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Wendy B
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Oh, how unnatural for a Mother to want to care for her children! Give me a break. People have this hang up these days about the importance of daycare and socialization and the trauma caused by kids being home. I think they're the ones who are nuts. I think that if you're happy being a Mom and a wife and taking care of the house and you guys make it work financially, then you deserve big credit for it. It's not easy, but the rewards are priceless. I wouldn't go back to work for a million a year if it meant giving this up. I see women who work 8-5, which means the kids are likely to be in the car going to daycare by 7:30 and then picked up at 5:30. Driven home, eat dinner, read a story, and (oh!) it's time for bed. How's that being a Mom? I think your Mother-in-Law is wrong. Wanting to be a Mother is the biggest honor and most challenging job a woman can have. Have lots of fun, good luck, and ignore her. |
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Brandie H
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I am a SAHM and it is JUST FINE!!! Better for the kids if you ask me! |
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Mark S
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Summer you are the wife the mother and it is your life. Yes you should stay home because children need parents that work together and take care of them. Mom-In-Law butt out. |
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scotgirl60
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It's wonderful that you are able to do that for your children -- they will be well cared for and you will have a less hectic lifestyle.
Keep it up! |
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Inundated in SF
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It's totally up to your and your family to decide what is best. The whole thing with women's liberation was to set women free so they could determine what they wanted to do, so that decision wasn't made by someone else who isn't directly involved. If you want to stay home and be mom and homemaker and it's good with your spouse, go for it, it's a noble occupation that some of us wouldn't be able to do. After the kids grow up and are off on their own, you may want to reassess what you want to work at, it's not too late to find a job or start a business or do something completely else with your time. Freeing women did not mean forcing them to sign on with a job if they don't want to and don't need to. Love your life; love those kids. Obviously, your mother-in-law didn't get the rest of the liberation memo. |
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Ed I
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I think its top of the line that you are a stay at home mom we need more of it in this country. I think that this would be a better place if there were more stay at home moms.Mothers are the biggest part of raising a great family.Don't beat yourself up over this. your right shes wrong. thankyou 4 doing it. :) |
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I need less Cowbell!®
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Of course it's okay. I don't see why it's any of her business, if she's not paying your bills. If her son doesn't have a problem with it, she shouldn't either. |
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Julia
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Hell yes I have no children and i stay home and take care of myself. Children get the best care and love from their mother because nobody can do it better. You have a full time job running that house and tending to your children. Your mother inlaw should be happy that her grandchildren are getting the best of care and needs to shut up!! My nephew was killed by a babysitter that hit him so hard on his head that it killed him. I would stay home untill they are all in school and raise and do for your kids the way you want to and see fit. |
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karen
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WHAT???!!! This is the most important and most underpaid job in the world!! Arggggg for your MIL.
I've been extremely lucky enough to be at home for my 2 kids.
Short answer: you'll probably never change your MIL's mind - so be thankful that hubby is supportive and be done with it.
Be a stay at home mom - and a good one at that!!!! |
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Tiffany P
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I have 2 small children, and my family makes a lot of sacrifies so that I can stay at home with them. Don't get me wrong we have all the nessities and the extra junk, but we could be really comfortable if I were working now. But, it is so important for children to be raised full time by their parents. And I know lots of moms out there have to work to get the bills paid and food on the table. I applode them for doing what they have to do, and giving them the things that they have to have. But, I say if there is a way you can stay home with your kids, please do. It is important to make a bond with you kids so that they know that you are there for them and, they can talk to you, trust you, and that they are the most important things in your life. As far as your mother in law...she needs to butt out. If you and your husband have discussed this matter together and agree on a dicision. That is that! I don't understand why she wouldn't want you to be with your children (her grandchildren).
