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pinniethewooh
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Walk away. Tell her to look you up when she IS able to make that promise. It's not too much to ask. |
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politicaladvisor2
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dump her and move on |
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cottagemama
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I don't think it's too much to ask. Between cheating being so mainstream and glamourized and people not holding themselves accountable for their actions, we just THINK it's too much to ask. |
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lei
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DON'T marry someone who can't promise she will not cheat! What is the point of marrying someone who can't pledge to be faithful? Isn't that the point of marriage? It sounds like you two have been dating since you were very young. Maybe she needs to sow her wild oats. Don't marry someone that you will probably divorce. |
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Wiggy
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No, it isn't too much to ask. She's not ready for a committment if she is saying that. |
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Happy- Go
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She is not ready...At least she is being honest! |
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BossLady
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I'd run like hell! She's TELLING you their is a possibility that she will cheat on you. But you have to respect and accept her honesty!! You guys did start the relationship at a young age, and probably haven't experienced a lot outside of each other~ and she's probably afraid to tell you that. |
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bluehonu13
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I was in a similar situation with my husband...he was the one who said he couldn't guarantee it. This came up shortly after we got engaged and was definitely frustrating and worrisome for me. Finally, we talked about it more and it came down to the fact that he doesn't want to guarantee the future, which he views as totally unpredictable. He'd rather not guarantee something then to compound the hurt of cheating by promising he never would and breaking that promise. If that makes any sense. He will say that he is definitely not the cheating kind and that at the present he has not intention of ever cheating...but when asked to think of 40 years down the road, he won't say one way or another. I think you have to decide for yourself if you think your partner is being honest with you and will cheat on you. Hopefully you know them well enough that you can decide. |
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Kiddo C
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Is either she's trying to face reality or she knows she might cheat on you if she's not cheating now. As long as you promise her she should be able to promise you too even if it has to do with the future. Well if after 6 years she didn't cheat then maybe she might not in the future. |
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beth l
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Uhhh...don't marry her, run away fast. If you have been together since you were 16 you need to experience other ppl anyway. In marriage not cheating is a given. It is assumed, if she can't even commit to the basic concept of marriage then she is wrong for you. |
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Bad Kitty!
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That's insane. She loves you, but can't promise not to cheat on you? You're asking for big trouble if you marry her. Her love is not the lasting kind, obviously. Most likely she can't promise to "love and cherish you as long as you both shall live," either. Not cheating is usually part of the wedding vows, anyway. This girl doesn't know the meaning of marriage. |
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wifey
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Well she is being honest. But it sounds like she has doubts whether or not she can stay faithful to you or not. |
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Loli
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Its definitely not too much to ask! If they love you they would never regret marrying you, so they wouldn't cheat. I hope I do not offend. |
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ferrell_rene
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No one can predict the future. Everyone has different morals. I personally know myself and know that I would never do that to anyone. I would avoid getting myself into situations that could cause to temptations. I think the older and more mature you get the easier it is to predict how you would act in certain situations. When you are 22 or younger it is harder to tell. It depends on the person, how they were brought up, and their views on cheating. Even then though, it is to hard to tell. Even still, if you've been with someone 6 years and you still can't tell, then there is a problem. |
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kellymax2006
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Love is great,because there is different kinds of love.But there are other things that belong to love,like trust,respect,friends,caring,sharing,hon... these things are not present in the relationship before marriage,they will not be there after marriage.We can only promise OURSELVES that we will be the best kind of person we can be,and then we will be that kind of person for the one we love.Think before you leap. |
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Janna Lynne(:
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Cheating is fun. It really is you can love 3 ppl @ the same time. and if they catch you just say "anybody want chciken on the fire?" if the say no u say "stew?" then runaway while throw ing a chiken at thier faces it will knock them out in time 2 get away. |
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jude
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what she is saying is she can't promise u she will remain loyal, so what future do u really have with her? best to save yourself the pain that could come later on, and get out of it now before u marry and have kids. |
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*Rose*xoxo
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if you wont cheat then your a good man!
i guess she belives in the saying never say never!
but hat dosent mean she wants to cheat on you!
but yeah i get you when you say that! |
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DR. Connect
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actually no it's not too much... if she really feels like she can't promise you she won't cheat... then her heart isn't totally for you.... think about it, if you love someone so much... no matter what kind of person falls in your life... you'll never be with anyone else but that one person... she probably thinks this "marriage" is a joke and thinks of it as something everyone does... i say, be carefull!! she could be a two timer... and let me tell ya, they always say the same thing "can't promise you... can only say i love you"... trust me.... i'm a Doc |
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Lov'n IT!
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No it is not too much to ask. If the person you are with cannot committ to being 100% faithful to you, then that person is not the one for you. |
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Robert W
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If she can't promise not to cheat on you, she probaby isnt worth your time. |
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Chewy
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that's bs. if you are in love w/ her and can promise her you will stay faithful and she can't then she is trash. she doesn't deserve you. |
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jyone scotani
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I love your girlfriend's honesty. She is telling you in an indirect way she does not want to promise you anything now or in the future. Move on young man - you are 22- lots of ladies out in the universe that will promise you fidelity- go seek them. Let this lady go - she does not want to settle down & is woman enough to tell you- I admire her alot for her honesty but she is not the lady for you. You do not say how old your friend is but she sounds young & not ready to commit- move on! Good luck, lots of fish in the sea- start fishing. |
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blessings2
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She is telling you she is going to cheat on you. So you either except that and move on or dump her. If you are married then you married a cheater. Any married couple knows exactley what they have before the marry. |
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♥Kristen♥
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Um yeah.If you don't want someone to cheat on you then marry a gold fish.My best friend did it and they live happily ever after!You just can't have any kids. |
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Brutally Honest
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Sorry to say, but if you two have been dating since you were both around 16, then chances are SHE is the one who might want to sow some wild oats before tying the knot.
It doesn't sound like she's ready to for ALL the serious ramifications of marriage. So if you do decide to marry and you DO find out she's been unfaithful, well, you had your warning well in advance. |
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jill_vic
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No I don't think that is too much to ask - if you get married in a Church of England, at least, one of the vows you both take is to "forsake all others" and stay faithful to each other come what may....
I know I am a fine one to talk (having rushed into a marriage that has not worked out well), but whatever your religion or lack of, you do need to be friends with one another as well as "in love", and to respect each other, as feeling in love alone is not enough to build a lifelong commitment on. Also you need to sort out whether you agree on important issues of life, as difficulties do not magically disappear once you have tied the knot, and in fact can get a lot worse!! But at least it sounds as if you are really crazy about her, and that is the main thing. |
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e_spehr_99
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You sound insecure. You don't know in certainty what the future holds. You can promise until your blue in the face that you won't cheat, but even with that you don't know the future. Instead of making her promise not to cheat - you both should make promises not to lie to each other - which I think is more important in a relationship. So the question should be: If you cheat on me - will you lie about it? |
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cassie
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well yuo are right to question it but some people dont make promises like that |
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hi!
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well if she ever wishes to cheat on you promise wont stop her.so if you can live with that... |
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