the life change and can afford to do such things.

Miss Honesty

sure its okay. it doesnt mean theyre going to do it. let them dream. let them think. let them grow. this is how we become loving adults who want to have commitment and offspring. we have to start somewhere :-)

hot_tamale962

sure I dont see why not. I think they should think about it for the future but thinking about it may not be a bad idea.

stina4u2

As long as they're talking about future plans and not present plans, why not?

Happily Married to my Prince!

Of course it's OK. In fact, I think teenagers should be thinking more about marriage rather than just partying or living immoral lives playing "hook up". I know I thought about marriage and starting a family when I was a teenager. It's a completely different thing when teenagers are actually having children. As far as marriage, as long as they're 18, it's perfectly legal. Maybe not wise, but how people have gone through divorce when they married at an older age? It goes both ways.

Kirsten

unless u r willing to b responsible with a screaming pooping baby, have ur fun teenage free life taken away, and have a bumpy relationship and a really good/hard career, no

Ansi C

Are you financially securing enough to do so?

I'd recommend that you go to school and get education and find a real job before you think about getting married and having kids.

Rissa Roo

Yes it is. Its only natural. Sometimes though, they are unprepared and rush into. Other times they are successful and live happy lives together. It just depends on the people. But I think many people no matter what always dream of being married and having babies. :}

Thinking about it and how it would be like, is fine.. but actually going along with it, when you're still young.. NO!!!

BabeHeart

It's okay to "think" about anything...but totally unrealistic to expect it to occur. The people you are as teens are completely different than who you will be as adults...chances are high you won't even be together when you're mature enough to consider marriage and kids.

But thinking about it and pretending "what if" is harmless...

Cat Loves Her Sabres

Sure, think all you want. If you're responsible, though you will wait until you are financially able to support a child before you have one. I'm not going to tell you to get married; I think it's a waste of money to have a huge wedding if you don't really want one. I will, however tell you that you need to at least finish high school and realistically, you need to both earn Bachelor's degrees and at the very least be working in stable jobs and living well above the poverty line before having any children. I'm 21 myself, and my boyfriend (who's done with school and works for a software company) and I are moving in together while I student teach. Not gonna try anything beyond that for the time being, though!

goldenshelle

I think it's okay...maybe better than wanting a lot of different people. I'm 20 and I have been with my boyfriend since 16. You just have to be sure that you have compatible plans for the future. It probably isn't okay to change your goals for someone. If it is right they will support you. Watch out for signs of personality changes or growing apart. It's fine to think about but it's probably better not to do anything drastic just yet.

foreverandever

Yea sure, do what you want. and who is going to stop you? especially from thinkning about it

Harlyn

you have no idea what the hell your talking about enjoy being a kid before having kids trust me your feeling like you have to play house because you want to feel closer to the man er boy your with it's your nesting Instinct don't go with that feeling run from it wait till your in your mid twenty's before settling down....

mskemp2B

What age range?

I would say yes, in the sense that within there conversations you hear.. "after college", "after we get married". If not then I would def in-courage those "after" thoughts.
When we (adults/parents) address children/teens, often forget that we where young and our parents pretty much "told" us do or not to do. With the result being negative.
So instead, I wouldn't "in-courage" them, but instead give some "positive" reasons on what is best b4 hand.
Remember, being a teen, our minds change with the wind. Next month/week we may never want kids/marriage, and is in love with the next guy/girl.
Good Luck!

Jeni

there is nothing wrong with thinking about something, it is actually doing it that maybe should wait longer. speaking from experience, i met my husband at 18, had our son at 21, and are now married. i know we did it kind of backwards, but same basic idea. you just need to make sure that you have done everything that YOU wanted to do before you commit to something that is supposed to be FOREVER! and as for the children, PLEASE PLEASE do not attempt to have children until you are financially stable, especially in this economy. it's hard!

SummerLove

Of course it is okay to think about. Just make sure you are also thinking about your future together. Where will you live, how will you pay the bills. Will both of you work or just one of you? Can you realistically afford to pay the bills on the amount of money that will be coming in. If this is the person you truly love and plan to spend the rest of your life with make sure to actually plan. Also, premarital counseling is very good no matter what your age. A third party to make sure you both agree on all the major issues. They are completely unbiased and just bring up the most common causes of divorce. You do not have to agree with each other on everything but it is important to know what the other persons view point is.

tharnpfeffa

Not as long as you put it off until you're emotionally and financally prepared for such a huge undertaking.

.Miaa

I do with my boyfriend. It's just thinking...it all depends if you ACT on it. I know that I'm not ready for kids. So therefore its just simply day dreaming. Looking at your future. Everyone dos it don't they? lol

AKAO4D

No. Go live some of life so that you have something to share with your children as well as with each other. Parenting is for grown ups not wanna be grown ups! If what you have is lasting, it won't suffer because you went out and lived some of what life has to offer. Keep Living!

nancybuck8

Sure you can "think" about it much later on down the road. You have your whole lives ahead of you, don't make big mistakes you will regret later.

Queen of Beer

No, not seriously. They should be focused on education and what they want to do with their life to make money, then all of that stuff. Kids shouldn't be in a hurry to grow up.

isashach

Getting married and having kids?? Well of coarse it depends how old you are... if you're like 15, then no. If you're about 18, feel free to do so. Just make sure you don't become the next Juno.

You might want to wait some time, because you might decide later on that you hate the person you're with, and that will cause a load of trouble for both of you when you're married.

Angiebee

you know, when i was about 16 i did the same thing. I waited though, THANK GOD, to have a baby when i was 19, which was still young. Believe me, its hard to me young and have a baby. You may be saying, "i dont want to party anymore, i want to settle down and have a family" because thats what i did. I love my son with all my life, but its hard sometimes when you see all your friends going out and you have to stay home. PLUS! hearts change and relationships that start in their teens usually dont stay together. Me and my boyfriend were together for 6 years and had our son. 2 years after he was born we split bc we had grown apart. Having kids will take a toll on your relationship and you have to really be committed to make it work. Good Luck but please consider waiting until your older and have a career.

pinktink0908

sure but for the future

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