Is the love of a married man real to a married woman? I am in love with a married man. i love him madly.?

brokedick13

I can relate to what your going through. I too am involved with someone while married with 2 kids. Although my "friend" and I have expressed intimate feelings, we have resisted our desires. I think the reason is because we know, as you should know too, that our relationship may very well not go anywhere, and that it's a decision that we should not enter into lightly.
There are consequences you should realize. My wife found out about a month ago, and was very hurt. Unfortunately, I do find myself drawn to this other person. And I know that because I have no intentions of leaving my family, ultimately, I will hurt my "friend" too, who I also love very much.
I wish you the best of luck, no matter what you choose to do; but it would be my guess that all this will end badly for all involved.

TODSHISHLER

See if his wife and your husband can fall in love like you did.

Then swap.

jennymustafa

DON'T DO IT!!!! No matter how in love you are you are doomed to fail when hurt other people. You CANNOT get happy when you make someone else miserable. It WILL come back on you. I promise you it WILL. Been there, done that.

bigjimmyguy

Affairs rarely if ever last. For 2 people who are having an affair its usually the newness of the relationship and an escape from what appears to be the boredom of the old one. However, someone will always get hurt because your new toy may not want to leave or the newness will wear off and you'll be right back to wear you started. Please give it some thought and remember the grass only LOOKS greener on the other side. Something has kept you there for 9 years...rediscover what that was and go get some councelling for you and your husband and tell your new guy that he should do the same, for you, your kids and your husband

Obi-wan Kenobi

I think you're a little crazy. How can you have given yourself to someone and turn your back on him? Unless you are being beaten or cheated on I think what you're thinking (or doing) is wrong. Perhaps you should see a counselor and try to make things work. If you pursue you inner desires you may end up traumatizing yourself, or more importantly, your children. Please, think this through. I hope you make the right decision.

oscar

Go for it. Screw the children. Then probably they will grow up to be just like you and your boyfriend.

You are married and it seems to me that you know what married love is capable of, whether it's a man or woman you are talking about.

It's my personal belief that you are married to your husband for life--with the exception of abuse which is never part of a valid marriage. You are also in a commitment to your children who have a father they have a right to have in their daily life. You've made a choice through marriage and childbirth and you should stick with it.

And the same goes for married men, by the way. Think of the pain you two could cause for people you once said that you loved--does married love mean anything to YOU?

Midnight Lace

Oh yeah definitely destroy your marriage and his,I am sure your Husband and his Wife will be better off to be free of the 2 of you.

Just remember all of this when he cheats on your sleazy *ss with someone else.

You 2 definitely deserve each other.

damn. Yeah go ahead and run off with him divorce your husband. Just go ahead and throw away your marriage. Keep cheating on your husband. You just lied to God and everybody else that you got married in front of that you and your husband would stay together til death do you part. Think of your kids think of you other spouses. Divorce is a b i t c h.

MissUkraine2005Lover

Read the 10 Commandments and find out your mistake

ranger12

If you're so willing to cheat on your husband, you should leave the children with him and pack your bags whether or not your affair works out, because unless he is abusive he deserves better. Think about how you would feel if your husband posed the same question.

msqtech

If you cant be true in your marriage and he cant be true in his. how can the two of you be true in another relationship?
You are just destroying lives here and bound to hurt at least 6 other people for your selfishness. I would bet also that the two of you will be hurt as well.

Good Luck and God Bless!!

Chocolatta

I would suggest you don't leave your husband and leave this married man alone. I believe in the end you will get hurt possibly lose your husband and children for your indiscretions. You only love or like each other because you don't live together. I also suggest you tell your husband whats going on so maybe you can save your marriage for your children sake.

cosaxteacher

You don't love each other!!!!! You are infatuated and attracted to each other. You can never be sure, and I'd be very doubtful because if he leaves his current wife for you, what is to stop him from doing the same to you? Think about your children for God's sake!

honest guy

You have just met this man and your already in love, I don't think so. How long did it take you to truly fall in love with your husband. I think that your "Love" is truly just a infatuaion or you may love the part of this man that your husband is lacking but not the whole person. You have a husband and two children that you need to think about. If you have truly just met this person then how well do you truly know him. Affairs are the most damaging to people and relationships and your talking about destroying 2 families in one fell swoop. Back off and think about what you want and talk to you husband. He may be angry at first but not as angry if he found out later about your affair. Try to work it out with him before moving on.

