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floridaman39us
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I ain't no blabber mouth. |
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A Large Mammal
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Do you have a sister? |
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daydreamer_75253
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Damn I wish I had you as my wife honey. I am proud of you keep it up. |
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Bob B ©
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Your friends will criticize your relationship, even as they are going through divorce! Do what works for your household, and ignore their rantings. |
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candymom419
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Right now, i would be extremely happy to pass that torch to my husband. Im so mad at him right now.
I JUST told him he needs to man up and stop letting a chic give him orders.
Im freakin tired! His turn! |
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♥☆Mrs. Rose☆♥
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I feel the same way. I like my husband being in charge. I guess I'm a lil old fashion. My husband is leaving in 8 days for boot camp and he won't be around to take care of me so I have to figure everything out for myself. lol. |
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Bobbie
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The test of this will be to see whose marriage lasts - yours or your bigmouth friends'. Your husband will not feel emasculated by you. Can your friends' say the same? |
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Mr. Taco
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Four things:
1. If your husband is not abusive and respects you, then why not?
2. If YOU are happy, then why not?
3. BUT- be careful. Submission has a habit of morphing into complacency and a loss of self-identity and esteem. You will also be teaching your children to be submissive, which can cause them serious problems as adults. What happens if they are not as fortunate to have a non-abusive spouse? Abusers intentionally and effectively seek out people who are submissive so that they can control them. So I hope you don't have a lot of daughters, because you could easily be setting them up to be victims.
4. I'd also be careful about feeling sorry for the hubbies of these other women. I, for one, would not want my wife to be submissive in a million years. Life is MUCH easier for MOST people when there is give-and-take, equality, and shared responsibility. What works for you simply doesn't work for most people.
Other than that, good for you! Different strokes for different folks!
Good luck! |
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Forlorn Hope-only 5 suspensions
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if you want to be submissive and you find a guy who is into that, then good for you... :D |
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Missy
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Marriage only works if both Man and Wife are happy. If this works well for both of you then it doesn't matter what ANYONE else thinks. |
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ridingnchicago
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I'm all for equaltiy and equal rights and don't think any women should be bossed around but I agree with you. If a burgler breaks into the house who's going to be the one to go fight him....the man of course. So why is it so bad that the man is the head of the household, the protector, the one to make the women feel safe, etc. |
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mrs
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whatever works for each couple. women are empowered these days, and some take it to the extreme and make other women look bad. don't compare yourself to others. if you friends give you crap for living this way, calmly say, "i dont' criticize you for the way you live; so don't criticize me". if they don't let it go, they're not your friends. |
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ezekiel's mom
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Wow, now that type of relationship is healthy. I would like that. As stated, the man is the HEAD of the household, however, he's only the head with the woman as the body to support him. But many men fail to be the head cause they don't want to be responsible nor act like a grown up and want to be babied. Nor do they have the courage to stand up and protect the one they love and make her feel safe. |
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Kevin R
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Weak men .
The world is raising a bunch of Woosy's . Politically correct spineless
Woosy's !!
So, the Women are taking the role of the man . |
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lilladyt34
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okay june clever whatever you have issues i can't see myself having gender specific roles other than giving birth you like a controlling man take my husband i work full time have two kids and manage the finances and make sure everything gets paid on time all my husband has to do is watch the baby while i work eat dinner do some light house work and lay back while i get mine i can't see the submissive role unless we are getting busy your friends have a point you don't have to be a big mouth woman to have a equal household control me don't think so that is what the dog is for a man now a days has to come to reality that the woman is the queen of the castle and without her reign he does not stand a chance to run the kingdom women are equal in every right in their homes after all i do all the laundry because i don't want pink socks and cook because he can't that is about as gender specific as it gets in this house! |
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bayou_babe1111
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if that works for you, that is wonderful. but everyone is not the same! it takes all kinds to make the world go around! |
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Scott D
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Your personality is your own and no one should question you on that. If you want to act that way towards your husband, that's your choice. Your friends have no right to judge you and say that you are wrong. If you do this and you're happy, then there's the answer. In most cases, if a man says that the woman is the submissive and "that's how it should be", you can call that being male-chauvinistic. In this case, your friends are being female-chauvinistic. They just need to leave you alone and accept the fact that you chose this and you're happy with it. |
