Is it ok for the wife to go clubing with her friends?

Bobby<3

well you need to trust her that's for sure. usually people go to clubs because they are single and desprate lol.

Dani

if you trust her it shouldn't bother you...

MyNameIsMofuga

Yeah it's fine. I'll be there looking for her.

Mandy43110

I don't think there's anything wrong with having a girl's night out once or twice a month. It's healthy for couples do things separately every so often. Besides do you go out with your buddies? Why should she sit at home while your out partying with your male friends?

You guys are young enjoy it. Until you have a reason to stop clubbing like budget or children then there isn't any harm in it at all. Lighten up.

Athena

Women definitely do need time to be with their friends. I personally would not be comfortable with the clubbing thing though it's not uncommon. You know your wife don't you? Is she the type that's out looking for something better? Or is she just having fun with her friends? If she's trust worthy then I wouldn't make to big a deal out of it. I would explain how I feel and kindly suggest some alternative outings that you are more comfortable with. If you just don't trust her, then it's not about the clubs anyway.

bocasbeachbum

Get a grip. Let her have some fun alone.

bluepixie1982

YES!!!! if you don't trust her you shouldn't be with her , she needs her friends and will resent you if you try and stop her going out. why don't you do the same with your mates your only 25 your not a pensioner yet!! i go out i have 2 kids and have been married 7 years and its not a prob and my husband does the same. chill about it and stop worrying.

charlie

Is there any one thing that you like to do with just you or you and your buddy's.
This is her escape, and some woman get it all out of there system by time they are 30 and some don't. The more you do not let her get all of her parting out the longer it will take.
Good Luck, peace out

Rudi A

My wife goes out clubbing with her good lady
friends, and I do not mind as the trust we have in
one another overrides the , what might happen
scinerio. She always comes home and has never
shown to have drank too much and our relationship
continues to be strong as we each are given our
space at times to let the other know that the trust
is still there.

*****

I have no objection to it if it is once a month. The wife needs time with her friends.

blakereik

She just wants to hang with her friends. Eventually she will grow out of the club scene and will find a more appropriate place to hang. But for now, if you trust her it should not be an issue, and if you don't trust her, you have very little reason to be married.

-J

Once amonth, is not a bad thing. It's healthy for the relationship. You have to have "friend" time. She get's to go out with her friends, you get to go out with yours. Be happy that she still wants to go out and have fun. Just because you're married doesn't mean that you're no longer allowed to have fun.

ash

Yes it perfectly fine, sometimes she just needs some girl time alone. Don't worry she's married to you for a reason!

sweet_4_dale

this is my opinion.i think if she is not doing anything wrong,then it should be ok for her to go clubbing.

Sophia R

its not like she is out partying without you every weekend. Everyone needs time with their friends and to not be around a boyfriend/husband every now and then.

Don,The

If you have nights that you go out with your friends, without her, than the answer is yes.

flyfish_777

You and your wife don't seem to be communicating very well. You need to sit down and have a really honest converstation and agree on a solution TOGETHER. You both get 1 vote in the relationship, and unless the vote is unanimous....nothing happens.

Try that and see how it works.

Marriage is about hard work, and open honest communication. Sit down with your wife and see what you can do!

Marina

yea I think it is

She wants to have fun
and live her life

ans she wants to keep
social with her friends without you

I dont think she is going to clubs
to meet guys or stuff just to have fun

shabobla j

That doesnt sound that bad sometimes husbands and wives should have fun with their friends seperately. As long as the trust is there and you two dont cross any boundaries then it s fine. Be happy that she isnt hiding it from you then that would be a problem. Are you very much aqcuainted with her Girlfriends.

gina

Do you go out without her? If not ask her how she would feel about you going out with just your friends without her. If she wouldn't want you doing it she shouldn't be doing it either.

Kailey

Is it a trust issue or a control issue?? If she has given you reason not to trust her, then she should be willing to work with you to regain that trust. Going out to clubs probably isn't the best way to do that!

However, if it is a control thing, and you just don't want her to go, then you may be the one who needs to work on things!

There is nothing wrong with married couples still having alone time with their friends - in fact, it is healthy. Hopefully you are spending alot of time together also.

Going out to clubs may not be the best choice of entertainment for a married woman. Guys see nothing but a drunk woman in the mood to party - the wedding band isn't even noticed! BUT - if she enjoys dancing, and you trust her to be faithful, then I think you may be making a mistake to try to force her to stop. Maybe try to compromise. I think once a month is fair - if she wants to go more, you go with her. Good luck to you!

~Drea~

Nope...there is no need for a married woman to go clubbing with her girls..unless she likes drunk men grinding against her.

sweetblueyes

if you trust her, then it should be fine. dont take that away from her.

Colleen O

It is perfectly fine for her to go out and enjoy a "girls night out" I'm sure you go out with "the guys" on occasion, Well what's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. The world doesn't revolve around your ego.

lsjcmo3

I don't see anything wrong with that. It's good that she picks a night to hang with the girls at least once a month. Unless you have something to worry about. Same as with you, You should get together with the guys and do the same. Do you feel insecure that she might find someone else or are you the type that likes to control her. Any more than once a month should be a luncheon or a movie or shopping. We all need to let go once in a while. And dancing is a good stress relief.

LIZ

a lady needs her girl nights--a time away from the husband & fam. if u trust her u shouldnt worry abt her getting into trouble. shes still young. she'll get tired of that one day, but until then jsut let her go & have fun. whenever she goes out with the girls take a couple of buddies & go out to a bar or something. have a guys night out. start a poker night or something. let her have fun.

misbotta

It's healthy to have your individuality even when your married. As long as she isn't doing it all the time. Once or twice a month isn't bad. You should have fun couples things that you enjoy doing together, but you should both have your individual activities too. If you don't like to go clubbing with out her, that is fine but find your own thing. Try finding a hobby or sport that you enjoy. You could do hiking, fishing, watching sports with friends at sports bar or friends house, bowling, baseball,etc. It is important, healthy, and even good for your relationship to enjoy separate activities and keep your individual identities.

Kort

well to her she probably just really likes to go out with the girls so that it makes her feel like she did when she was younger and single. As long as she doesnt do it all the time then you lucky because some woman are always out. If it starts to become a problem in the relationship then you should proceed to sit down and talk about it. Trust me you both need to be going out without each other at times. Once you two have kids they will not be hardly any time for that. Try going out with some of your guy friends the same night she goes out with hers. That way it is a win win situation and you can spend time with each other when she gets home.

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