Is it wrong to ask for engagement ring back if it is part of a set?

lifesajoy

I believe that if she dumped you - she should return it - but if you dumped her - it's hers to keep. Something about it being a contract and depending on who broke the contract. Sounds like she can keep it if you dumped her.

jewel

i think you should get a new girlfriend ,just my opinion

fucose_man

It is an engagement ring. If you are no longer engaged, she should return it to you. End of story.

For those of you who cite court rulings or say it is "a gift" - an engagement ring is an exception to the rule. It is a gift given as part of a contract of marriage. If the contract is broken, the deal is off and the ring should be returned. If you gave someone an expensive wedding gift, and they didn't get married after all, would you want it back? What about a birthday gift, but it wasn't actually their birthday?

theizzardking

screw her get it back man how much did you pay for that?
she doesnt want to marry you dude bottom line your a great boyfreind and i love you but im not going to marry you is excatly what she told you so by that line of logic you have count on she'll never marry you you would be better off getting the ring back and
cahsn it in and having a good time with the money ,
and memory of what? nothing happened? you didnt get married ?
there's nothing to remember.....hey honey remeber that time you asked me to marry you and i said yes then changed my mind oooohh that was sooo special , really she just wants it becuase its sparkley and worth money dump that cow and find a woman who is actaully worth the ring you put on her finger

Poppet

She should give the ring back.

the_hedda_lettuce

Have I yet to see a case on Judge Judy where the girl was allowed to keep the ring, unless she bought it or he owed her a substantial amount of money.

You bought the ring and legally it's yours.

Jacuzzi Lover

WTH. She should give it back especially since she is not 100% sure that she wants to be with you.

kja63

If you gave your gf an engagement ring and she accepted it with the intention of marrying you, and then the relationship fell apart, the ring is hers to do with as she pleases.

If she accepted the engagement ring under false pretenses, then you have a right to ask for its return. But don't count on getting it back since YOU broke up with HER.

As for her wanting a new engagement ring if you decide, again, to get married....... I would say this speaks volumes about the girl you are dating, again. I suggest you think VERY carefully about this relationship.

pooh

she should give it back to you especially if it a family airlume. and she also wants a differnt one.

*Just Married*

Ask for it back. She should have returned it to you when the engagement was called off.

The engagement ring is a symbol of the upcoming marriage... since there is not an upcoming wedding and ya'll will not be getting married she should give it back.

mmw

f#ck that get it back...
it is yours. if she wants another ring down the road then you can sell that one and get a new one. man i would take it back.

Bill

Okay, let's see.

If you dumped her, I think it's morally hers free and clear.
If she dumped you, I think she should give it back.

No, it's not wrong to ask for it back. You can ask for whatever you want. She can say no.

I think it's really, truly moneygrubby of her EITHER way to say "I'm keeping this one and if you want a do-over, propose with a new ring."

I think you were right with your first instincts. I'd bail again and STAY bailed. This chick is only going to be trouble.

JRS

She's wrong ... she should give the ring back ... period ... girls are so selfish sometimes ... " memories " ... that sh*t is in your mind ... not on your finger ... she can't even wear it on the same finger anyways ... I swear some women ... lol ... tell her if she doesn't give it back - you'll take her to small claims court and win it back ... or tell her you can trade that one in for a bigger and better one in the future if things work out between the two of you ... good luck with whatever happens ... !

Robert P

the engagement is off it is her duty to give it back!...or you can be a FOOL and buy her another and another and another.......

mike_alegend

No She is scamming you. Is it worth more than 50 bucks well what ever the price that is her price. If you know what I mean.

skcs69

If you proposed on a holiday b-day it is a gift, otherwise she should return it.

Jan C

When an engaged couple split, it is customary for the ring to be returned to the guy. She, of course doesn't have to give it back, but it would be the courteous thing to do. I would have no reservations about asking. Good luck.

What?! That's crazy. She should give the ring back.

CANDY

well it is hers but, dont ask her agin! if she wants a diferent 1 shes just being greety, i say tell her she can keep it but dont xspect u to ask her agin, to get married!
what she is trying to do is get u for it then leave agin, cuz if u ever go to court all the juges will say the same thing u gave it to her its hers and thats ****** up to do to a person, it sounds like she might do that to u, i no i seen a lot of other girls do that to alot of my friends, so dont do it agin

merrpet

she just wants you to spend even more money on another ring... the original ring should be the one she keeps should you get engaged again, and yes, you can ask for it back, you bought it it is your property

female

I don't think its wrong..especially if its a set.. If it was me I would give back the ring anyhow if I didn't want the same ring back later.
I have seen it both ways.. Some guys ask for the ring back, and some guys let the girls keep the ring.. Your choice... Have you explained that its a set? she should understand.. Sounds funny though.. she wants the ring for the memory? But she doesn't want the same ring at a later time.. Is she now, wearing the ring? If not, why sit and collect dust? Why doesn't she want the same ring at a later time? bad memories? It doesn't make sense to me.. Do you know for sure she still has the ring?

precious_52803

for one thing being the rings were a set she should have given everything back upon your break-up. she is in no position to say if we are together to ask her to marry you with the same ring being she made also a statement to you she isn't sure she even wants you 100% in the future let alone still wants to be with you period. she needs to give the engagment ring back

Lydia

She MUST give you the ring back. It was not a gift in the regular sense, but rather a symbol of a promise. If you are not engaged, get the ring back. There is precedent for this in the courts.

Pc Man

The engagement ring is a promissory gesture indicating that you will marry the woman. The whole premise is that if for some reason you should change your mind that she would be properly compensated for the time she spent reserved for you. However, should she be the one that conducted herself in a manner that did not indicate that she was spoken for, she should give the ring back. In any case, if she isn't 100% sure I think you are both just wasting your time. You're both just using each other as rebound partners from the hurt that the breakup caused. Just a matter of time before one of you starts looking elsewhere for that someone and the next breakup will be devastating for one of you.

Wifey06242005

It's wrong for you to ask for the ring back. It was a gift that you gave to her, and you don't have the right to ask for it. But, she has no right to ask for another ring. She sounds like she is just trying to take advantage of you being nice. She might even get the new ring from you then leave you since she did say that she is not sure about you guys future together. Watch out for gold diggers.

Babydoll

She sounds like a selfish ******. It is YOUR ring. She wants to keep it, for "memory"? Doesnt sound like the engagement was that memorable, if it didnt last. Shes being selfish about it. What did you spend, like 3, 4, 5 thousand bucks on the ring? And if all works out, youll have to dish out another 5 grand because she wants a different ring to add to her collection of memories? Get that ring back. And tell her shes being a douche.

free_angel

Let her keep the ring and end this relationship. At this rate, you'll be buying her more than one engagment ring.

Jacob's Mommy (Plus One)

Depending on what state you live in the ring should legally be returned to you.

If you want to be with her you're probably fighting a losing battle...she's going to be very upset with you and it could cause a HUGE fight between the two of you.

Common Sense

No, she should give the ring/rings back to you ...

DeadHelen

Traditionally, if the man breaks it off, she keeps the ring. If she breaks it off, she gives it back. Since you are no loner engaged, the ring is hers.

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