Is this cheating?

Brutally Honest

It's not cheating .... YET .... but it's well on its way to being so.
You're PLANNING on cheating, which is producing the guilt, so in my book, that's good enough.

If you're so miserable in your marriage, you have only 3 real choices: live with things the way they are, get counseling, get a divorce. Screwing around is NOT a valid choice.

MammaOf2

Yes, if you are feeling guilty about it, it's cheating. You're going down a dangerous path. I'd recommend cutting off contact from this old crush (no explanation to him needed) and work on communication with your husband.

hope...

yeah
it is

dragonfire

yes

you have no good reason for hooking up with you ex crush
no matter what the capacity

as you have emotional and intimate history all ready established

the fact that you did it proves you want to cheat and are merely looking for the avenue

people do not just run into their ex's

they seek them out

Wayner

You're having an emotional affair.

Stop it.

omgithinkiknow

if you feel guilty, it is wrong; if you meet in person, what are your plans? if you are hiding the relationship from your partner, it is cheating....

Helen W.

You are standing on the tracks, and the cheating train is about to hit you. You still have a chance to get off those tracks but you better move fast!

green_thumbed_one

If you are keeping something from your husband, it would suggest that you already know that what you are doing is wrong, or else why wouldn't you tell him?

You are unconciously creating a divide between yourself and your husband by not telling him about a significant event in your life.

Emotional Affair, same thing as a full blow physical one. Actually worse because its easier to stop being with someone you are not emotionally attached to. Cut off all ties with this guy ! PERIOD. Rule of thumb in marriage, do nothing without your spouse standing there that you wouldn't do with THEM standing there!

jenny

What the first person said is true. It is an emotional affair. I would put a stop to this before it develops into something more. Listen to your gut. If it feels wrong it probably is.

Dance Girl

It's emotional cheating because you feel too guilty to tell your husband about it. Just be careful!!

6@5^&%

yes this is cheating and you need to stop it

Samantha

If you feel guilty about it, then yes you KNOW that you are doing something wrong. And you WANT to meet up with this guy? Give me a break....what do you think is going to happen? Coffee? I don't think so. I think you made a date to physically cheat. Does his wife know? Is he hiding this as much as you are? Does she know that he plans to meet his old high school crush in person? Why do you want this nightmare? And it is a huge cop out to say that things have been rocky and therefore you are looking at ways to justify you cheating on your husband. Shame on you. Would you be devestated if you knew that your husband was doing something like this? Was planning to meet up with an old high school crush or would that be just fine with you? I am sure he is capable of cheating just as much as you are. And maybe he is but it would serve you right.

3 girls call me mommy

yes its a form of an affair, emotionally.
just bring it up to your husband that you guys found each other on myspace and see how he reacts, he may not mind you guys talking and being friends.
as far as meeting up with him sounds like you may stray from your husband if that was to happen and i would keep it strictly chatting on line if i were you.
goodluck
honesty is always best

june

Your just leading on and it might turn into an affair w/out you realizing it and there would be many suffering. Just forget about him...

Chicago RocknWeb

The answer you're looking for is simple: simply flip the situation around and imagine how you would feel.

Johnny A

CHEATING IS FUN... I MEAN FUNDAMENTAL. HEY, ITS NOT CHEATING IF YOU DON'T GET CAUGHT AND IF YOUR NOT CHEATING, YOUR JUST NOT TRYING. SO GO FOR IT MY CHILD. I GIVE YOU MY BLESSING. MAY HIS MANHOOD NEVER REACH THE DEPTHS OF YOUR FEMININITY (THAT'S WHAT CONDOMS ARE FOR) BECAUSE THAT WOULD BE JUST... AWKWARD.

the one

Would you want your husband to meet up with an old crush? Why not get dressed up, call your husband and meet him at a public place where you can re-connect? You're not cheating, but you want to.

taken

I have a thing where if I can't tell or talk to my husband about it, it won't happen. if he did this to you wouldn't you be outraged?

Mia R

Its absolutely wrong. Just keeping it from him is wrong and if he finds out the trust will be gone!. If I were you and you value your marriage, stop the chatting with the other guy and work on your marriage.

elly

your down in memory lane...snap out of it...put yourself in your husbands shoes...how would you feel if was doing this to you?? you are searching for emotional support...start being open to your husband and stop looking else where or this can lead to be nasty in the future

koco

well first of all if your old enough to be married and have been married for five years and feel bed for meeting up with him obviously if your not cheating your considering it. how would your husband feel and put yourself in his shoes how would you feel if he were doing it? would you consider it cheating? Please don't ruin your marriage if it is a good one because I am really sick of marriages not working out. How bout you meet up with your husband instead and yall have a good night. Its not cheating but its the first step to cheating

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Yes this is cheating. You are already having problems with your husband, this is only going to make it worse. When you meet up with your old crush feelings are going to crop up and you're going to think the grass is greener if you hook up with the old crush. You're headed for trouble.

LeeLynn

Yes it is an emotional affair.....and you know it or you wouldn't be asking....end it and tell ur husband...that would be the smartest...

Lindsay

Talking and meeting up with an old flame isn't cheating. But the fact that you haven't told your husband means that there's more to this in your mind than just friendship, and there-in lies the problem. If you can comfortably tell your husband about what you say and do with your friend, then I don't see any reason you can't keep seeing him. But if you can't bring yourself to mention it, it's either time to break-off the "friendship" or end the marriage. You can't have both - at least not for long.

UR cheating...your having an emotional affair...and if you think your not cheating..then why havent you told your husband.

what if the shoe were on the other foot?

grneyes8621

You feel guilty because you know what's in your heart. You know that if you meet him something will happen. Best thing to do is work on your marriage and get it off the rocks, don't make it worse by cheating. That won't solve your problems.
As far as the other guy, people are rarely like we remember them. We think about a memory, the real person rarely measures up to the memory.

AANDREAA

hold ur horses lady one guy at at time

teenie

You are getting ready to cheat on your husband how would you like it if your husband was chatting with his high school sweet heart behind your back. Put yourself in his shoes what would you do ? After just 5 years of marriage you are ready to throw in the towel. Don't do something stupid you will be sorry for later on but by then it will be to late. What your going through is pretty normal everyone thinks about leaving there spouse when things ain't going the way you think they should. Some do leave when there is another person involved and 9 out of 10 that do leave want to come back home.

missnasa2001

Ok I'll amuse you and tell you what you already know. Yes it's cheating. Emotional, will probably get physical cuz I'm sure you'll hook up.

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