Is it ok to let my daughter from a previous marriage call my current husband " daddy"?

lily_florance

As long as she started doing this on her own, then yes. I have 4 boys, thought they are all grown up now, but they consider my husband (whom I have been with for 17yrs.) their father. He has been the one that has been there for them. And if your husband has been there for your daughter since she was 2 months old, then to her he is her father.

a_poor_misguided_soul

That should be up to her.

crystald

hard one. She only has one dad, but being that the step dad is taking over might be easier.

I d say in this case yes it would be allright to call him dad.
but not in every case, such as mine and my husbands, his daughter has been his daughter from day 1. hes there every weekend, holiday etc. and pays his support weekly ( then some)
he would be devistated if she called her moms boyfriend dad.

paz8162

If the biological father is still in the picture at all, probably not. However if your child is already calling her step-father "daddy" then just make sure she realizes she has two.

}}i{{fallrain

let the man thats she been call daddy be the daddy. It's your husband, he loves her like his own. Im in a similiar situation...but I'm not married, and the last time the bio has seen my son is when he was 2mons old. YOU HAVE TO EARN YOUR RIGHT TO BE MY SON'S FATHER. Sorry about all the caps but, it pisses me off. Ive talked to him (the bio, like biofreakingdegradable) and he's promised to send money..Whatever! And Ive even let my son talk to him......but I NEVER said to my son "hey, your dad is on the phone" F-that. Let the man that has been taking care of her have the glory. I have so much more to type but this is YA and I dont want to keep ya! Just remember, he has to earn is right, just like your husband did when you and him first met. But be honest with her though. I tell my son (if he asks) I dont know where he is, I dont talk to him either.
Good luck

PrincessMH

Yes it is okay. If he takes on the role of her father and has been there, then he is her father. My mom met my stepdad when I was 7. I knew my bio father but he wasn't there. I am greatful for my stepdad. I am 22 years old and have been calling him dad since I was 8. I even have a tattoo of him and my moms name. It hasn't ruined my life or anything. Naturally unless you teach her different she will call him dad.

Goodbye

Sure, just because the biological father is in the pic. The real father is the one that takes care of her and knows her grew up with her, and treats her as his own.

westfield47130

It's ok to let her if she feels comfortable calling him that...but never force a child to call anyone mom or dad. It's got nothing to do with money but has everything to do with comfort levels.

The Count

I think it's just wonderful. It is so nice to hear how your new husband obviously loves your daughter. He's the only daddy she's ever known, so , I think it's the only way to go.

alwayscurious

That's a tough call. Unless her biological father is dead, no your present husband shouldn't be called daddy or anything similar. If her real father sees her at all, she needs to know HE is her daddy, and she only has one. Teach her your husband now is her step daddy and she has two men who love her. Don't ever talk bad about a parent to a child, they never forget it. My mom did that to me. Good or Bad, he is her dad and she should know it is ok to love him. You present husband might do everything for her but he didn't father her. Tell him to be supportive and patient where the real dad is concerned. Do what is best for the child, always!

dmstanley02

Let her call him whatever she wants.

Truth Hurts

It's okay as long as you're not forcing her to do it. It should be her choice no matter how old she is.

jezyka

Honestly, I'm going to say NO.

Her BIO-father is around. Although he doesn't seem to be cream of the crop....you chose him. HE is her father, and maybe he didn't come into her life until she was 9 months old, but if you look at OTHER scum fathers who don't come into their children's lives until 20 or older....maybe you should be happy he's there at all.

Just because he isn't the greatest father, doesn't mean you should revoke his rights as her daddy!!! You didn't say how old your daughter is now.....but if you had her calling your husband daddy from 2 months old, then she ISN'T doing it by choice, but rather because that's what she's been TOLD to do!!

My fiance's ex is scum as well!! She doesn't have a job....she had one for about a week since their daughter was born. She is just a horrible person, and in my opinion a terrible romodel for anyone, even her own child. HOWEVER, my step-daughter will NOT call me mommy, because she already has one!!

I care for SD and I love her very much! Just because she doesn't call me 'mommy' doesn't mean there is no love there.

I guess it is really your call....but perhaps you should be asking her bio-father, and not a bunch of strangers on Y/A.

