Is ogling a bad habit or normal male behavior?

janicajayne

He's not exhibiting normal looking behavior if his coworkers are complaining.

Ellie

Yep, he has a problem if it make others feel uncomfortable. Wondering Wife needs to give Ogling Spouse a Knee in the Ganglies to wake him up!

DeepThinker7...Last Black Renaissance Man

Speaking as a man: He needs to get his eyes right and stop lookoing all the time out in public. If you can see it, others can too. He needs to check himself.

(*Bossy*)

Checking out women in typical... now "oogling husband" on the other hand, has a problem. If it is to the point that coworkers are complaining...yeah, I would sit him down and let him know he is creeping people out- and you draw the line there. Discreetly looking at someone who catches the eye is normal- not gawking at anything with a pulse.

gypsyveg

I've always believed that Ogling is directly tied to one's level of emotional maturity or lack thereof. It's disrespectful to the Wife and to the women being Ogled. Ogling is on the top 7 list of reasons to run from a partner....

justagrandma

He is childish and rude and should be told. That should blow his 'discreet' defense. Its normal to look, not to ogle. A look is a brief, one or two second glance, not a stare.
However, Wondering Wife needn't worry about Ogling Spouse turning into Wandering Spouse, no one would have him.

arimarismacon

Looking at women is normal male behavior. It seems that what has happened is that ogling spouse is going overboard.

If a guy looks with a normal expression and does what he can to not make it obvious then that is normal. If he stares and even seems to react with out any concern for others that is overboard.

I would think that his Wondering Wife should bring up her concerns to Ogling spouse and discuss them. I know with my wife I try to limit my ogling, but she is aware I do it and will tell me when I am a little overboard.

triple o.g.

A man is going to look. bottom line, but to stare is over the edge. I am a married man, and I like looking at lovely women. I have one eye, my right eye is gone, so when my wife and i first hooked up she used to always sit on the right side of me. She always felt that i was looking at women with my good eye, but she could never catch me. so she started sitting on my left just to see how my good eye was taking things in. we laughed so hard about it. some men do take it to far, but there is a lot of eye candy out there. all i can say is just keep it where he will stay focused on you.

Sam Y

Well, it is rude to stare and I get it all the time. Depends on

The pink panther

Men are visual, where women are emotional. The problem is when men don't learn to correct themselves and realize it's rude.

adelaide

i read a story just like this in the news paper. i believe it went on to say that he was turned down for a job or fired due to his behavior. perhaps it is the same story. it seems like stalking behavior to me. to stare at someone in a way that makes them uncomfortable to the point of being called creepy is creepy and seems predatory. but perhaps he does not realize this or maybe he does not care. i think wife should be concerned. she should talk to hubby first and if it doesn't change then she needs to involve professional help. he is invading women's comfort zone and if he is unwilling to understand what he is doing to these women and his own wife then i think he is a bad apple.

Sick Girl

Its just rude and disrespectful. We are all human and sure we will see an attractive person now and then but to stare in front of your spouse is not acceptable behavior. She should say something if his co workers are noticing.

Both.

Mom of 2

If he is making his coworkers uncomfortable, its not normal. Sure men look and *some* actually do it discreetly. But this isn't right.

ncowifeusaf5

well I guess to an extent yes it can be normal for both men and women alike, however it sounds like he has crossed over from just enjoying the scenery to full blow "creepy" as one women already stated....talk to him...if he is making other people including his wife uncomfortabe with it than he has taken it to far...

dad

WOW i ogle a bit we all do but not to the point we get creepy . Maybe he is a creep how much do you really know about him . Be careful peoples minds snap sometimes

s1lvermidnight

My initial reaction was, it is normal to appreciate the beauty that is the human body. However, if he is getting "he's creepy" comments, it goes so far beyond that it bogles the mind. Definitely let him know. I like the whole "offer to give him something to ogle" comment, but then I am a guy. :)

Andrea B

confront the man himself. I would

Lindsey

I would let him know that I and everyone else thinks he has a problem. tell him to put his eyes back in his head before they fall out because he is making a fool out of himself. Ask him what the hell his problem is with that!! Tell him that it is one thing to notice and briefly look at an attractive woman but your wondering at this point if he would cheat on you? Tell him you've even noticed it when you are out together and that other women think it is disrespectfull to you as his wife. Tell him to get his hormones straightened out or you will not go anywhere with him because he is embarassing you! Let him know this causes you to doubt his character and everyone feels that he is undressing the women that he stares at and women don't like it......and you don't like it either. If he doesn't stop show him what it feels like once or twice and see how he likes it. Good luck sweetie.

Suzy Q

the man has problems he oculd be a peeking tom somewhere and that is bad. i would have to say i would leave and get rid of him its sounding very bad and not normal. not that much to the point of making women nervous.

Girliegirl

For him, I would say it is a definite problem. He is so unaware of his surroundings when he does it, it seems likes his attentions is so much in his fantasy at seeing an attractive woman, that he doesn't even realize the effect it has on his wife and the women he's looking at. The fact that women have actually been complaining about it means there is a serious problem. If I was his wife, i would have to talk to him about it. it's natural to notice other attractive people, but it's not normal to stare at them to the point that the other people complain about it. That could be considered offensive.

slopoke6968

its just natural instinct

Violet Pearl

He's rude, creepy and disrespectful to the women he's staring at. You picked a winner.

jackbutler5555

Guys check out women. The cool guys do it so you'd hardly notice.

shdwtalker2002

It is both a bad habit, and males are naturally predisposed to it. This behavior can be modified if the Ogling Spouse is forced to understand the necessity for change. Being informed of the other women's comments might be just the medicine he needs, but please tell him this compassionately because it will hurt his feelings.

Micklye

Nah...maybe he's got problems with his eyes. They start to wonder at every sight to behold. Try asking him to have his eyes checked! Hahaha!

baboo

Very very bad and dirty habit should be dealt with iron hand,

bells

maybe he needs an eye doctor - if he is staring excessivley he may be trying to focus?

carly sue

that is not normal.

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