Is this a weird child custody arrangement?

Brianna

I think you two should discuss this with a licensed professional as there will be large ramifications for the children. Both will be scarred psychologically from being separated out. This is really a selfish thing to do on the mothers part and is not thinking about the children at all. Reminds me of when King Harrod says the baby should be cut in half to suit both women claiming to be the mother.

On that note, i don't believe a judge would be easily willing to separate the children because it's convenient for her. You'll get both and they'll be better off for it in the long run.

~â™¥Lil Ronâ™¥~

That is really weird...........the kids should be raised together.

*havin fun in the sun*

yea that is weird. i don't know if it is in the best interest for the children though.

shel

Ask the kids what they want to do....It's great that you'll both remain active in the kids' lives, but do the kids want to be broke up? Are you ok with this deal? You need to decide what is best.

Happy-2

I'm guessing you just watched "Parent Trap" on the Disney Channel.

cutekitten

i don't agree with this...both kids should be raised together & should be jointly seen by you and your ex.

Cham

That is clearly looking out for the best interest of the parents and not the children. I wouldn't go for it at all.

kristen481516

That doesn't sound right to me,it doesn't seem right for the kids.I think if at all possible,the kids should be around both parents,and the children should live together,however i don't know your situation. Would you be ok with only parenting one of your children?

angiea276

That's a horrible idea. Kids already feel like their parents play favorites with the other sibling. This will just seem to them like, "mom must lover her more because she asked to have her and not me". You and your wife probably have different parenting methods as well, so this will cause even more problems when one child is able to get away with something the other child isn't. Why does your wife only want to raise one child? I would take this to court and fight to get custody of BOTH children.

Wow! Pretty selfish on her part in many ways! She needs to start putting her kids first and realize she already was a part in breaking up their home. Now she wants to separate the two of them? How does she think the child she didn't want will feel. Sounds like she isn't too worried about it. Maybe she should do the kids a favor and allow you to raise them!

ouragon

So, I see why your marriage didn't work out. No judge is going to separate the kids, so the two of you should keep negotiating. Maybe you could have 50-50 with one parent taking both kids Thurs eve- Sun eve, the other Mon morn - Thurs afternoon. No child support. Long term commitment to location and putting the kids first (Which is not each taking one kid. That's an obvious attempt to avoid cs.). Good luck.

hauskhat

Good thing you had an extra one laying around, so you can each have your very own! That is the most effed up way of dealing with custody I have ever heard! They aren't toasters, they are people! Wow! Please don't let you're wife raise that child alone - I don't think she understands what children are!

Betsy S

Well, how old are the kids? If they are old enough to explain things to and are old enough to say what they think is good for them, then just ask them what they think.If not, if they are very young then I would keep them with you, because lets face it, your going to end up with them both anyway! Good Luck.

amyhpete

It is weird either way but it also depends on the ages and genders of the children. If they are over 7 you should ask them where they'd like to live, even though the courts say it's age 12 and over to decide officially. If you're pleasantly surprised and each child picks a parent, then perhaps it would work. However, don't each of you love each child equally? What about your time with each child? Will you help each other with childcare if one parent has an obligation and needs someone to watch "their" child? Will you be the legal guardians of both children for school, medical, etc., or will you be as single parents to each child, solely responsible for education and medical care?

Jery E

pick the ugly one. they are easier to raise because they don't b*tch about stuff as much.

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