Is my husband controlling??

presouzKitty

GIRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL he is!!!! Have you done anything to make him worry? Or has he done anything to make himself guilty? I say both of you go to counseling! GOOD LUCK

el flaco

Look #1 you should not be going out and drinking with your friends. Even if its after work. You should not have that privilege anymore unless you both go together. Family goes out together. Remember you married him. Why did you marry him ? What was it that made you fall in love with him ? If you can remember that, then you are supposed to remind him as if you were in a calm moment. Maybe having dinner. The only time you can hold on to atm cards, credit cards or cash is if you are responsible. If you messed up once. I sure he can give you another chance. He is supposed to. If you fail than you must leave it to him. You always ask your partner if its ok you get this or that, hoping you can afford it. If he is spending money and its toys for him. Open a new bank account. Put your money in there, but be responsible. Or you can talk to him and agree not to spend anything unless you ask each other. This is cooperation for life. Your time should be spent with your children or with each other and the children. Together with what ever time you have every day. If he is on the computer. Make sure its buisness. If it is he needs make more time. You or him need to switch or change jobs. You need to make time to go do things as a family. Work of course. But family first and survival of the family second(money). Dont smoke. What if you or him die before you even have a chance to say anything like, I love you. Gps is not wrong if he is using it for the car. If he puts it on you than both of you need to build some trust in eachother. Defintly. He should not listen on the phone, if there is not a reason that you did something in the past. Love more of eachother some how. Agree to things. If you break that,talk about it. Talk is there so you do not have mis camunications. If you leave for 30 min. You need to come back to eachother and talk about it again. You are not supposed to say "I don't want to talk about it'. You are supposed to talk about it to clear the suject. Its 50/50. I can tell from the issues that you are telling it leads to divorce down the line. You really need to get down the line of marrige. Work it out. Work it out. This is your partner. You married together because you liked the things about eachother. There are always bumps. You just try to fix them. Its normal.

Brotha from anotha motha

I KNEW YOU WERE ON THE INTERNET TELLING EVERYONE OUR BUSINESS. GET OFF RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!

Aussiemum

RUN RUN RUN

Claudia

Yes, he is controlling. He is a dictator and tyrant.
A dictator is an authoritarian ruler who assumes sole and absolute power. The term "dictator" is generally used to describe a leader who holds and/or abuses an extraordinary amount of personal power, especially the power to make laws without effective restraint by a legislative assembly (which would be YOU and your entire family). The following trait is typical for a dictatorship: suspension of of civil liberties (not allowing you to carry any ATM cards, credit cards or cash, not letting you go out for a drink ot to talk on the phone).

I would pack my bags and get out of there fast.

mellishw

He is controlling because a spouse needs a little freedom and if he can spend all he wants and treats you like a slave is not a man. Get a bank acct in your name because you earn a living too!

Mrs. House

Simple solution: open a checking account in your name only, and have the money that you make routed there. He can now no longer control your spending/your money.

oppsupsideurhead

The answer to you question is yes...seek help. no one in cyberland is going to be able to do anything for you.

Rica 82

Is he? Your marriage is not healthy at all. You would think that you could at least control the money your bringing in. He seems like a manipulator and I would be fed up too. And it's sad because once your fed up, there's nothing that can really change your mind.

Brunette wife

This man is WAY to controlling.

Get him the hell out of your life.

feelyourpain

get out and get out now. to many problems there to work though together. leave his ***, tell him why then leave, dont look back. it will be for your own safety mentally and soon enoough physically.

NYEVE43

He needs H E L P!! can u say Obsessive Compulsive? Been there, done that for way too long sweetheart. I put up with that for 17 years and now that I am divorced from my control freak, I can't believe I didn't do it sooner. What a relief!! Get your life back..tell him to hit the road. There are tons of good men out there who will treat u with respect.

