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ETxYellowRose
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You are perfectly just in your suspicions. And what she did was totally wrong and uncalled for.
Any partner in a marriage has the right to expect and insist on TRUST, HONOR, TRUTH, COMMUNICATION AND COMPROMISE.
You and your spouse need to attend counseling and try to work things out. You need to find out why she feels the need to lie to you about her actions. Where the communication in your marriage broke down. Where the truth, honesty, trust, went.
If nothing else your children deserve for y'all to try counseling and try to get back on the right track.
And then if that doesn't work.........Then you do not deserve to be treated in the manner that you are.
And your children do not deserve to be in a family situation that destructive.
Do what you have to do from there. |
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Dusty Rose
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I don't think so, sounds like an affair to me, if she gave it no thought then why did she lie about it, these type of arrangements are always based around lies. |
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charles j
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When a married woman spends time with another man it will lead to the obvious. Been there. You have two choices; try counseling or bail. With four kids you have a decision to make. In my experience, once she does this it won't stop because every new man she meets will be a chance to escape her life as it is. Your cheating was wrong but I don't think that has anything to do with what is going on now. Keep your head on straight; good luck. |
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teresa d
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honey there is something going down between those 2 she's lied and lied again and wont stop confront the guy and ask him whats the deal with them she has broken the trust between you 2 if it was nothing she would of told the truth and had him drop her off in front of your house not 2 doors down and one of your nosy neighbors had to see her before and you know how they talk so your family is problem the talk of the block you need to figure out if its worth staying or not dont be a fool and have your heart broken |
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BuffyFromGP
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You're being cheated on, so I think you have the right to be very angry. |
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crystal_payten
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its wrong. what if the situation were reversed? |
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Carlyn
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Sounds like she's hiding something......why didn't she introduce you to him if she is just friends? And she lied about going out with her friends. You need to really look at the situation b/c it sounds like to me that you know that this is no good, especially for your 4 kids. 15 years is a long time but sometimes things don't work out. Are you really happy with your wife sneaking around behind your back? Good luck with this..... |
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a very happily married woman
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she is cheating on u. first off if "she gave it no thought when it happened" she wouldn't have lied to u about it. also it should have been a sign to u when she was being dropped off down the road. if her ride had been female she would have dropped her off at your door. my husband and i don't go drinking without the other cuz u never know what could happen. she could pass out and the guy rape her or she could "loosen up" while drunk and cheat. obviously she's attracted to him or she would ask u to go along. she is totally getting away with it because u are choosing to look the other way. wisen up. u are either going to have to step in and do something about it or let her do it. the choice is yours. lots of luck |
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psycho_mistress
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If she keeps doing this over and over she isnt going to leave this guy alone...ever..... |
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n_of49p
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She is playing you, I would say nothing from here, but do get a good lawyer, and start working on protecting your assets, and your kids. Sorry to hear you are goign through this. |
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Your cheating was wrong but you weren't married. She was wrong b/c you were married. She is definitely lying to you. |
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clcalifornia
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ah.........yeah, duh! She is lying to you. What sort of realtionship is that?
I just don't understand why people get married and give vows of being faithful and don't keep them. It seems like love and marriage is what so many people long for , then they get it and cheat. I just don't get it.
If she is acting like she is single......maybe it is time for her to be single. But, then you have four kids.....try gettting some counseling.
Geesh, what sort of example is this for the kids.
And you cheating once long ago has nothing to do with this. |
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katie
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yep, she's cheating |
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Setiawan S
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You need to sit down and talk it over with your wife. 4 kids need to be the consideration. She must have hiding something not to let you know her close male friends. I consider this as cheating,
Goodluck |
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jenna
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yeah you might be being played-but here's the deal-we make mistakes-as you did!!!!-we are human!!! lay it all on the table -find out what the relationship is lacking-and try and make it better- and if it doesn't work out go your separate ways-at least for your kids sake-you can say you both tried very hard- good luck |
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justthinkin
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I agree with Annie's answer. One way or another you need to work this out. She is walkin all over you. |
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black_caspa69
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dude ditch the broad u don't need tht **** from her she go out drinkin with other men she definitely cheatin lose tht ho and find ureself a real woman nother thing you can do is go out with other women tht get her attention too what ever you do she gots to go.. |
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n3rdluvr2001
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no you aren't wrong, it sounds like there is a problem with her. you have every right to feel that way. you can give a lady the world and it will never be enough. sorry about your luck pal. |
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The Cat
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YOU SHOULD ALWAY BE FAITHFUL IN ANY RELATIONSHIP |
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randrnorman
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First of all she shouldn't be no where with another man drinking or not. Because you two are married you are not suppose to do what you wouldn't want the other to do to you. Second maybe you two should start going out on dates because it sounds to me she getting bored.Good luck if it isn't to late. |
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fortyninertu
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No the least she could tell you is she is going. Talk to her seek counseling or a lawyer |
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Sammy
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WOW you have to just turn your head and walk away there is NO WAY she isnt cheating on you you have all the proof what else more would you like certainly not to cetch them in YOUR bed ..keep letting it go that far and thats whats gonna happen ! |
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an old guy
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sure...when do you wanna meet?? |
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Jayne s
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She is doing something you are right to be suspicious, Sounds as if you two need counseling,no it is never a good thing to be lied to. |
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WKDPIXY
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She doesn't respect you or the boundaries of your marriage and will only do it again as she saw nothing wrong with doing it the first time. She blatantly ignored your request not to see him again and broke her word not to without batting an eye. She'll sneak around and see him behind your back and learn more and better ways to hide her affairs from you. So what if you cheated on her before you were married...she knew that and had obviously forgiven you for it when she took those vows to love, honor, respect and keep herself only unto you!!!!! If you haven't cheated on her since you made those same vows, you owe her nothing for the mistake you made prior to marriage...don't let her use that to justify her actions. This affair she's having has been going on for a while and will not stop, if it ends with this guy- there will be another because she has already made it abundantly clear that she wants something different than what she has with you- and doesn't care whom she hurts to satisfy her wants...Don't be Cathy's Clown...Love your children and do right by them, but kick that lying w#ore to the curb. |
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kelsey
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No it is not alright. something is going on |
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tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net
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NO! |
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kal-le
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Is it legal for a married woman to have a man stay in the house with her? |
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