Is it wrong that I prefer my toys to my husband?

unicarel

Maybe you should try telling him in a subtle way. Try using toys with him as well, or suggest you two spice things up... maybe you just need to be the first to make a move.

erindrozda

maybe you could incorporate the toys into your lovemakingt with your husband

whattheflp

You should tell him, or go to couples counseling. If you leave this under the surface for too long, eventually it will come up and it will be a worse situation by that point.

Yahoo Answerer

Try using the toys WITH your hubby....that is the funnest way, that way he is involved with it and does not take it personally!

dianesomeone

why don't you play with your toys with him....use them as foreplay then play with your husband....we do that and my husband really enjoys watching....and participating....try it...

Tangerine K

It's okay sometimes, however, in the long run, you guys are going to have to correct this problem.

BarbieQ

I don't think you're the only one.

Shell Bullet

ehh hint to him if u cant straight out tell him

but if doest get it then sure use ur toys because then u wont fell guilty

Why not me

Why not try using your toys with him

momonster

My husband loves it when I reach for my toy. He doesn't care how I get off as long as I do with him. Your husband should take an interest in your satisfaction and enjoy seeing you in pleasure. Communication seems to be lacking between the two of you. This is the real issue. Never feel guilty about taking care of your self. He should want to learn how to best please you.

maybe he would like them if you didn't go behind his back to use them, bring them into the bedroom with you

jokersmile

You shuold have a conversation with your husband...and also I think that since you haven't spoken to him about your satisfaction...you just use the toys to feel better...what are you waiting for?Everytime you use the toys you feel even more into it...and things just become worse with your husband!Talk with your husband and if he agrees...start using the toys with him...let him do it for you...gradually you'll have no need for them!That sounds exciting!Come on...dialogue is essential, otherwise you'll never feel really satisfied...even with the toys!

Bill I

Find a balance. The toys are making him feel insecure about his manhood. Get him used to the idea of incorperating the toys with your lovemaking. That way he will feel more responsible for you orgasms.

earthstarlatin

No, there is nothing wrong with it but I think you should communicate this to your husband, maybe the two of you can combine the two things or he can try something different, to be able to get the job done. After all, that type of play can prove to be advantageous for both of you and lots of fun. I would rather get off with my husband but if I couldn't, I would try to include him. Don't let something like this drive a wedge in your relationship...because it can and it has happened to many people.

mj_jll

i love my toys too, but i enjoy my husband more. it's a shame that he would just get up and leave the room, but i don't blame you for getting your turn in when he leaves. to me that's his problem that he's missing out on that

robert4357

I think it's hot when women use toys, and especially hot when they are secure enough to use them alone, of course I have somewhat of a fetish for this. The fact that you use them after he leaves is very hott

ndngrlz

Maybe you oughta speak up, and tell your husband what will get you off, and what he needs to do to you to get there. Toys are fun, but you have a real live breathing companion for life leaving the room? It's time for class to be in session...and your husband is the prize pupil!!

Minerva

well I don't think it is wrong, my bf likes to use those on me, but you should include him so both can enjoy them, if he does not do enough to get U satisfied well he can help U to play around w/ your toys so he can enjoy to see U getting satisfaction, those things excite them too. Be honest 'cause if he finds out about it he would get mad @ you for not telling tem how U feel. U guys should go together to a store and buy something for both.....

good luck and enjoy your husband but let him know U better and teach him how to give U satisfaction

D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F.

Why don't you try talking to him and showing him what it would take to get you off? Or, let him use the toys on you? It's not wrong, IMO, to use your toys on yourself but it seems you're feeling a bit guilty about it. I say include your hubby if you can.

Taylor R

Have you ever thought of having him use the toys on you until you're close and then have him finish?

That way you're both into it together until THE END. I'm sure he would enjoy using your toys on you.

smeezleme

I think it's a pschological thing at this point. Do you play with your toys alot and imagine that "if this only your husband"-- don't close yourself off to husband--his warmth and gentleness are your security--your toys don't give you those things.

pattijohughes

My first thought that came to mind - is lack of sharing your true feeling's, and something is causing you to hold back - Another thought is maybe he already knows - You just don't think he does - Girl - I feel like I need to whisper !!- and, this secret your hiding - might put a wedge, Where a wedge doesn't need to be , if you'll maybe share - your toy's as an idea - for the both of you to try together - You both might find it to be pleasurable make a light game of it -- it sound's like you have a good imagination - Have Fun with it -- Pattijo

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