â™¥I get so lonely waiting for u â™¥

that GPS thing is a crazy idea. I think you should sit down and talk about your issues with him... I hope everything will be good. Good luck! :)

lipstick2756

that is a toxic relationship and you need out or he needs some major help. He is obviously very insecure with himself which is why he is worried about you having friends or going out in fear that you might meet someone. You need to really think if this is how you want to live your life. Fair enough women are bad for spending money but you work and raise his children so you have every RIGHT to spend money as well. I would have my own bank account then if that's the case and have my pay checks go into an account where you can spend the money or ask your employer to write you a cheque rather than a direct deposit into your account. If I were you, I would have been long gone ..I don't put up with any **** and neither should you!!

s.boucher30

first of all, i only read the first sentence and yes he is. I'm not going to read the rest because I already know the answer. If i was you i would leave him.

idontcare

He's got some isues. You shouldn't tolerate this. No man should ever treat his beloved wife this way. That is not what marriage was intended for.

private

Yes he is,and he needs realize what he has before he loses it .

The Lemur v1.03

Sorry sweetie but he is really bad for you. Hes worse than 90% of men.

Navin D

I cann't say.

Live_For_Today

Why are you still with him?. Why haven't you opened up your own bank account in your name only and start having your pay go into it?.
Gee if a male treated me like that, I wouldn't be sticking around and putting up with it. I get given $1000.00 cash to spend on household shopping, mainly groceries, but if I spend it all before the month, he will still offer me more. Plus I have my own credit card.

Ranj

Wow. That is just awful! You need tell him all this and if he still can't get his act together then divorce his ***. Life is too short to put up with sh*t like that.

Tara Bara

Oh Crap. Na na na
I can understand why you are going crazy.
You know what everyone else on here is going to say!!!

theoriginalquestmaker

You know the answer to this. Of course he is controlling. I see two options, counseling for both of you, since it won't work if just you go. Or you can file for divorce.

Ava

Yes, I would call him controlling.In fact,If It were me, I would probably be calling him a lot of other things.He also sounds selfish and insecure. Some women are happy living in these conditions. I could not. What ever you decide to do, I wish you luck because it is going to be hard.

MICHAEL

I don't know what to say about this, except that it is possible that your hubby may be suffering from some kind of chemical imbalance affecting his brain chemistry and functioning. Short of insisting that he go to see an M.D. ASAP, and, ideally, right away, I see no end to the madness.

Your hubby's behavior is not only controlling, it is extremely paranoid; and, sadly, reminiscent of Joan Crawford's antics in the MOMMY DEAREST movies.

Ally L

uh thats not good you should talk to your husband about giving you a little budget of shopping each month and a little more freedom to go out and spend money so talk to him about your problem and have a little argue

neonlights1971

Well the obvious question is here, is what the hell are you doing to yourself? and allowing the childern to be subject to this type of treatment..
when did u stop standing up for yourself??? or stop using your own mind other than for working and giving your money all to your husband the loser... what does he make a list of groceries or does he do all of that too???
WAKE UP TIME GIRL

Winie s

YES HE IS CONTROLLING YOU,
step out and tell him not to treat you in that manner,
Dont mind you husband has gone nuts, he is not sure what he wants, tell him to mend his ways, he seems jelous, and he does seem to be abusive so tell him to stop, if he dosent i suggest seek help. because some times these small thing become a big issue, and by the way Smoking Kills Dont smoke it dosent help, it only destroys.

FijiGal

OMG girl...your husband is controlling!!!

Ask yourself why are you allowing him to do this to you??
Are you scared?
Do you love him that much that you can allow him to do whatever to you?
Have you low self esteem?
Do you have any family or friends for support so that you can work up a courage to leave him?

Please take some time to think this through..and make a conscious decision to better YOUR LIFE!

Stop living in hell..............I pray that you get the guidance to see things for what they are and the strength to make a strong and wise decision for yourself.

big al

You don't know if he's controlling or not? Damn, lady if you can't figure this out for yourself, you have problems and need to have a long talk with yourself about what he's doing to you. How would he feel if you did the same crap back to him. He's paranoid and want's to catch you at something he's guilty of is my opinion. People who cheat on their spouse start to go mental and everything is their partners fault, when in reality it is them blaming themselves. Theres an old saying about pointing a finger at someone and three fingers pointing back at you. He needs help and you need a break from all this crap. You do the math from here on out.

alb210

You guys need to get help for your relationship but most importantly you need to stand up and say I will do what I want. But going you own ways might be a good idea it seems like he has problems his self he needs to work out.

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