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~Smoochies~
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Whatever floats your boat. My husband and I act as partners, my sister and her soon to be ex husband acted more like your relationship. Some men need more direction and some women like more direction as in your case. Nothing wrong with this at all, it is just hard for your friends to understand how you can be happy with a man "bossing" you around. I never could understand why my sister was alright with it, but we are two different people. Don't worry about what other people think, do what is right for you. |
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Jay Seven
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if that works for you then great
it doesn't matter what others think, he treats you good, and puts your needs first
that is wonderful
plus it's always good to know that if fall down he will be there to pick you up |
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prankishmelody
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If you are both happy with the way your relationship works who cares what ;other people think? Being a submissive woman is not necessarily a bad thing as long as that is the role you enjoy being in. |
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jdm7194
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If this is a real question, I don't think it's wrong either way. It almost sounds like you are passing judgment on them like they are you. It's not wrong to be submissive or to act as partners. If that's what gets you revved up, then who are we to tell you that you're wrong? If he takes to to the top of space mountain by dominating you, good for you! |
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Sunshine Hell
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in marriage its not about control and never should it be. its about working together. Meeting eachother half way. yeah, i agree not to belittle him and vise versa but, hey if you have to stick up for yourself by being a big mouth then please do! no one should have to put up with any man or womens crap. |
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oleg212
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Yes I wouldn't want my wife to be in control of me either but now days women have more rights i.e pressing rape charges just for money and a lot of guys are just afraid of that. |
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Kitty K
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There is nothing wrong with this. I think some women would like to be submissive, but they don't know how and they pick weak guys to be submissive to.
A strong, Godly, loving, self assurded man.....now THAT's a man to submit to!
I would love to submit to my husband...but I have too many years of 'independence' training to do it. It's really hard for me and I know we would be happier if I did.
Now I'm sad. *sigh* |
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Marra's mommy
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Your marriage is your business, and as long as you're happy with your home life, than it should not be an issue for your friends to even discuss. In my home my husband and I are equals and split everything down the middle like chores. We very rarely argue and we try to always talk things out. We have plenty of couple friends where the wives are very loud and demanding and it always makes us happy for how our relationship is. So if you're happy, why should it ever be a problem, as long as your hubby is treating you properly and with respect. |
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Nena
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I think you should do whatever makes you happy. I mean, who cares what your friends do in their relationships as long as what you're doing is working for you and makes your marriage happy. Now just because you play your role as a wife doesn't mean you're gonna take crap from him (which doesn't sounds like you do anyway) but that might be what your friends are thinking. Again, I say do whatever makes you happy!! :) |
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mangachick
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What ever your friends think on your relationship it doesn't matter. Women are equal to men nowadays if that's the way you WANT to live then what's so wrong with it. I know that I prefer it when the man is a little bitcontrollingg. 'cause it makes me feel more secure, ya know? I'm also a bit dim at times so if I didn't have someone I trust tell me what to do...well, i'd be lost |
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â„¢ Mogul SUpreme â„¢
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Here is the problem with the word submissive that people misunderstand lol
It dont mean push over lol
it also states a husband should love his wife
but it clearly states wives to respect the husband
It is ok for the wife to make choices too but the major ones you both need to agree on.
read this
Genesis 16:3
Genesis 25:21
Genesis 25:22-23
Rebekah in the bible was push in her older age
Rachel begged her husband for a child
Jacob listened to his wife. Just like Isaac. Just like Abraham. Three generations of strong-willed wives and soft-hearted husbands, without a lesson learned.
Well, one lesson, perhaps, that rings through the ages: Only a loving God could use such imperfect couples to accomplish his perfect will. Knowing God loved, blessed, and used this flawed patriarchal family, we can be sure there's hope for us all.
Even as we seek to honor the Lord in our marriages, to submit to each other in love, to resist the urge to push or rollover, we can rest in knowing God's well of patience is deep, his grace is abundant, and his faithfulness knows no bounds.
So does it really matter lol? |
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Nigel
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It all depends on your upbringing, and if you and your husband are happy this way, then there is nothing wrong with it. Not all women want to be empowered and dominating. |
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kim h
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It is not wrong if it is what you want and what he wants. It does not make the marriage of your friends and worse. Being submissive and being controlled by a man is not for a lot of us. Your married friends might think that it is bad because they were probably taught to think for themselves, to take care of themselves and that marriage is a partnership. |
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