Is this an unreasonable request?

kelliep1777

I think that is extreamly reasonable and you should respect his wishes on that.

BabeHeart

If their marriage was that bad, chances are she probably wouldn't want to be at his funeral anyway. I see nothing even remotely unreasonable about his request...it's his life, and his death.

However, if she should perchance see his obit in the newspaper she might show up. That would be up to her...he'd be dead, so he wouldn't know the difference anyway.

<Raised on Promises>

I don't think it is unreasonable at all.
If she does not love or respect him, why would she want to come to the funeral anyway!

emma C

I don't see that's unreasonable, respect his wishes

Just me...

I think that if GOD-FORBID he passes, even though you may not want to you should respect his wishes. Even though she is in the past a past love is a past love and she may need to greive too. I say try. and think about it.

piscio

yeh if they parted on bad terms then why would he want her there and why would she wanna come anyway. i agree with him

Sexy McGee

Do they have kids together? That plays a huge role in this equation.

Otherwise, don't let her in the door.

MoMoney23

It's HIS wishes. Put yourself in the same position.

Strandedgypsey

Respect his wishes. I wouldn't want my ex at my funeral either.

Stacy S

If he don't want that btch there do what he wishes if my man invited the sob i was married to to my funneral i would come back and haunt all they azzes. do what he wishes how hard is that!!

J n R

Tell him i said rock on there is no way I would want my ex-wife at my funeral either

Toonces

Not unreasonable at all. Respect his wishes...she would have no place there anyway.

fashion

yea, u should respect what he says. u dont even know her, hopefully u dont have to do that soon though

Dart Swinger

Respect his wishes.

ldlivengood

Well, this is tough. I'd definitely say respect his wishes in any way that you can. However, she may need to grieve(no matter how messy the divorce was...she obviously loved him enough to marry him and may grieve when he dies). I have a feeling that the restraining order doesn't hold if the person who requested it is dead....so.....I guess respect his wishes if you can, but if she comes to the funeral and is respectful and doesn't cause a scene, then I wouldn't push her out. If you conceive and have children, you could just say that she was someone Daddy knew a long time ago.

heatherlynn822

It doesn't sound unreasonable.

The thing is, no one is really *invited* to funeral services.
Notices of services are usually posted in the paper, and people who become aware of them just show up to pay their respects..... so I am not sure what exactly he is requesting.

â™¥ Soph â™¥

Actually this is pretty tough... I think if she apologizes and the problem is resolved, then she should be allowed to come but if not or if it worsens than not.

Jules

Respect his wishes

Annabella

It's perfectly fine. I don't want people in my life OR my death that don't care about me & respect me. If it was SO bad that he felt the need to actually add that clause then I would agree with his wishes 100%.

phoenixo1

He has every right to dictate his last wishes and have them honored by you. If he doesn't want her there then she should not be invited.

lilu

Not so unreasonable. If she was that much of an upset, then her being present would be very uncomfortable for other loved ones, including yourself.

xp2c

I didn't know one was "invited" to funeral services anyway. Unless the obit says "pay respects at such and such funeral home, except Agnes, cause he didn't want you there.." If invitations are sent, I would certainly honor his wishes.

John

Respect his wishes.

Simply Lovely

If he dislikes her that much, I doubt she would even consider going. Just tell him that you will make sure she is not there.

Sassy Diva

I don't think it's unreasonable... if he prefers her not to be there, I would honor that request.

missylit

i think it's a reasonable request, and you should honor his wishes.

Cesaria Barbarossa (R.I.P. Tina)

If that's what he wants, you have to agree. It's HIS funeral. And seven years is a long time. I doubt she's spastic anymore about him.

poodle mom

so, dont let her in! no big deal.

Silly G

you know, you're both thinking sort of short term and barring any accident or terrible illness, your husband's going to be around for many more years.

i have been to plenty of funerals in my day and something changes with age. when fourty years pass, so does water under the bridge. I have seen people at the funerals of sworn enemies and let me tell you, that's the kind of closure you can't deny someone.

If there are children involved, she should go if her children need her support. There's nothing in the world as humbling as seeing someone you hurt, laying gone before you. wouldn't you like to think that your battles die with you?

I don't think it's classy to disallow anyone from a funeral, with luck that won't be your decision to make. cross the bridge if you come to it and put it out of your mind 'till that day.

Mustard Tree Girl

I don't see what the problem is. Thats an easy request of his.

marcia f

I firmly believe that a person should have exactly what they want at their funeral. After all it is the last say they will ever have.

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