Is there hope for love and romance after failed marriage? - broken hearted, no confidence and two kids????

bathams

My dear there is always hope for love and romance. Love is the thing which keeps us all alive, without love there would not be so happiness and joy in the world.

Failed marriage or no marriage does not matter in you failing for love, love happens all of a sudden and next thing you will know that you're in love :)

If you find the right man, he should take you the way you are, with kids or no kids.

Right now you're just on the other side, relax take some rest watch some TV, play with your kids and then start going out and look for Mr. Right.

fusillicandace

Absolutely! You are hurting right now and that's okay. It won't last forever. You need to surround yourself with people who love and care for you. Kids are great for regaining confidence. They make you realize what's really important. You will find love again when you are ready and when you give yourself permission to. You are great, you're a mom! Good luck, keep your head up! I wasn't married legally but basically was anyway and i have a child. I have a good idea of what you're saying. It's hard, but it's true, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

alanninn

yes there is! first off accept that you are better off without him..take your time getting back into the dating scene..no rebounding allowed..get a firm foot hold on life for your kids sake, first and foremost before you start to date..this is for your self esteem..there is someone for everyone and don't give up..take care of you first then all will follow

marvin

There is always hope. Look at me, older than dirt, 2 failed marriages, 5 kids in three states and got a younger woman that's totally nuts about me. (Why, I don't know) Don't fret about being a 'loser" because of a failed marriage. It happens to almost everyone. You'll meet a new guy. Beware of the guy that used your kids to get to you. Just think about what you need to do. Take care of yourself and take care of your kids. That's all. A new boyfriend might distract you from what's really important. Good luck!

HIMSELF

I am a bloke in a similar situation and I haven't gave up hope.
So get a babysitter and give me a call... LOL...

crunchymonkey

my mum re married after a long marrage

teenylollypopuk

yes honey don't be too down, i had same thing happen to me, life is what you make it, it will take a little time but build your confidence back up by going out with Friends, lots of men love children weather they are there's or not, you'll meet someone.

B i n g o

Whatever you do, don't lose hope. Love is out there waiting for you.

lili24_7

ofcourse there is

MikeInRI

Why not? Just give it time - after all you are worth it aren't you?

Ally

Of course there is - hang in there - you're not the only one.

mark b

everyone i know that has split from a long marriage have all been re-married. some took longer than others to find a new mr or mrs right but they all got there. and as for having 2 kids, i have 3 brothers and a sister but both my mum and dad managed to re-marry so i dont think you should worry. just make sure that the kids meet and like who ever it is you meet.

marys2boys

Oh honey! Bless your heart, you must be going through a really rough time right now. But rest assured, there is life out there, and you will once again be a part of it. You have to go through a bad spell for a while, there is no way around it. Your self-esteem has taken quite a hit. But you know what? It is miraculous how often these seemingly life-ending events turn out to be the best thing to happen to us. You will find strength you never knew you had, bond with your children, and find out you are immensely attractive to another person. It will take time, but someday you will look back at the person you are right now and say, "I was so sad back then, but look at me now. I never thought I'd be this happy again!"

Right now, concentrate on you, your kids, and your job (if you work outside the home). Don't be afraid to lean on others -- the people that care about you WANT to help you!

I read a wonderful book called "Crazy Time" by Abigail Trafford after my divorce. It seemed to know me inside out. Give it a try. You can buy it here: http://www.amazon.com/Crazy-Time-Surviving-Building-Revised/dp/0060923091

Pray for wisdom and patience, not another man to get involved with right now. You are going to be fine, and if you turn to God for a little support, you will be better than ever.

Best of luck to you and your kids. And remember, millions have been where you are and thought they would never survive. They did, and you will too! :-)

By the way, I survived a divorce that I thought would devastate me forever. I am now happily remarried to a great man that I love and adore, and adores me right back. We have a wonderful life, much better than it would have been with hubby #1.

luvlisteningtomusic

Of course there is. You need to get over that broken heart start making yourself busy. You need to find love within yourself before you can love another. Find things that you are good at and find what is good about you. Be the best mom you can be but also have some time for yourself pampering yourself. The time will come when the time comes to not force it because nothing is more unattractive to a man then a woman who looks desperate for love. Dress up look your best for yourself and carry yourself with confidence. Your sure to find that special someone but just be patient.