kim

It is never ok to cheat on your husband/wife. Once a cheat always a cheat is what we always have heard and it is true for some. If they get their hearts right with the Lord....He will change a person. A marriage is suppose to be special. If you leave your husband for this other it will not work out for long.....he or you will eventually cheat again.......besides you both will lose custody of your children and have to pay child support.....Adultry is wrong....think of your children.......do you want them to grow up and make the same decisions you both make? I will tell you a story about something that happened to my husband before we ever got together and before he excepted God into his heart and life....he was seeing a woman that was married and had a child...he was married also, 9 years. He and the other women dated secretly for 3 years....well he was very into her..claimed to really be in love with her and she claimed to feel the same....then they finally made a decision to tell their spouses they wanted a divorce so they left one another and went to tell their spouses of what they wanted. Well my husband went through with it and told his wife that it was over and that he wanted a divorce. When he met with the other women again..she said she couldnt do it and that she couldnt see him anymore. She went on to be with another man and left my husband standing there. He lost his wife and his 2 boys. He and I were already friends and I helped him through it. He did learn from all of it but lost alot too. So think of those kids because weather we like it or not.....they will do as we do...think about it!

ElfRuler

Both of you are extremely selfish. Bottom line. Yes, marriage after a time gets monotonous, but to cheat is despicable no matter what the cause. You took vows! Did you not mean them? How could you do this to your family. A meaningless fling is all this is. Love eachother madly. Ha! What a farce. You can't love someone madly when your married to another. Lust is a better word.

Of course this will not last. You're in a whirlwind romance right now and it seems fresh and new and exciting and he makes you feel beautiful blah blah blah. What's going to happen when this wears off and the s.hit hits the fan. And trust me it will. What will your tell your children when your husband files for divorce. What will you tell yourself when this Romeo of yours decides that he wants to end it and do the right thing by his own family?

My advice to you is to go and look at yourself in the mirror. What is missing within you that would allow you to accept the advances of another man. What has your husband not done lately that you could enjoy the courting of another man, married man, no less.

Do you think he will leave his wife and you can leave your husband and the two of you can live happily ever after in la la land? You need to check that alarm, honey, cuz you're still dreaming! Your children will hate you for destroying their family structure. Your extended family will despise you for damaging the children. You will feel pretty bad about it all, trust me. These things never work out like in the movies.

It's time to grow up and stop being self-centered. There are other people who will be greatly affected by your frivilous love affair.

Good luck.

shae

It's rare to hear of an affair becoming a relationship. If I were you I would take care of what made me stray from my marriage to begin with. Since their are kids involved their feelings should be priority over yours. I hope you do the right thing. Good luck!

Ellyn

I think everyone here thinks it is a bad idea, and that you have some serious issues. But the real question is:
Are YOU going to listen to us (the majority)? Or continue cheating with this cheater, Will you do the right thing and think of your kids and husband first. Then I can't help but wonder if your husband will even forgive you. Hope you do the right thing.

$0.02

Girl, you are mad, crazy, insane. You should not even consider this man. You have a husband and two kids. he has a wife and two kids. That is Six lives you are about to F*uck up (Make that 8 because you and your new man will not be happy because both of you would have to go through divorce.

The grass is not greener oin the other side.

littleluvkitty

Look for your children's sakes stop cheating. Its wrong and immoral in all ways. Get a divorce or at least be honest with your husband. Just realize that you are the other women. How would you feel if you were in her shoes? How do you live with yourself what kind of example are you setting for your children? God some people don't deserve to ever have a marriage. Your one of them.

sweetie

before you will do that think about it for thousand times. you both cheated your partner do you think you will be happy if you both divorce your partner? you know what there is also possibilities if you get married to this man he will cheat you also...

Justlookin

Do you love him madly? He wanna be your daddy? Dontcha love his ways? Tell me what you say. Dontcha love him as he's walkin out the door, like he's done 1000 times before.

Sorry to rip that off from the Doors, but ummm, messing with a married man (especially when you're married yourself) is going to lead to exactly that - one of you walking out the door. Get your life straightened out and tell the married dude to do the same before you go leaping into something that's potentially going to mess with your childrens heads. Not to mention the ex-spouses. Sorry to sound harsh, but reality bites. Take a breather, figure it out. Much luck!

fallen_ambience

Yeah thinking about your own selfish self. What about your children? What about your husband? What about the mans wife? What about his children? Whose to say he wants to stay with you any way. Do you not believe that if he leaves someone for you, he'll eventually leave you for someone else?

csucdartgirl

If you had trouble with your marriage, you should have fixed it with your husband and not shopped around. I am sure when you got married you had the whole "thick or thin" clause.

Gosh, you're both cheaters now. Is that what you would look for in a new man? And him in a new woman? Enough said.

TheComputerHacker

A therapist could help you sort out your emotions. It seems you are pretty confused and since there are children involved it makes for a difficult decision. Best of luck.

crazzzy

It might work it moght not, but ususally what somes around goes around. Be careful and I hope since you cheated and got him it doesnt happen to you.
Make sure you think it out, its not all about you, there are young impressionable lives to think about.

Pink Girl

I smell trouble get out as soon as you can no more cheating on your husband, if you can't tell I'm shaking my finger at you.

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