Is it too early in a relationship to be thinking about marriage (within a couple years) after only 4 months?

Carrie

I think that it is definitely possible that she is the one for you, but I would not rush into a proposal. Since you love her so much and are sure she's the one, why not wait at least until she gets back from studying abroad. It would be safer to do this, just in case. Not to sound horrible or anything, but I too have felt like you are feeling right now. I am still with my boyfriend, but we have broken up twice, and I never thought that that would happen. I know you think she is the one, but either way, I think it would be good to just give it a bit more time. It's not too early to think about marriage (why would you want to be with someone who you couldn't see yourself marrying?), but I think it's definitely wise to wait and see how things go. If you're right and she is the one, congratulations! But if it turns out that you're not sure about things after 4 months, you'll be happy you waited. Good luck!!

the helpful one

Life is short.......its up to you.

My husband fell in love with me the first time he saw me.
Been 23 years now.

tone

always ok to look to furture. thinking about and doing are two different things. if you propose in another year and then wait a few years, graduate etc.....use brith control, see where you both are in life, if you still want same things get married. Do what is right for you, do not allow others to tell you what to do...be responsible, mature and realistic....get job, plan, budget, etc. good luck

Dbldiva

No. If you are both on the same page, and both feel the same way, then go for it!

pea_nut_26

Nope, I think thats awesome.. good luck.

lisa

honestly, i don't think this is something anyone else can answer for you. it's how YOU feel. trust me, i know what it's like to only be dating someone a few months and already know that they're the one you're destined to be with. my boyfriend and i have been together only 6 months and we've been talking about marriage here in a few years as well. if you know, you know. simple as that. :)

EDIT: he didn't say he was getting married at 20, he said he was 20 now and was thinking of getting married in a few years.

dizzybee15

My parents knew each other for 3 months and got married....and they've been married for 32 years.....it happens.

loriloriloriloriv

you know, when i met my bf (hubby now) i was 20 and he was 25. we met in april and he asked me to marry him in august. we got married that next may. don't get me wrong, we've had our ups and downs, but we have more happily (than not) for 15 1/2 years. i think you need to go with your heart!

Question101

i think its good. I'd just make sure its more than infatuation. The four month break should be good and marriage is good so no ur not a head of yourselves. good luck

Jeetendra R

Go for it..........you seldom come across a person you love. The earlier you meet the longer time you have got time to spend with them. Life is short each day you spend with your loved one is memorable....treasure it. That's the pension for your later life.
Always Remember There is a woman behind a successful man whom he loves.

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No there is nothing wrong with having something to look forward to i have been with my hubby 10 years now 8 years married and i love every bit of it and we were friends before we became loves then we got married.

Ugly Angel

Well, my aunt married her husband after knowing him for a week and a half, and they've been happily married for 22 years and counting, so I say it really depends on the people. But just talking about marriage? As long as you're not freaking her out by talking about marriage, it's definitely fine to just talk about it lol.

Tor Life

Nope, it is a great time to think about marriage. I was 23 and my wife was 21, and sure people freak out that you're too young but hey they really have no good reason for you not to get married besides the fact that they want to relive their youth through you. To those that get married at 30+, I think that is sad. You gave up 5-10 years that could have been spent together with the one you love. You should be courting to be married, why would you just waste your years away with someone that isn't marriage material. If you are thinking about marriage at 4 months that's great. If you spend all your time with this person, and I mean ALLOT of time, then propose and get things solidified for marriage. I've been happily married for 8 years come this August and my wife and I courted, dated, engaged and married all within 6 months. Granted we spent almost every waking hour with each other and we both shared the same faith/religion (<-- that is very important, if you're mixed faiths that is a huge obstacle that will need to be tackled all throughout marriage even more so when you have kids. Infact I would not recommend marrying outside your faith, it is just going to be such a hard thing to deal with and I would break any relationship off in the case you couldn't share the same basic principles of faith eligion).

My parents were dating for 3 months until my dad proposed to my mom and they've been happily married for 30 years now.

Basically you better know that person in and out and the only way you're going to know them that way is spend all the time you can with them so you can see how their personality is in all sorts of situations (good and bad) and then you'll know if it is something you can live with.

And yeah, get your finances straight that is important of course. I was still in school when we got married and we pulled it off, it was hard work but it can be done.

Growl

Think about it - Yes.
Commit absolutely to it now - Best to wait awhile.

Joshua C

no

I knew after 8 weeks that I would marry my girlfriend. It freaked me out so I tried to break up with her. I was only 18!

She would not conceede to the break up! (whatever... women!) a year later we were married.

that was 12 years ago!

peace out!