Thornsey

Give yourself time, don't rush into anything, enjoy being with your kids, prove to yourself and your ex that you are strong and will be better off. In time you will meet someone decent.

boppinmad

yes don't give up. i was married, met my partner on internet, i've got kids, lacked confidence, but i made it again, and so will you. good luck!

kitkat

Yes there is i am 29 have had two failed marriages two boys and i have the most wonderful partner. take it from me try internet dating they are not all weirdos

luckybluebunny

oh yes. Plenty of love and romance. You haven't failed at marriage..there's no test..if you walked away from the experience a little stronger... knowing things you didnt know before.. and with 2 good kids to boot..you got a lot.
I know a lot of men who are looking for great women with good hearts...You'll be fine..once you feel ready to get back out there, Im sure there will be plenty of offers.

twilight

yes there is hope for love and romance after a failed marriage.
i found it with 3 children, just remarried never been more happy.
confidence will come back in time.

ikklealsum

of course there is you just need to try and put the past to bed and you will be fine its a corner you are turning in your life it might be a long one or a short one but you will get there eventually i promise.

thecoldvoiceofreason

Of course there is, we all get our confidence knocked hard when a relationship/marriage breaks up - its happened to pretty much most of us at one time or another and as hard as it might seem now its really not the end of the world. I was devastated when my last relationship broke up - i didnt really care if i woke up in a morning, but eventually i got my act together and my chin off the floor and made myself happy with myself again. Not long after a chance meeting with my now partner Liz changed my entire world and i've never been happier - that was 7 glorious years ago.

Chin up, you never know whats around the corner, you might bump into the love of your life one day when you least expect it.

All the best, hope you find happiness - we all deserve some.
xx

sanilav

There is someone out there for everyone.We have to treat the failed marriages as learning curves-the best part being that you have 2 wonderful children who need you to be strong for them.Don't rush into another relationship,that will come in time.You need to get your confidence built up first.Have some quality time with your children and your friends.
I've been there & also have 2 children.I now have a fantastic relationship with an adorable man-he's the 1 I've been waiting for all my life.You too can find happiness again but first you must give yourself time to come to terms with your broken heart & low self esteem.I wish you every success on your road to finding the new you.

good tree

Sorry about the break up of your marriage, I've been with my husband for 17 years, married for 10, and he recently had a fling and we have come close to losing each other too. The thing that helped me through it all was my faith in Jesus, and the wonderful people who have supported me from my church. Churches aren't full of amazing single men (at least mine isn't) but it is full of warmth friendship and caring people. I will simply suggest that you try it and if you have a bad experience, no need to go back. Here's the link to the group of churches I belong to, of course there are many churches but I know these guys seek to put love into action

nathan n

Why not? you are now more experienced and you are not a morons magnet(because you have kids!)start it tomorrow,life goes on...

LEX

Theres always hope, it just takes time, never give in is a good moto to take on board ok! We have all been in the same boat at sometime or another, your doing the right thing here right now, talking about it! Sorry i could'nt make you laugh at this point that is one of my strengths, how ever here i could'nt write any in?

With time I think most hearts can heal. You have to be strong for your kids. There is always Hope. Just don't date loosers. Take it slow, and don't remarry quickly. Any guy would most likely be lucky to have you. Watch something that makes you laugh. Laughing is good medicine. Good Luck!

shepardman1

there is always hope,and success for finding love and romance,i did it,i just didnt blame myself for the divorce,and went about my business and reset my goals and kept busy.

Bernie c

Yes there is have been there myself and when your told your nothing you believe it, first get your confidence back and not easy will take time and from what you have asked I would say you are a strong person maybe more than you think. You take care and best of luck to you.

surecashtrades

absolutely

nxmom

pray pray and more prayer will get you through these trying times-God will heal your broken heart & give you the confidence you need to raise your kids. Make sure you get out and do something nice for your self..YOU FIRST..if you can't make your self happy, nobody can and you sure can't be a productive parent. Keep your head up...and i can't stress enough prayer changes things....try it

Twisted&Demented

Yes there is. May you find a very good man that rocks your socks off!!

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