Is it wrong to argue with my mom?

Bonnie

`You are not being disrespectful to your mom. You should hear how some teenagers around here talk to their moms. This wasn't a trivial matter. She should be overjoyed that you are trying to better yourself by getting a good education, despite how she feels about your husband.This is a very serious matter.You could take her to court because she made a verbal promise to you about the money. I don't know how you would feel about doing that to your mom. I wouldn't have a problem, lol. I hope you do find a way to go to college. Good luck and. don't feel bad about taking up for what is right, no matter who it is.

ouragon

Wow. She took your money and attacked you when you asked for it back. She's the one who's disrespectful.

tarynfawn

You are both adults right. You asking for money back that you lent out of the goodness of your heart is completely acceptable. She is in the wrong if anything and should be so lucky that you were able to lend her money to begin with and should be ashamed of herself for comparing her situation of waiting for 20 years for education to you, she should be encouraging you and want better for her child rather than being jealous of the fact that your aer bettering yourself with pursuing higher education.

You are not wrong she is and for the future advice I wouldn't lend her money again. Good luck

Kimberly S

I would be mad to but i would just ignore what your mom says because it will just get you more upset. If you need the money save it or have your husband help you that way you don't have to deal with your mom. It sounds like to me your mom just wants to control your life but she just needs to let you go and the way to help her do that is take care of things yourself instead of relying on your parents so i hope that helps and if you need more advice my email is kimberlytsharp@yahoo.com if your mom does not pay you back at all then let it go and dont lend her money the next time

GoldenRing

You are as important, if not more, than the bills. Bills are not written in stone, and your mother knew in advance that you would want that money back by a certain date, so it's not like she didn't know. I set both of them down, mom and dad, and tell them that you need the money back! You are sorry they are still having problems, but you need to pay your tuition or whatever. They can pawn something, sell something on eBay or whatever, but you need the money back and she is being irresponsible! They are not setting a very good example. Sorry if they don't like hubby, but that's not there business...they don't have to live with him, you do. I have children and grand children, and If I ever borrowed money from them, I would be sure and pay it back early if not on time.

cippylou

You have every right to be angry with your mom. She knew the situation when you gave her the money and that she doesn't care that she's costing you your education should speak volumes to you. I had to learn the hard way that you shouldn't ever lend money you can't live without.

It shouldn't matter if she likes your husband or not - the money came from you and she was in agreement to pay it back by the time frame given. You're mom needs to make a choice. Either pay you back like she promised or it will put a nasty stain on your relationship.

*havin fun in the sun*

wow you have some mother. it sounds like she doesn't like anyone, let alone your husband. well it's a lesson learned, don't borrow any more money to mom

The difference

Your additional detail kinda kicks you in the nuts huh? Shes harboring bad feelings towards you because you're all grown up now and doing things YOUR way. Parents don't necessarily accept that in their kids and YOU sweetie will forever been seen as her kid. She loves you but parents find it hard to let go, especially to the hand of someone they disapprove of. yes you had rights to argue with her but shes hitting you with the disrespect she feels you gave her by being with this man. Doesn't seem to be that you've been married very long. Shes gonna be hurt for awhile but nonetheless, you should do alot to show her that you do respect her. Your choice to marry was something you really believed in. Word of advice: protect your husband because she will do alot to be the mother-in-law from hell to him if not throw underhanded punches at you like this situation. I might also suggest a sit down with your mom and you dad about this. No arguing!

Coryy

No not at all, why you apologized is beyond me. You did her favor and gave a reasonable amount of time for her to pay you back, just because your her daughter doesn't give her permission to treat you like crap and screw you over.. it should actually be the complete opposite since your her daughter, and it was for school! what kind of parent screws their kid out of going to school, im sorry this happened and im sorry your mom is an evil person. My mom is the same way to some degree.

Marie-Bri

hell no its not wrong we have the right to say what we think to our mom but with out being rude because its not OK to be impolite

Cedrick

You have a very good reason be be upset, because they should pay you back and you gave them about 3 months to pay you back. It is wrong for them not to pay you back yet or at least work out a payment plan with you if they can't pay back the whole sum. Try to just talk to them, maybe your father if you get along with him better to work on a payment plan to pay you back, so you are not just hanging in the wind waiting. But did you tell them you needed the money back for you college before you gave them the money? Also did you give them a date you need the money back before you did this? If worst come to worst, you will know what to do next time they ask for money from you, proceed with caution. I hope this helps you out

Amber S

This is me...........i lived in Cali for a mun dont play about the money............dont be mad dont even say anything.........but next time ask for some **** say NO............forget her if she cant pay you back she dont need to borrow money...........dont look forward to get that money back..but just think when you get out of collage gettin all da paper dont give ****..............thats just me.....do what you plz but be smart.........its normal to argue wit ya moms

â™¥The Mrs.â™¥

Well you shouldn't be living with your mother if you are married.

I don't think arguments are bad as long as they are done respectfully, and they easily can be. There is controversy and disagreement in all relationships. Knowing how to handle it is the key.

Children probably did not argue as much with their parents in her day, but parents also did not barrow money from their children...especially when they are making good money like your mother.

I think you should agree on a reasonable new date of when the money should be repaid and ask her that she stick to it.

Hani

Perhaps she has problems raising the money to pay you back. Give her some time.
You don't live with her, you don't know her problems. She doesn't like your husband, but she is still your mother and of course your husbands mother-in-law.
Don't let such issues get in the way.

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