Is it okay that my husband has an obsession with other womens bodies?

Kassanovic

sit with him ,talk to him. looking is ok, you can also tell him, that you also like looking at other male bodies. see his reaction. if he only looks, tats ok, but if he is taking any action, then i think you need to teach him a good lesson.

jERSEYgirlâ™¥

that's messed up .. tell him he better not be looking at any womans body but yours. that's so disrespectful. he needs to put these 'temptations' aside and learn how to treat a woman.

BaileyBaby

yes...thats not cool

prissy_kitty

I think you should say "bye bye"

jimi

Yep, he is a sleaze bag. Of course he likes looking at other women's bodies, but he should do it when you aren't watching and he should have enough class to not solicit on the Internet.

Kelly773

Pack the bags darlin'....

2cents

thats inappropriate... its just wrong

mx_girl86

Yuck thats just dirty. He should be giving all his attention to you and your body. I would leave him immediately. He does not appreciate you at all.
How would he feel if you joined a website and chatted with mens with their hot bodies on display?? Or put your body on a website? Its plain wrong.

Bridgettttt.

NO.
the way you used the word obsession makes it sound like he isnt fully commited to you.
you defitately need to have a talk about how it makes you feel uncomfortable and that he needs to do something about that.
he IS a guy however... hes not gonna stop looking at other women but he does need to stop obsessing. Just try to talk to him about how you feel about what he's doing.

blue

i think he doesn't respect you. his love for looking at other women's bodies' and joining several websites is his way of degrading you as a woman and as his wife. as a husband, he should love, respect and protect you. if u have children, especially girls, your husband could be looking at their bodies too. he doesn't care about your feelings. and if it stays like that, he will think you are tolerating him. leave him and give him what he deserves and earn back your self-respect.

Justin H

I don't know if you should be ready to pack up and leave, but you should be having a serious talk with your husband.

My recommendation is you let him know in no uncertain terms that you consider this to be cheating. Make sure he understands this is not a case where how you feel about what he's doing is what's important - regardless of his intentions.

While this should be common sense to him, at least you are giving him the chance to see your point of view and make a change before throwing down the gantlet and threatening to walk out.

martinlh

If he doesn't respect your feelings on the matter, then something needs to change. Desire is not wrong so long as he does not act on it. Desires can change with work. He's acting on it, which means he is being selfish and not paying enough attention to you.

You're married. His eyes should not wander. You should seek a marriage counselor. They can help you work on overcoming his obsession.

Would you have married him if every time you went on a date he flirted with other women? Would he have married you if you flirted with other men by flaunting yourself?

avavu

I wouldn't like it one bit.I mean if my husband did it,i would ask him very,very seriously to STOP.If he didn't ,i would start packing.

the Boss

That doesn't seem okay to me, but that's just my opinion.

Nirmalan

Men like to look at womens bodies and women like to show men their bodies. If your husband looks at womens bodies thats fine. If you like to show your body to men who like to look at it thats fine too. Please relax and let him enjoy yourselves without getting uptight about the way things are.

dust s

no the only one who is to be seen is you check it out before he starts checking them practically

sillerious

your whole statements is contradiction. you think he is disrespectful, crossing the line but yet he does it again and you just watch what he does? this is nonsense, you need to make up your mind.

yeahright

well maybe it is time for u to hit this nearby gym finally and stop munching those potato chips

Lil Blousou

Your hubby is doing this? He didn't give such signs before you were married? like being a looker?

Well, it wouldn't be ok to me, I would find it disrespectful and in a way, mentally cheating. Some women are ok with it as long as it doesn't cross a certain line.

You should tell him how you feel. If he's a decent man, these things should be worked out. If not, you might want to consider walking. It's still early though.

I mean, in a way, it is just a body, u r the one he is married 2. If he stopped doing romantic things or sleeping with you, I might be worried then.

thaswtessthng

It sounds like you need to work it out, somehow... Maybe was he like that before you guys got married?? If so,,,he ain't gonna change grl, but maybe,, he has gain this fascination because you probly' aren't giving him that attentin he urges for. I would try using that time he spents on the website for me & himm time. Rattle him, it'll be f u n for the both of you.

cutie. <3

Oh hell yea girl!! that just ain't right nothing is right about that i would be outta there by tomorrow he needs to love your body not noone elses!! do whats best for you and leave!!

0000

wow I would have left or AT LEAST confronted him and banned any of that nasty S.H.i.t degrading to all woman ...asdlkjasd for him to see those things WHILE he is married is SICKENING...tell him to GROW UP and stop acting like a teenage boy that can not control his D..ick. It's either or..but if you're desperate and can't stand on your own two feet he will keep on hurting you emotionally and make you feel like you are NEVER good enough for him..this is a serious issue..i hope you are not too needy that causes you not to stand up for yourself. good luck

*Honest Blunt Opinioner*

i would pack my bags and leave, he sounds like a cheater waiting to be born any second.

Dirk L

You can go two ways with this.

Do you trust him? I mean if he's not banging those skanks he meets online, then you're okay.

However, he's married, and the only womans physique he should appreciate is yours.

32 characters-now only 8

H3LL no, it's not ok!!! There are limits....I think it would be okay if a hot chick passes by and he glances once in awhile or that he has female friends that you also feel comfortable with. But to actively join websites to for encounters with other females "friends" whether just online or face-to-face, that's total disrespect to you. I would never let someone belittle my worth like that. I probably would try to have a talk with him but if it doesn't get resolved, I'd pack his bags or walk off with no regrets.

cheri

Lol if you can handle it, good luck, me - i would have been long gone if my husband deliberately look for sites to look at other woman's bodies, there is nothing wrong with looking at a good looking man or woman but this is not acceptable for me

jameslouis44

Observe his behaviour when making love with him then start packing your bags and leave. Maybe ! he's have something in his mind from there he learnt so as to share some creative ideas with you during love making. Don't act so fast and be patience and tolerate at the moment.

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