Is this an abusive relationship?

txO3blueyes

NOT good, and are you sure that's all it has happened. maybe shes not being totally honest about it. or shes have in to walk on egg shells in her marriage to keep it... NOT worth it...

jamie_0778

that's definatly abusive...he can't control himself...so what if it only happened twice. he has a breaking point and snaps...it will happen again.

Keith Python

You are right. The first time that it gets physical it is time to end the relationship permanently.

[Simply.. me]

Oh my gosh...this poor woman needs to get OUT of this relationship..this man could kill her! He's definately got some issues..and it isn't safe!

Shredded Cottage Cheese

ANY physical abuse is WRONG. This dude needs to get worked over by a big ol' gay trucker and see how HE likes it.

juanramoz2

its abusive if it had only been one;.... dump him and report him

Denise B

that is mess up! it should never happen

honey

I am sure it happened more than 2 times; and more than likely the emotional abuse is also present at all times.

dianesomeone

she is blind.....and this keeps up and she could soon be dead....not a good situation.....

SChi25

So much as a spouse slapping their partner is abuse. This is much worse. You need to tell her that she is blind, and you need to try to help her seek help.

A lot of batttered women are in denial, so it will be hard. However, if you ever hear anything or see anything, call the police immeditaley and explain the situation. If she finds out that you called the police, she'll thank you or she'll get mad at you because she doesn't want to bring attention to the situation. Even if she gets mad, you need to keep at it. Explain that she deserves so much more than that. Seriously. Or she could be dead soon.

Also, call any battered women's organization and ask for help and ways to approach the situation. Professionals will be able to further assist you.

Mary W

Even one incident of abuse of one too many.
Not only is she at risk, but their child/children is/are too.

Pete The GRADUATED Cylinder...

it's bad. VERY bad...

contact_nickhmusic

Choked? Choked a 7 month pregnant woman? let alone his wife? Pack your bags sweetheart, you deserve a real human being, not an abusive beast.

tersey562

These are the actions of abuse. It should never happen even once, but especially to a pregnant woman. These are probably just the major occurrences and she may not see some of the "every day" disagreements as abuse. He may put her down often and use verbal abuse to go along with physical abuse. He would benefit from seeing a therapist (so wound she). Good luck and God Bless.

Plain Jane

SHE'S BLIND!!! You are in an abusive relationship. It doesn't matter how often he does it. Get out. Good luck

Ema

YES!!! Christ, is everyone BLIND?!

Qwyrx

Even a single instance of violence is abuse. Now, it may not be chronic abuse, but it is certainly abuse. It's absolutely something for which counseling should be sought. Now, will she listen? Seem unlikely. But one trick you could try is to make her worry about what might happen to him if he got similarly angry, but not at her. Like in public, and how he might get in trouble with the police, his job etc. In other words, transform it into her caring for him, instead of caring for herself (which she should be, but isn't). It sounds like it might be an anger management issue more than anything (as opposed to the typical power-domination involved in chronic abuse), but it still needs help, especially since the violence that has happened has been fairly strong.

*Pretty In Pink*

I think that she is blind! no matter how many times it is still seen as an abusive relationship.

loveChrist

anytime one trys to harm the other is abusive,if choking is not abuse i would like to hear what your friend must think is i have learned through abuse physical mainly but emotionally as well if they ever do it once trust me they will do it again i have had extreme physical abuse black both eyes,chipped back teeth ,fractured skull,i dont care if it is one time it is still abuse i wonder if it was her would she consider it abuse

jamesrichmond28

The husband is a coward and weak. He is not a Real and should lose his husband status. This unlawful behavior is just the beginning and it will increasingly intensify and worsen. If something isn't done to help the situation her death could be the result. She needs to leave him for a while until he can find himself again. Or professional help may be needed.
The abuse may have always been there but not noticed.

krispeds

It doesn't matter how many times it's happened. That is physical abuse. Who knows the next time he will loose it?! Plus if he is physically abusive, he is more likely to be mentally abusive as well. Your friend should consider counseling. If he doesn't go for it, save some money privately, along w/ important documents and extra clothes for her and the kids. Store it where he would never find out and be ready to leave.

willy

I am a big man[325 pounds and have kicked my share of butt]. I have been married 34 years and have never ever touched her in anger and would kill any S.O.B. that tried. Her first husband was a wife beater and a child abuser. He trembles with fear at the sight of me because I let him know what I will do to him if he ever bothers her again, and he knows from true stories he has heard about me that I make no idle threats. Men who hit women and children are cowards.

cfalways

you are not wrong. she is blind. he needs professional help. she needs to leave and divorce him. before she ends up in the grave. one time of abuse is one time too many.

Mysterious

yeah its abusive i agree

voidtillnow

It is most definately abusive. Twice in 13 years isn't a lot but it is still 2 times too many.

hot *********

yes that is a abusive relationship please let him try to get help for it if not u need to leave i was been abusive and i left i am glad i did .

stranger0333

WRONG!!!!!!! first women dont ever need to be hit pushed anything even if there wrong your buddy has anger and need to do something with it casue he could have killed her and the baby at the time he need some real help tell him to take his anger out on a punching bag in the garage and cool off before he ever lays his hands on a woman if i knew him i would have beat his a$$ myself i seen mom go through it would do it to a woman tell him to get help or leave and cool off for the better..................

imran k

oh what a cruelty I think a psychiatrist should be called to resolve the problem.....

520

No one has the right to put their hands on you, for NO Reason! Stevie Wonder can see that!!!

The children, have the right to be raised in a home , where they see their mother& father acting like real civilized adults, free of abuse!

CRYSTAL S

Doesn't matter how often it happens it is abusive!...if he did it every day she would probably still take up for him,that's just how it is with some people,sad but true

nadisha

She is totally blind and in 'denial'. A couple of arguments in 13 yrs isn't bad, but physically abusive??? Wow!

In these cases, sometimes there is no 'other time' if you understand what I mean??

Out, out, now.

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