Is this fair?

reconflux

I would expect you to pay them back 100% because you canceled the honeymoon. If something your husband did caused you to cancel the honeymoon and it is HIS FAULT, then you shouldn't have to pay for anything.

OleMarbleEyes

I would say let your husband deal with this one, I personally don't feel you owe her anything. My daughter called off her wedding after being engaged for over a year.

Many plans got cancelled, many dollars not returned. Personally I applaud her for doing so because she felt something wasn't right. In her case, that turned out to be the truth.

You didn't ask them to pay for the honeymoon, it was a gift. Not all gifts fit and some have to be returned.

brwneyedgrl

Ok, 1st yes it was a gift.. and u cant take back a gift once its given nor can u decide what they do with that gift once its given.. so tech. she's in the wrong..

Now u do need to realize that 1000.00 is alot of money and they did give u that gift with the intention that u'd be using it.. and for them thats 1000.00 down the drain.. which is unfair to them..

To make peace in the family i would pay her back the 1000.00 if u dont this is going to cause a wedge between u and the mom.. and it will become the bases of your relationship with his family through out the course of your marriage, which WILL cause problems for you and more so for your HUSBAND.. so although ur in the right to do what u want with a gift.. if u dont take the higher road the lasting affects will be even worse.. so my oppinion is bite the bullet, even though u know ur in the right.. just give them back their money.. and from now on dont accept any "big" gifts from them because u know now there are always going to be possible "strings" attached to them..

Mike

It was a gift from them and they were in no way obligated to pay for your honeymoon but choose to do so for not just your part but there sons also.

silly billy

Unfair! That was a gift to you. Tell them they are indian-givers! haha

angelhart47

I'd just have to say it depends on the relationship you would like to have with your new in-laws.

Quociana L

really it was a gift so they should be glad to get anything back from it. but if its something that's really bothering you why don't you give them 500, half from you and half from your husband. you guys probably could have just rescheduled it and not had to give a dime back or at least sold it to someone else.

your in laws shouldn't be pressuring you about this simply because it was a wedding present, had the 2 of you gone on your honeymoon, they wouldn't have gotten anything back.so its really kind of selfish on her part.

nwnativeprincess

I WOULD SAY PAY 1/2 BACK.

misydoll

They felt they were being nice to pay for your honeymoon, the least you can do is pay them back for what you didn't use. You are being unfair unless you give them all there money back.

You are at the cross roads honey,Yes it is unfair however you now have to decide whether or not you ever want to have a peaceful,respecting relationship with your in-laws. mother in laws are tuffer then judges and some more then others may even be like drill Sargent's. Maybe your husband should talk to his mother and tell her it is kinda selfish for her to expect you to pay for something you didn't ask for,and that it shows it was not a gift given out of love because if it was nothing would be asked for it in return.And another thing it almost takes you to another level by her wanting you to pay back the money for a gift think about if yall had of went on this honeymoon You would be paying back for that for the rest of your life. I say that because it doesn't sound like your in-laws did this out of niceness or anything it is almost like look at we did for you kinda thing. anyway good luck I hope it works out for you.

rookie

First thing is that you got half and your husband got half. If you were to pay it back you would only owe 500. 00 ... If it were a present how could anyone ask for their present back..Use your own judgement on this. I've lost several presents from bad deals from former son in laws, and I kicked myself and got back to what was more important,My little Girls. Get back to your Husband .

ohiofirefighter42

While I don't feel like you are not obligated to repay them since they gave it as a gift. BUT you will have to deal withthe inlaws for the rest of your life, might be a good idea to just pay them. Sometimes you just have to do what keeps the peace. The next time your in-laws offer to pay for something you and your husband should just decline the offer.

fungirl

No don't start giving in to your mother in law now. They paid for it therefore they weren't expecting you to pay them back if you went. You gave them have of it back she shouldn't have asked that is very nervy!!!!!!!! Make sure your husband backs you on this!!

LeeLynn

Heck..no I would stop worrying about this. Is was a gift... Why doesn't her son pay?

paul m

Wait, I don't understand....did you marry this guy or not? If you DID marry him and these are your in-laws, then no, this was a gift to you........if you did NOT marry him then yes, you should re-paid what was not used.

Liz

When she paid for the honeymoon, it was a gift from her to you and your husband. Once a gift is given, it is the recipient's to do with as they choose. No, you do not reimburse someone for a gift.
On a side note, limit your contact with your in-laws. They sound controlling, manipulative and toxic.

Shannon P

it was a gift, don't give in. if she is being this anal about it, I guarantee you she will damage this relationship further by taking you small claims court. let the judge decide.

Flame

Considering that she expects you to pay her back,she seems overgenerous to have paid for it in the first place.Anyway,no you don't really have to.It isn't your fault that they only returned half the amount.However,if you and your hubby want to keep the peace,perhaps you should although,no,it really isn't fair.Perhaps you and your husband should discuss about paying half-n-half.It might seal her lips.In-laws are for loving.Cheers!

John

You need to decide that one ...who important is the relationship with your husbands mother.......You are right in your contention that a gift is a gift and what you do with it is your business...... But your now related to this woman .... she will have a metiforical key to your house & life as long as you are married ... to ya really wanna "tick" her off.... I mean are they loaded and does she spend a grand on a pair of shoes .... or do they work very hard to save that gift money .....
I don't envy your position ... but if I love my husband and wanna keep him and be on good terms with his family ..... repayment may be the right option....

talk if over with your husband..... just remember if you both decide to not repay the (mother's gift) obligation ... she will assign you the blame for it ....'cause her baby boy would never do that to his mother....

I wish ya the best .... Choose well.

Rica 82

It was a gift. If you would've went on the honeymoon would she be asking you for the money she spent on it? Plus she already got half the money she spent back. She didn't even give it to the two of you, even though, it was a present. Don't give it back. And if your husband has a problem, tell him to pay her back. It was a present.

deakjone

I would acknowledge the "paid honeymoon" as a wedding present... and no matter what you and your husband did with it... cash it in... take the trip... cancel it... is how the two of you "used" your gift... You and your husband are also entitled to keep the half cost refund, and to do with it as you like... Tell your mother-in-law to try that on her next daughter-in-law... The gift was given... It's out of her hands...

MissJ

Like you said, you didn't ask for them to pay for the honeymoon.

The transaction to purchase the trip was between your in laws and the company, correct? The transaction to refund the money was also just between your in laws and the company... she should negotiate with the company for the remainder of her money, but I don't think you owe her anything.
The whole purchase was out of your hands. Of course since she IS now your mother in law... maybe paying her back would be the only way to keep the peace in the future.
See if she'll bargain with you about the amount.

Quasimodo

I never had a problem like this. You people all need some type of professional help. You won't find it here either.

ric6k9

if you canceled then you pay if it got canceled for some reason out side of your world then no harm no foul but in this case you did it so you pay

john

just ask your husband for the money.

deep5223

Peace in the family is worth more thant $1000. Pay her back, even if a little at a time. She may forgive you and the debt if she feels you are trying, but she will always hold a grudge if you don't try. Some people are just that way.

a1_friend64

No it might not be fair, but hey did it for you and him so to save problems just give it up and forget about it

jbmasterdragon

I would just pay that way in the end you don't have to worry if they will use it on you later

eejonesaux

Hi,,, hmmm,,,, they bought this as a gift to you???

this may strain the relationship even further,, but F U C Mmmm..

good luck

when you get divorced ,, call me !!

R C

Hey was it a gift??? Cause if it was do not pay back a dime!!!

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