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luv2help
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.It is cheating, but not hard core. Why do you say your husband is hiding away studying? Studying is hard, you need quiet and I assume he is studying to further his career and make a better life for you guys. I understand wanting the attention, which is normal. However, if you don't plan on leaving your husband, end it. If you haven’t happy with your husband, end your marriage. No doubt it will be hard on the kids either way. It would be hard if their dad caught you cheating, it would be hard if you left him for this guy. Because there is so much uncertainty with the other guy, I would stick to the stable environment. You are automatically going to find things wrong with your husband and you would the new guy too if you left your husband for him. But, things with your husband may be magnified because you got this other guy who is doing nothing, but good things. Remember, that will change too. The grass is never greener on the other side |
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ideratherbefishin
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Wow.....you at least owe your husband the courtesy of telling him you are a two timing tramp who doesn't value the life and committment both of you have made. |
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Pumpkinfishing
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Yes this is cheating. Your married with kids. This is not the time to be selfish. Your priorities are out of whack! You need to cut ALL ties with this guy. This grass is not always greener on the other side. BEWARE!!! |
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Brown Water Drinker
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You've banged the dude. You left that part out. Be honest. |
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ladyren
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He's married, and so are you.
Grow up, step to the plate, and be a moral wife, and mother.
What ARE you thinking????? |
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braideninge
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yes, and you are getting played you deserve everything that is coming your way |
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Toadstool
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It sounds to me like you aren't mature enough to handle marriage or a relationship in general. Once you're married, you have to stop looking for people! You don't keep looking and even if you find someone who seems like a potential match, you just have to steer clear of that path. I think your " guy friend" deserves a good *** kicking from your husband, and you deserve a divorce. Your man deserves better. Sorry.
Also, think of it this way. If your guy friend was willing to support cheating, what makes you think he will be so loyal if the two of you do decide to start a committed relationship? He'll be on the lookout for other lonely married women and will cheat on you and break your heart. Make up your mind, between a loving and dedicated hard working husband who you have children with, or this strange creeper who wants you in the sack and has no proof of committment, especially if him and his ex wife divorced over a house fire :S |
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JeckER . Keep your inner PEACE!
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At first it wasint.
but then you made out
so now yes it's considere cheating |
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Love!
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Yeah, that's cheating. |
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jdm7194
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Definitely cheating - you took a vow to be faithful to your husband. Why don't you see a counselor with your husband to find out what's wrong with your marriage instead of being unfaithful. You could put all that effort into your marriage and it might get back to being worth fighting for. |
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workin on my self-esteem
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yes your children wil hate you, and you will deserve it. I'm sorry, but if your not happy, then LEAVE your husband! Don't put your family through your infidelity. |
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thatartistwin
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Why are you even asking whether your kids will be messed up? Clearly your own childish and selfish need for excitement matters more to you than they do or you would have not done it in the first place. Why not just leave the kids and husband to run off with this low class clown who thinks it is OK to cheat with a married woman? Then he can cheat on you and you will get what you deserve. I cannot stand people like you. |
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goodman
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Yes it's cheating. Emotional cheating. Physical cheating. The only way to find out what'll happen next is to take the next step.
Think about it; do you want to leave your husband? Sounds like yes.
Do you want to leave your husbands AND your kids (you are virtually an adulteress, after all)? Yes/no?
Why did he get the kids when he broke up with his wife? Was she cheating on him?
Where is his wife in all of this and what will you do if his wife contacts your husband with her suspicions?