If it were my child, I would be uncomfortable with another person coming into his/her life and taking my title.

And like I said before.....YOU chose him, she is just product of him....you can't confuse her because of your mistake...

sexy g

yes thats ok, but does you also ask it to your current husband if its okey with him?

TrACeY T

definatley! it is ok because you have married another man and that would mean that your husband now will have the responsiblity as a dad. perfectly ok.

Rose K

I would let the child call him daddy if he is the one there for her, but I would still let her know who her real father is and let her have the choice on who she wants to call daddy, I once knew a guy who had been adoted and he told me he doesn't care who his real parents are because the ones who took care of him and love him are the only parents he wants to know. Hope I could help.

git along gal

well, absouloutly! Your wonderful husband has basically raised this girl and she has known no other daddy. Think of kids who get adopetd, they call their new parents mom and dad, it's not a biological function that gives this awsome title, but the love, the connection. I'm so happy for you that you found a loving man to help raise your dear daughter... what a creep your ex is. Can't "the law" make 'him' pay child support??

peace and blessings to you! E.

khymelove

its okay for her to call him dad

but does her father see her? if so its fine to have 2 dads and then as she gets older explain it to her....

no matter what most children will find things out from someone somehow as time goes by

my son calls my new husband dad by his own choice i got remarried when my son was 9 yrs old his bio father and i were married and he was never active in our sons life so yeah when my son talks to his bio dad he calls him dad and same for his step father he calls him dad!! my son really doesnt even see his father he has stopped calling and only ask to see him once a year! so its good for a male figure to take on the role and title!!

teri

YES..it should be up to her and him...she must be feeling very good about him and would like to have a daddy to enjoy in her life....so whats the harm...at nine months old what should she know...her father may have done the fathering, but your present husband is doing the daddying...remember flies are fathers and never daddys...
the financial facts are your business and should not be important to her...she is not calling daddy based on finances...so don' t bring finances into the human loving aspect of your daughers relationship with the person she sees as her DADDY! Other things that are true about her father are irrelevant where she is concerned.

debbie v

she absolutely can call him daddy, if her other dad didnt want to be replaced he should have stayed in her life. Plus biology doesnt make you a Dad love does and it sure seems like its obvious how much your husband does, its a good thing and your daughter deserves it

lady

Why is it we can have more than one sister, brother, aunt, uncle, grandmother, or grandfather and everyone freaks out when a child has 2 moms or 2 dads? I told my child that he/she can call his step mom "mom". I don't care. I just care that he calls. I'm not in a race. It's not disrespectful. If your daughter calls him dad, great. If she calls her biological father "dad", great, just don't let her call him "worthless *sshole" until she's an adult.

goddessoffire

Of course that's ok. He is the only actual father figure she's had in her life. So i would say u have nothing to worry about. And u should continue to allow her to do so.

Janel

Of course-he is the example of what a real dad should be.

Cheryl

Yes, by all means allow her to call him "Daddy", because he is her Daddy in all ways. The only mistake that I made was in not allowing the man to discipline my child. If he is a "Daddy" to this child, then he is a Daddy in all aspects, good and bad

joyceeleann

Well, In my case I left it up to my daughters. I never even spoke about it to my kids. It really isn't up to you. There is no harm in her calling both of them her dad. She should be so lucky to have two dads when alot of us never even had one.

Tweety

Even though your husband isn't her biological father, he is in her life, and handling the responsibilities of a daddy. I'd think it's perfectly fine for her to call your husband "daddy" if she wants.

larry B

The one that razes her is going to be her dad, so yes let her do it.

adele b

Absolutely! Regardless of the role her biological father plays in her life your husband is still her stepfather and has every right to be called Dad. And good for him, by the way!

foxwolf_000

It is very acceptable for your daughter to call your husband daddy. A child will recognize their parents as the ones most playful, caring, nurturing, and the ones most in her life, which doesn't sound like your ex.

Your daughter from instinct chose your husband and you should be proud of her choice. Later in life she can decide who she likes better, but for right now, it's your husband, her dad.

kathie

since he treats her like his own child and she seems to like want to call him daddy. it would be okay because he is the step father. for most of her life..

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