LizzleXD

I think you're fine as far as thinking about marrying her, but it might be too soon. I agree with the person above me, be patient. You need to find out if she is really the one you are suppose to marry. You will find out that even though you both are very similar, no matter what, there will still be differences between the two of you, and this may cause argument, but that doesn't mean you can't still love each other and work through things. I think you might want to come off of cloud nine first and then think about getting married. The relationship and preparing for a wedding take a lot of hard work and it will be worth it, if you work through things.

â™¥ Amy-Babe â™¥

I think its great and not to soon.
But if your girlfriend is going to be away to study for 4 months I don't think you should make such a big commitment till she gets back. Although life is too short to waste.
Basically if your 100% sure its what you want then go for it.
Good luck =] x

meagan k

Honestly, time isn't really even a factor anymore. so many people think that the longer they're together before marriage the longer their marriage will last and that's not at all true. i know people that were together for like 4 years and then married and they got divorced within a year or so but i also know of someone that was only together 6 months before marriage and they've been together for many years! so it all depends on how true your love is for that person and trust and honesty. a relationship can not last without trust or honesty! so if you and your girl truly trust each other and are 100% committed to one another than that's all that matters!

kldded

Congratulations on finding such a great other half! I don't think it is too early to start THINKING about these things. As long as you are just thinking and not acting I think it is fine. I have had an awesome relationship with my husband since we went on our first date 8 years and 3 months ago! We only got engaged and married in 2006! We dated, then lived together and then got engaged and married. Getting married was really just finalizing our relationship together. For years we lived together and worked, went out and paid bills the same way we do now. Only my last name has changed! It took us a long time to take the final step because we only wanted to do it once! I think once you finish college the first step should be moving in together before getting married. Even get engaged, just don't tie the knot officially until you know, know, know it is going to work! Things are very different when you actually move in together! A LOT of adjusting! Good luck!

Matron Mama D

Ask her if she still feels the same after she studies abroad. She will be away from you and around lots of other hot foreign men while she is gone. Men love a girl with a different accent. If she still feels the same way when she gets back, go for it. I would wait until then tho. You don't want to spend all that money on a ring and them it fall through. Good luck!

jessies_song

theres nothing wrong with feeling this way, especailly since you dont plan on proposing for another year. If your still together a year from now, go for it! If you cant wait that long to propose do it when you feel you are ready. Just have a long engagement. Also you might want to try living with her first before you two do get married. You wanna make sure the two of you can live together and deal with eachother's habits. I wish you the best and Good luck.

Sugar Plum

No I don't think it is too early. There really is no equation to love. It is different for everyone. Personally, I think my boyfriend and I started talking about it after about 6 months. We can't really do anything because we work together. He is trying to get a new job (tough job market right now) and once he does then we will get married. If you feel that you are making the right decision, I don't think it is too early. Maybe talk to your parents about it, too.

Jamie

Not at all! This is what happened with my fiance and I. We just KNEW. I couldn't have found someone more perfect for me.

Its not like you're getting married tomorrow.

Candi D

it's never too early to think about it but regardless of how soon you want to do it I would not ask untill you've been together atleast 1-1/2 years and atleast live together for 6 months so you can see how it's like to be around someone like that all the time and wake up with the same person everymorning. It realy is a lot eaisier and fun to just be with some one you love then to be married to some one It takes alot out of your relationship when your married you gain alot but you also loose alot so give it plenty of time and a long engagement.

Anindya B

it is never early to marry..once you get to know a few basic tings about your partner...the romantic fervour doesnot lst for long until and unless it is built on the solid pltform of mutual trust and respect. get to know what kind of person your partner is ...try to find out more about how she talks and deals with other people...one of the best ways to find out is how does she spend her time... life is a tough journey you would need someone strong by your side...not someone who would increase your problems when you go through a hard time...also find out whether your outlook and values are matching with hers...wish u all the best brother..may god bless you

RhiaB

You are way ahead of yourself. Please wait. I got married at 25 to a man that I met at college when we were 19. It was a huge mistake to get married at 25, let alone earlier. I thought we were mature, but it didn't work out for so many reasons that we hadn't even thought about. People change so much in their 20's, I just don't think it's a good idea to even think about this right now.

Pour Some Sugar On MEG

You are kind of jumping the gun. It takes time to really learn how to live with and love another person. And if you really want the best for both of you, you'll be less pressuring and choose to go slow. You have a good chance, so give it time for love to blossom. Spending lots of time together is a great thing. When she goes abroad, that'll be a test, to see how you deal with the long-distance equation. When she comes back, you may find out that the distance brought you closer. Just wait and think of what's best for both of you. Marriage is a big decision. Lots of people marry quickly only to divorce. Just focus on how happy you two are together now.

La La La, Elmo's World Keheh

I think you guys moving too fast. Go for another 6 months to a few more years and see what happens. Patience is a virtue.

electrical2601

I would get engaged but I would wait about two years before Marrying. It would be good to try to live together for a while and see how you guys get a long.

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