Is marriage a really good thing?

random rambler

Marriage can be awesome, if you are both committed to it 100%. I got married at 25 and it was the best decision I have ever made.

golfgirl3

You should do what you want to do, not listen to others, you may be surprised what the future holds. Also quit worrying about who you are going to marry! Marriage is a blessing!

sarah

You should definitely listen to other people and not yourself. (now I'm rolling my eyes but you can't see me)
People are going to tell you what they have learned based on their experience. Marriage can be a good thing if you marry for the right reasons, and a person who loves you for who you are. Marry a good person and it doesn't matter what age you are.

Bananas

I would definaltly wait till older. Life is too short live and have fun when you can. I speak from experience.

**** I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH MILDRED***

Bibi

well you are asking and hearing advice from the wrong people

first of all whoever is telling you don't get married: are they married, are they divorced, are they happy with their marriage or being single

if they are unhappy married people, then ask advice from the happily married couples that same question

Debbie B

Marriage is a good thing. Waiting till after 30 is even better. Wait, enjoy being single and live life to the fullest.

mickey mouse

The decision is yours and only you know what's truly best for you but I would wait until you're 30. I say that from personal experience. I got engaged when I was 23 and married @ 24 and we faced a lot of difficulty b/c we're still growing and figuring ourselves out. At 23/24, you're still trying to figure out who you are, what you want out of life and etc. so when you're married it's just more difficult. I'm not saying people who marry young are doomed...I'm just saying it's more difficult in certain situations. I think late 20s or early 30s is a good age b/c by that time, you're usually settled in your job and life as a whole.

Best of luck!

nonameblonde

Honey, wait until you're 30. It's a great age. You can't decide now anyhow. I don't know how old you are but people who don't work thru their problems are bitter. Those are the ones saying marriage is stupid or don't do it. They're bitter and closed minded. Let them be alone. Just go thru your life and you'll find the right man and then you'll find the right time to do it. Just focus now on being the best you can be, get an education, get your dream career, date, spend time with friends, live your life and develop the person you want to be.

Gary B

1) it shows committment between you and your partner. Without marriage there is NO committment (I don't care what others say. unmarried couples are NOT committed to each other as fully as they need to be). marriage show that you are willing to take your love to the point of a totally exclusive relationship.

2) There are MANY legal issues involved. For example, who pays for teh baby when a baby is born out of wedlock? Without marriage the father can run off at any time, leaving the mother completely broke, homeless, and defenseless.

Access to ALL fund is available to both partners. If one partner dies or is killed, a married partner is NOT left broke.

married partners can help each other legally. For example, if one party of an unmarried couple dies, the other party has no legal access to the dead party's "stuff". the dead person's family can come in and take EVERYTHING -- including the house, car, television -- so long as they can prove thet the dead person bought it.

An unmarried person cannot speak for the other partner if he or she is sick. Only next of kin can do that, and an unmarried partner is NOT a next of kin -- no matter what the sick person might have said previously. Again, the family might step in, and go completely against the wishes of the unmarried couple -- like "pulling the plug", donating organs, or cremating the body.

Marriage provide a high-level of legal protection for both spouses AND for the children.

And marriage provides for protection in case of divorce. with an unmarried couple there is NO committment, and either party can leave whenever they want. they can also take whatever they want, and the other person has little or no legal recourse.

When the couple is married, the courts handle the divorce, and at the very worst, everything gets split 50/50 right down the middle. Child support is assured, and maybe alimony depending on sate law.

marriage has many advantages, both legal and moral. those who think that marriage is old fashioned will soon change their minds when their partners cheat on them or leave.

Faith

Marriage isn't stupid. Marriage gives stability and security to a relationship and family. My parents have been faithfully married for over 30 years. It gave me a lot of peace as a child knowing my parents are married.

I have never been married and I don't have children. Being single or being married is a personal choice. Some people have the attitude that marriage is worthless or it's only a piece of paper. Many people make bad decisions and want to bring everyone else down to their level.

Scientific research shows that a person's brain isn't completely mature until they are 25 years old. This doesn't mean that a person under 25 cannot make good choices. It just means the brain is still growing and changing. People may change a lot before the age of 25.

Be patient, have faith, and wait for the right man. You may meet him when you're older or you could meet him next week. Good Luck!

BirthDramaMamma

I don't think it's good to wait to get married once you find the right person. The hard part is finding the right person. Some people are lucky enough to just "know" when it's right. When you know, why wait?

The success of marriage (and also of life) can not be determined by age. Plenty of people marry young and stay married forever, and others marry when they're older and separate quickly.

When I met my husband, it took about a month (it took longer for him). I knew he was the one. We were married 3 years later and we've been married for 5 years. We have a great marriage. We were 20 and 21 when we met and my husband just turned 30. I think if we had waited we would have wasted 5--almost 6--years.

I am truly and deeply happy with my marriage. I know not everyone feels that way and I'm sorry for them. My husband is my soul mate, he compliments me and encourages me. (By compliment I don't mean he just says nice things, I mean he brings out the best in me.) I think marriage is wonderful and special. I know it's the best thing that ever happened to me.

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