Either run forward or run away. Either confess and simply tell your husband that you met a guy that was giving you attention and you realized that it made you realize he was not and caused you to doubt your marriage, or tell your husband that you've waited too long without him showing you attention and you're going somewhere else. I personally think the first choice is the better one. At least it gives your husband a chance to change. |
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FaceInTheCrowd
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What does, "sort of" made out mean? If he's a friend he's a friend, but if you take it to that level, then, not appropriate anymore if you're married with kids. |
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Cassie
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You made out with another man. That's cheating! I hope you get caught. |
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hotmoma
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Yes you are a cheater. |
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holly76
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dont be stupid. you have allowed your friendship to possibly put your marriage in jeopardy and your child is a witness.. slow down check out what you might be risking and dont do it its not worth it |
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Quasimodo
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"But, I don't know what the future would be like if my husband found out? "
Care to wager a guess what it'd be like?
Not as unpleasant for him as it would be for you. |
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kay
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First where did you meet him?? Tell him to get a life |
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summer dawn
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the grass is always greener on the other side.. your husband must have wooed you in the beggining aswell after all you married him so he definitley had your interest then.. but often times thigns in a marraige get flat and boring and you both end up feeling unapreciated... the key to surviving these bouts in a marraige is to communicate how your feeling about things and sometimes we just have to surf through it .. every relationship has its dry spells and if you leave your hubby for this guy eventually the novelty will wear off and your going to get into the same sort of rut again... and then your back at square one... alot of people ive talked to that have been married for years tell me the same things... that they go through spells were they didnt like eachother much even a year or 2 at a time but if you can surf through it you always come out the other end... why dotn you pour the same effort your putting into this man into your marraige?? Cheating is wrong and it teaches children the wrong message.. if your marraige is bad and you have tried couples counselling and Both of you are putting effort in then you need to get a divorce BUT stop seeing that man wether you get a divorce or not .. you need time to work through things before you go jumping into another relationship like that... i am not judging you because we all go through slumps in a marraige i really am just letting you know that it is normal and a part of a long term commitment.. it takes alot of hard work to keep one going ... and beleive me when i say this guy is only exciting for now.. it will wear off and be no different than right now.... that is the reason so many marraiges fail .. people get addicted to the honeymoon period and end up relationship jumping all the time to feeed their addiction ... is that really what you want to start at this point in your life... walk away from this situation before it bites you in the butt.. i wish you and your family all the best.... |
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loveradsrn
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yes .....sorry but you are cheating ..... |
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AlchikZ
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Reverse the situation and see how you would feel. Either stop it or get a divorce. |
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Anjela
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Yes it's cheating. Stop communication with this guy and write him off -make it stop right now. |
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Michael T
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I think you are cheating. You husband is probably still thinking about the message even if he isn't saying anything. I bet he knows more than you think. I hope he is forgiving. You should give up this guy and stop contact with him. It's up to you how much you reveal to your husband. You might need counseling. Your husband might too.
And this guy? He's had one failed marriage and seems to have no qualms about messing up yours. |
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Melissa
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Yes it is cheating.
You gotta talk to your husband.. you shouldn't continue to lie about it. |
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me
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Ask your husband if it's cheating. It's going to end badly for all ... you will never solve any marriage problems by going outside the marriage. If you choose to continue I wonder if you'd think differently if your husband gets full custody of the kids. Your husband and children deserve better ... grow up. |
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♥Sabre♥
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Your guy " friend " should know better than to try dating someone who is married. what do you think your husband is going to do when he DOES find out.. say oh okay honey you made out with some guy thats ok? come on - he is probably going to leave you -
just because your starved for attention doesnt mean you should cheat if your that unhappy at home DIVORCE and move on |
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Extraordinary Machine.
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It's called emotional cheating, and is very common. have a talk with your husband about how you want so much more in your relationship, and if you two are willing to do a lot of work you'll forget about this guy. tell your husband years from now, after everything has settled down. and the kids would be SO disappointed. |
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Mickeys is so hurt
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I wonder if your husband has saw this?
D.I.V.O.R.C.E. |
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KelBear
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Stop this, stop this now. You need to set down and have a serious talk with your husband before things go entirely way too far. Every man has flaws no matter how great he seems. Do you really want to throw your relationship with your husband down the drain? |
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