Is this CRAZY for a WIFE and MOTHER to do?

I live in a suburb just outside of Toronto ....I'm married (happily) and have a 4 and 9 year old.
For some reason, I REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY want to go to New York ALONE for a few days (I sound like a whiny teen ager...lol...) But seriously, I've ALWAYS wanted to explore New York alone...as a teenager (ITALIAN PARENTS....strict as hell) I never had the chance....then I got married and had kids...and now, I'm feeling this huge need/want to go there and expore the city....bring my camera and do some photography, go to the theatre, go shopping....
Money is not an issue at all....but I still have this sinking feeling that maybe, it's not the right thing to do.....but when I question myself as to why I feel that way....it's because I "feel bad" to leave the kids...or I feel bad to leave my husband....but I really would like this opportunity to go...
What do YOU THINK??? Am I being a selfish person???

Brooke

Not at all. The only way you would be selfish is if you were taking the money to go to New York, if it was needed for your kids (like if they needed braces now!). But you said money isn't the issue, you are a hardworking mom, I'm sure and you deserve to take this trip alone. I have always wanted to go to San Francisco, alone. And next summer, I am. My husband is okay with it. I think you feel bad because you don't want to feel as if you are leaving your kids and husband to go frolic in New York. But that's not the case. I think you should definitely take this opportunity. It's a once in a lifetime chance, and we aren't going to be around forever. Stop overthinking it and just go do it! You'll feel great once you have that accomplishment underneath your belt. It's a great feeling. You aren't being selfish in any way, nor are you being crazy.

punchbuggy

Why not leave your kids with your parents and go on a second honeymoon to NY with your husband. That make work to your advantage

Julie H

You are just typical of the person that married too young and missed out on the fun things like going to New York. Right now the best thing for you to do is bring along your husband. Think about it this way....how would you feel if he announced he was going to New York to explore by himself? I don't think you would like it and he won't either. It's not crazy and not selfish. You are just hearing from friends all the fun they have had and feeling you missed out.

niptuck2630

Nope. I dreamed of seeing the ocean/tropical places. I thought I would never get there. We couldnt afford for me and my husband to go and he wasnt even interested in seeing the ocean. I told him the first person i found to go with me on a cruise, I was going, and I did! I dont regret it, and he was fine with it eventually and everything went fine.

Kimmy21401

your not being selfish but i mean maybe u should take your family too and u can explore together

ilkjd06

thats not selfish. every adult needs a little alone time. i know you feel guilty because you love ur family, but what youre asking for is fair.

La Vie Boheme

You should go. Everyone needs time alone. When people have kids, it shouldn't be a 18 year jail sentence.

By the way, there is nothing unsafe about New York...it's very safe.

Sheniquah Redux

Who are you going with? Alone? Not safe in my opinion. Not that anything is likely to happen bad to you, but you may get yourself in situations you shouldn't.

angel

no..its natural..tell ur hubby and take a break

Jackie

No, I don't think you are being a selfish person. I am a firm believer that mom's need a break from the family. Just a few days away from the kids and hubby makes a world of difference in renewing herself, and the kids and hubby are always glad to see her when she gets back. What you need to do is suggest that while you are gone your hubby et a baby sitter, or take the kids and go someplace also.

Veronica

If your hubby supports the idea if you going to NY alone. Then there shouldn't be a problem. He is behind you 100 percent about it. don't worry about the kids your hubby will take care of them. taking a break is healthy. you will come home relaxed and happy to see your family.

jramy.kiki

i think that it is selfish and unsafe. New York City is not a good place for a young woman to be alone and naive i think that you should bring your husband. Your children can stay with your parents but i think it would be unfair for you to want to subject your husband to the worry of you being there alone.

alex07

suggest you go with a mature, reliable lady friend and stay in decent hotels, avoid isolated parks and do not follow weirdos...put safety as a priority. You could also contact the Christian organisations to help you with clean fun. enjoy your photography. You are not selfish, you have an enquiry mind and a quest for knowledge, go explore NYC. Do not feel guilty, you deserve a treat for yourself. Cheers!

Ryde-0n

I know what you mean, lots of the married women from Peterburough and Pigeon Lake love to go to New York city to go clubbing and get laid.

It's become kind of a spring tradition for many.

petcatisland

No, everybody has their little dreams & things they would like to do through life; maybe you could come to some agreement one day that you could both do something, NY for you & something different for your husband? Failing all else, don't go alone but with another friend or as a family? You could still 'take off' alone for a few hours.

BearsGoBears

I would wait about 4 years when the kids won't need you as much to be there.

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