Is it wrong to love, really love, and have a relationship with have married man, for over a year?

uncle frosty

You should marry him so he can get a new mistriss

Bryan M

YES, it's VERY wrong, because he's not married to you. He's married to another woman, and if he's cheating on her by being with you, he's living a lie. Leave him alone. He should be focusing on his family, and not another woman who he's not married to. He's being very selfish and thinking about his own needs, instead of thinking of his wife and her feelings, and needs.

ca belle

it's wrong. while i agree it hurts the wife, at the end of the day you are not committed to her, the husband is so he's the bad guy with respect to the wife. now, as for you, you deserve more than to be 2nd best. you need a man that puts you first; that wants to marry you, not keep you as the secret other woman.

Katsika

My plain out answer is yes. This guy is taking you on a ride. For some reason or another he ha still not seperate with his wife. Think about that one. Don't let him take you on a wild goose chase. The love part, well i can't blame you, you can't help who you all in love with. But i am 100% against being with a married man. Sorry. You should think about the wife involved , put yourself in her position.

blackqueen

if you have to ask, you know it's wrong

Momma

Its wrong for any amount of time. Think of this. If he's cheating on her with you and then leaves her for you, whats to keep him from doing the same to you??
Once a cheater, always a cheater.

EL MOREÃ‘O

if you ask may be you know it's wrong

suerte byebyebyebye

perdon pero no se mucho ingles

xovenusxo

How would you feel if you were married and someone was screwing your husband? Does that answer your question?

1973kimberly

Yes it's wrong to love, really love a married man. How would you feel if you were the wife who loved, really loved her husband but he was boinking somebody else. Honey it's been over a year. If he loved, really loved you, he would have left her already
Don't tell me or yourself that it's the kids or finances or anything. I was there. Married at 19 and I fell in love with someone else. I LEFT!!!! no questions, no regrets. Now 13 years later, I'm still with the man i left my first husband for because it was real love.
You need to let him go be with his wife and find someone else on the side to get his jollies off.

Angela

Are you kidding? He is married to another woman!! Yes it is wrong. If he is cheating on her, he will cheat on you, too.

Smart Warrior

Although your question is not clear, but I think I got your point..
well, sure it is wrong, because true love doesn't tolerate playing arround! it is either you are comitted or not.

SubJ

It is certainly wrong. Even otherwise, if he can cheat one, he can cheat all other women in the world and u wud be no exception. Wud u like ur husband cheating on u in the same way?

ghetto fabolous

YESSS!!!

justadream

if you have to ask then it's wrong, if there's doubt that you feel then it isn't right. he made a commitment to another women, and that's not you. How would you feel if you were in her shoes?

labs

yes.. it is wrong!

Tigerlillie

You're going to get your heart ripped out and handed to you on a silver plater. Run away..

~just_jd~

yes..you know it is wrong! and if he weren't married ...he probably wouldn't give you another time of day. he is using you...for what he is not getting at home.

Lydia

You shouldn't be doing this obviously. It is horrible of you to break up someone else's family for your selfishness. Stop it now.

C_1984

Yes. You're just the other woman and at the end of the day he always goes back to the wifey. How does that sound to you???

B K

It's amazing how women will stab each other in the back over some guy. Like a married guy is the *only* g*ddamned guy in the world you are attracted to? Why - so you can prove you can get her man to turn his head with your feminine charms whenever you want?

Think about it - if women would stop sh*tting on each other and stick together, about 98% of all cheating would disappear.

Oh and by the way - he met *you* by cheating -- he'll meet your replacement the same way.

imjustmessinround

DUH.........wait till someone does it to you........what comes around goes around

Bri

YES IT IS!!!! dont be one of them ppl that break up familys, how would you feel if you was the wifte with the cheating husband? or the daughter of the father that broke up the family by cheating? i mean you cant help who you love but you could of stoped it befor it even happened.

Yes, It's wrong. He doesn't love you.

Jack

I thought the limit was 10 months...Had Id known it was a year then maybe I would have stuck with a couple.

josefiend2000

Yes

Did i just say something silly?

To love someone married is about half wrong. The part you feel is ok, love is a beautiful thing. But it has to do with will, with your decisions on the matter - you have acted and chosen the wrong way to deal with your feelings when you found out he was married. If you would've walked away a year ago you'd be over it - or at least you wouldn't be hurting yourself nor the man and his family.
But anyways, what's done is done. You have postponed the question (or the answer really) but it seems you are now facing the facts and wanting to do the right thing.
You should end this relationship.
When you feel so strongly about your own situation it is hard to put yourself in someone else's shoes but this is what you have to do. Please, do try it as best as you can, it will make things come more clear. This is for his wife and family. And then think about him. What might he feel? Both right now, when cheating, feeling guilty and unfair and being a traitor to the people who should be most dear and close to him; and if leaving his wife - do you not think he might start regretting, maybe accusing (and he should!) you not to mention himself for breaking up his family?
You asked about right and wrong. The right thing to do will hurt like hell for quite some time. But how long will the wrong decision cause everyone pain?
If you really love him, you do the best for him. That may mean you have to know better, see it all in bigger picture.
Please do the right thing.

sarah s

YES! YES! YES! it is wrong for everyone involved. if you don't have the morals to realize that its wrong to date a married man, then think about how this is going to hurt you and your self esteem in the long run. remember, you're the "other" woman- the secret woman that no one can know about. you are NOT the woman that he married for the world to know about. I'm sure he has a million reasons why he has to stay married- kids, finances, relatives,etc., etc., etc. but the cold hard fact is that this will never be a healthy emotional relationship because you two can never hold your heads high and present yourselves as a couple. even if you can get away with going out together, you still both know that you are doing something wrong- no matter how many excuses you two have. I am sorry to hear that you are in love with him because that definitely makes it alot harder, but if you care anything about your future you should GET OUT NOW !!!! There is one thing for sure- this relationship will definitely wreak havoc on your self esteem if it hasn't already. you should definitely seek counseling tohelp you through this difficult time. it is most likely too much to handle on your own. good luck. get help.

typical not me

Yes! It is wrong for his wife, his children if he has any and it is wrong for you. You can not find the right man until you let the wrong one go. You deserve someone who will love you enough to put you first

answerdogs

yes it is wrong...now go out and see how many other guys you can bang.....

sid

it is very wrong...............youl ruin the life of the mans wife. think of it.........ive experienced it ....break ur relationship

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