I always say when someone asks me about being a SAHM, "Nobody can love my kids like I do." |
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Wish I could be something
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I agree with wendy and I love your question. My husband is money hungry...And I have a 6 month old....We got into a fight and he said that you go to what you got do....He wanted me to work....I told his azz off. I did get a job and was worried and depressed all day. All I wanted to was see my baby, I was worried about her and feel like no one can take care of her like me. I love being SAHM...and personally think women who choose there career over taking care of there kids are less caring and loving. My opinion |
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transhealthcare
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Hi,
It is better to stay at home and look after kids if you do not have any financial problem, if your husband is earning enough. |
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ℓღviє
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She is wrong.Why have kids if your just going to leave them at sitters. |
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ugly_Girl
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Yes,
you have the right to spend time with your kids, whenever you want . i wish my mom does that, cook, and spend time. i think being a mother you can be and being there for your kids, is the best gift you ever can give to your kids, i bet they aprreciates that. D:, YOUR JUST BEING A GOOD MOTHER TO YOUR CHILD. and which is the best,
goodluck. |
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big John T
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I think this is a wonderful idea a mother who wants to be a mother how can you go wrong being a good mother and wife but rember thank your husband also some women have not the choice to stay home for example single moms so its not only a wonderful choice but wonderful to have the choice |
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Paul&Fran
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Well your mother in law is wrong... If you can afford to stay home during the pre school and elementary days your child will benefit.. For one they get a basic foundation.. Your instilling your values on a daily basis rather then a few hours in the evening instead of day care workers values.. You can always put them in daycare for one or two days a week to get the social activities down as well as giving you some time to do your thing. Once elementary starts your able to be involved pta, class room activities as well as getting them in the habit of coming home and getting there homework done as well as you helping them with the basic academics.. Once they move on in to junior high if you prefer to head back to work which by this time boredom sits in a bit.. Just using this from my experience with my ex staying home with our son. It seemed to have benefited him well.. |
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Jay
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If you and the hubby are both good with the arrangement, then there is no problem. Tell the mother in law to but out. It is better for the kids as well. |
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Don P
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of course - you should be proud to do what you do! |
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coolsam
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well yes but not all the time b/c every one needs a space. |
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♥Sweet Girl♥
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i do....i LOVE it |
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misslady81
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there's nothing wrong with it if you are happy doing this. my parents want me to go to college and work, but i plan on having kids and i won't have random people watching them. |
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Mike
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Its best for everyone. |
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Cinnamon
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Your mother in law should butt out....congratulations oh you and your husbands in making the right choice...Children grow so fast, enjoy these moments.... |
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replexgirl
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I think it is a personal choice that has to be made between every husband and wife. It doesn't involve your mother-in-law in the least. Be confident in your choice and tell her that it is no longer open for discussion. |
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onecrazykidd
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First of all, your mother in law has no place to comment on your parenting. There is absolutely nothing wrong with staying home with your children! You shouldnt feel bad about being a housewife, taking care of a family is a big responsibility and spending time with your children is wonderful. The importance of raising your children and taking care of your family outweighs the negative opinions of your mother in law |
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middle child
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I stayed home for awhile and loved it. Now they are in high school and college so I needed to do something for me. There is nothing wrong with staying home with your kids, especially if you can afford it and you enjoy it.
Your mother-in-law needs to mind her own business and keep her asinine comments to herself. I think the old lady is jealous that your home:) |
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sjbrown25@att.net
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Your MIL needs to mind her own business, keep her 2 cents to herself. She doesn't live in your household, pay your bills, put up the bs and the personalities that you have to deal with on a daily basis.
Now, you and your husband, do what you think is right for your household, the only problem I myself have is that an income needs to come in. Other than that, don't let anybody give you any guilt over what you're doing, because they need to worry about themselves and their issues.
I'm on limited income and I wish the government would give me a more realistic cost of living increase, because what I get isn't enough. I used to be a former taxpaying person, till I went disabled, back in 2000. Although you can't see my disability, it's there and I can't stand it, but I have to deal with it.
As far as I'm concerned, people who have kids, need to be realistic about raising a family, a household and the other trappings and they should ensure that the everything's okay. Don't feel bad about staying at home to raise your youngins!!! That's my take on the matter. |
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vitalina29
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Summer I would love to be you and be able to stay home and look after my son while my husband works. I guess it all depends on you, if you're happy that you get to spend that quality time with your children and have dinner ready, house clean when your husband gets home then its good to carry on doing exactly what youre doing. Some people like myself would love that opportunity to be home for our children and dont have to go to work and worry all day if your kids have been fed or have their nappies been changed. It suits some people but some go crazy if they are stuck and bored at home doing the same thing every day. Like i mentioned before, if youre happy with it, then its probably the best option for you. Also might also be good to talk to your husband about it, if youre financially sorted and your husband agrees with what you want then its the best decision for your own family. For the monster in law - tell her to get a life and remind her again its your turn now...youre a good mother and you should be proud of yourself. Take care!! |
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loves.2smile
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its the most hardest job i think. i have 3 children, am a wife, a cook the whole lot, but i also work on weekends for the extra $$$. But tell ya mother inlaw to pull her head in, your doin a great job |
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