Is this wrong?

ange f

I agree with you, its wrong. He wouldnt like you texting an ex boyfriend im sure

gurllucky7

Hell yeah its wrong. Whats there to talk to his ex about. Especially if u are married. He shouldnt be talkin to her, he should be focusing on his baby and u.

Natterjack9

Honestly, I think it's a bad idea. I have been married 14 years and have 2 kids. I have only seen my ex-girlfriends when I have accidentally run into them or seen them at class reunions. I did send my ex-girfriend and her mom and brother a sympathy card when her dad died (suddenly from a heart attack, was in great shape) but that was the extent of it, and my wife knew. She actually thought that it wasn't a bad idea, a gesture of good will in a tough time. I got a thank you card back, but that was the extent of the contact. In your case I think that your husband is wrong.

emeka79

You have every right to be asking questions and its not wrong. Like the first person stated, if they share a child then i wouldnt lok to much into it but if not you need to keep an open mind. Does he tell you what they talk about, seen a text message she has wrote to him, or sharing the his thoughts with her??

teach

There is emotional adultery as well as physical adultery...

ERIK H DUNCAN

OK look what you have to do, the first think is to know if you have conference with the person you love, that means with good communication and understand your man and you self, you can make exercises with you boy for make a text what he wants, what the most part he love you, and you do the same thing and don't forget and the end you start taking about and you will feel conference it will help you for get out your questions and the same thing will help for relationship, and he want make the attention what you really want, if you need help with it let me know i will help you..(technoerikk@yahoo.com) good luck

Michael T

i think its wrong too text an ex

American Beauty

Actually, the issue here is that it bothers you. That should be enough for him to stop the behavior.

I think that you can trust him. He's not hiding this from you so the chances are that he is not cheating.

rich2481

tell him to knock it off, if he has not done it all along then I would say he is feeling a bit lonely in the bedroom,

springer

Because it bothers you it is wrong.
My ex called his affair just friendship. We are now divorced, the frienships start out that way , but turn in to affairs. Its called friendship with benefits. My ex was going with my youngest sister. I did not want to believe it either. It took me 10 years to finally say enough friendship. People will not tell you that they are having an affair , I don't know why. Afterwards, they will tell you they knew of the affair.
Tell him to stop . If he loves you he will understand

island3girl

if htey dont have children together, then there is NO reason for him to be communicating with her AT ALL.

wondermom

I think it is a matter of respect. No matter what their relationship is or is not, it is upsetting and distressing you and putting a strain on your relationship. If it is that upsetting or important to you, and you are more important to him than she is, he should stop it.
If you don't trust him, then that is an issue you need to really think about.

48Special

Yes it is wrong!!!! If they were just friends then why did he break off with her? You should be his best friend now!! What would they have to talk about? Maybe you should have a talk with him about it and tell him that your not liking this at all and you feel it's wrong. If he continues to disregard your feelings then maybe you should find a male friend to have conversation with. But what does the ex think about him being married and starting a family now and still keeping in contact with her. You must put your foot down and try and put a stop to this before it gets worse.

bubblyboo

It's very wrong. He is wrong as hell. No doubt about that.

steinerrw

It IS wrong. He should be texting you. Put your foot down on his head and maybe he'll get a hint.

Me, myself, & I

THats wrong, and I'd be furious!! He has no business doing that!

Rick46

Your being pregnant might have something to do with your feelings. You do need to trust him. If what he says is true he might want to consider showing you a message to ease your mind. I have never been able to have a good friendship with an ex, but I suppose it is possible for some.

kay kay

He needs to not talk to her.You are right to be selfish.....he's your man not her's anymore.Yeah you should trust him,but he should also be respectful to your feelings and your opinion about the situation.Honestly though, i think the overall question is do you reallt trust him???? Cause if not than you are probably gonna have other problems like this.....

bouncybaby

Yes- if its upsetting your relationship with him- then its wrong- you and him should come first.Anyway- why? does he find a need to keep in touch with her? he must have other friends- so can manage without her,that's not selfish of you at all- what can he tell her-that he cant tell you?- unless its about you-in which case-he shouldn't be discussing anything about your marriage to an "ex".Have time out to cool down,then sit and talk it over with him,tell him how you feel,he should honour and respect your wishes- he promised to-in your wedding vows.Hope you can work it out before it blows out of proportion, best wishes.

orange_sandwhich

Personally, an ex is someone I choose to pretty much have nothing to do with, especially if i'm in a new relationship.
We broke up for a reason, why would I want to hang around them or talk to them?

I would be feeling the same as you, perhaps just bring this up with him in a non-confronting way......there are rare cases where ex-es really can "just be friends"......but like I said...it's very rare.

spunkygirl77

I don't know.....that is a hard question because it kind of depends on the person. I mean I have had exes that I did not mind had girls and ex-girlfriends for friends and others that I would not trust to save my life. I guess you have to ask yourself how strong is your relationship? Have you had problems in the past? You can be the only one to truly know if you can trust him!! Good Luck!!

VeeBee

I think it is wrong! He is using his time to text her and respond to her questions and giving her advice, support what have you and his devotion, communication, support and focus should be on you and his soon to arrive child. He should not give you any undue stress at this time. Also it seems like she has definitely not gotten over him and is trying to use the friendship thing to see where it is that she exist in his world. With him making the time and taking the time to text her and answer her needs then he has clearly not set boundaries and let her know that he is dedicated and endlessly in love with you.

Bored Enough To Be Here

My husband is still civil towards a couple of his ex girlfriends, especially because they still have some shared friends. One of them started to email him more often and he innocently replied and even had lunch with her to catch up (he asked me first) until she started making it clear she wanted him... he made it painfully clear to her that it wasn't cool and she has even moved away.

So, maybe he's innocent but she has other intentions. Hopefully you can trust him to recognize if it is more than just friendly and he'll sever the relationship. Otherwise, maybe they were really just meant to be friends and it's ok.

Inneed

Its wrong if they still going out together and he's cheating on you but if he say it's friendly believe it for a while then if you see him coming home late because of being with her then it's wrong.

plumprump26

Yes it wrong...There's a reason why she's an ex...You better nip this in the bud ASAP. Before you back talking about you caught your husband cheating with the ex-girlfriend

BabeHeart

If the contact is not inappropriate, there is no reason someone in a relationship should not be able to maintain a friendship with an ex, and communicate with them.

If the contact is excessive or inappropriate, that's another story.

zajucomom

No it's wrong to text someone when your married. Especially if it's a ex.

Ally!

he should not be texting her, you need to confront him on it. it is wrong for him to do that your his wife and carrying his child you need to not let him do that

Calista

it's wrong! he doesnt need to be friends with her, he has you friend and lover.

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