Is this wrong not to want my daughter around this family member?

shelly

I think its fine as long as you are looking out for your child, and not doing it for personal reasons.

xpantsssonfire

it is perfectly fine. she said herself that she hates you and your daughter. If your husband knows this, he should respect it. Since she said that, she could be dangerous to you and even more you daughter.

Trixie

If she hates you and your daughter - than no hard feelings should even be "felt" by her not seeing you guys... I would NEVER let anybody around my children who said that they hated them... Do something special with your daughter while she's here visiting and let your husband visit with his witchy daughter - maybe he can knock some sense into her!

Purple

You are the mother you do what you have to, to protect your child.

KellyJelly

Any mother in her right mind would not want this chick to be around her child!

The thing that is the most dis-concerning is that she outright said she hated you and our daughter. You have seen the news where kids are killing kids right? She is probably majorly jealous of y'all taking away her daddy's attention.

I would trust your gut, i you have a bad feeling go with it. I would tell your husband what his daughter said, and that you don't want them together unsupervised...if at all.

Maybe your husband can make arrangements to go see her? (instead of her coming to your house)

Tyler

You have every right to not want her around your daughter. Especially if she hates you and your daughter anyway. You definitely have good reasons for not wanting them around each other. I hope I helped!!!

lilyblue_2000

You are under no obligation to even give that woman the time of day, much less have her around your daughter. She has made it clear how she feels, so do politely tell her that you prefer that she not see your daughter. In fact, let your husband handle it with his daughter. You and your daughter don't have to be around while she's there.

Dan T

Explain this to your husband and tell him you are conserned for you daughters safety/wellbeing and tell him your as much as a parent as he is and he should listen to you.

Wolfmoon

No, there is nothing wrong with trying to protect your child from this monster. Do w/e it takes. If your hubby can't see anything wrong with it then you'll have to make him understand or just take matters in your own hands to make sure you keep them apart.

Squelvin

i'd just do all i could to avoid her. husband should really understand. if he doesn't, you tell him that squelvin said this was the thing to do. he can blame me and not you that way. for cryin out loud, the adult daughter has dropped the toddler and expressed a hatred for you and your kid. that should really be reason enough!

you don't say how long the bad daughter will be around, but if it's a short time, maybe this is a good time for you to visit some relatives yourself.

friendlystranger65

I was critical of what you were saying until you got to the last line. Family life is a negotiated settlement, but you don't have to accommodate someone who hates you.

Heather

she still needs a relationship w/ her dad. if you dont feel comfortable, go visit your family w/ your daughter while she's there. if this isnt an option suggest that she stay somewhere other than your home and let your husband visit w/ her as much as they want.

Lacrosse dude

tell your husband what she said to you and your 4 year old...and tell her that what she said to you and your 4 year old you want nothing to do with her until she says sorry!

xBMW M3 GTR

if she doesnt show respect for you, dont let her near u or ur family. explain that to him

i know this

eww shes sounds so evil! why would she say something so mean i wouldnt have my kid around someone who says that about my kid. cant trust her.

likesfemalefeet

I think you answered your own question. Just tell your husband 'nicely' just why you don't want her seeing your daughter.

SHRINGARIKA DEVI

Make sincere concern and care
to your daughter,as you are her
mother.

Nightwind: Adipose says Hi!

Its sounds like you're being reasonably protective of your child, and its a bit disconcerting that your husband is not if this person really dropped your baby! Also, I think it perfectly reasonsable that you do not want someone in your house who flat out states she hates you. It's your house. She needs to learn some basic respect.

On the other hand, the angst here seems to be at least partially two-way. If you really didn't have a problem with her being gay or Wiccan, you wouldn't be telling us about it. I agree that flaunting is obnoxious (regardless what you're flaunting), but to say she shouldn't even be proud of what she is implies a whole lot of negativity on your part. How would you feel if someoe told you you should be ashamed of your husband? Because that's what it sounds like when you say she shouldn't be proud of being gay.

Penny A (Vanessa)

You've got every right to say you don't want your daughter to see her - and I don't blame you one little bit, I wouldn't want my children to be exposed to her either.

Maybe you could say something like this to your husband 'I don't feel comfortable seeing her, especially since she said she hated me and I would rather do without the drama, could we please just refuse her request to visit?' or something like that.

Kerie K

Very simple: Insist that if you all get together, it is in a public place, and your husband is to be there the whole time. If your husband won't agree, wish him well and send him off to visit her somewhere other than your home. I have lived this scenario, and it's best to stay clear of his daughter at least until she comes to you and says she is past her feelings of hatred. There isn't really a 'nice' way to put it because you have to stand up for your daughter and yourself. Your husband needs to lay down some expectations of his daughter, and if he won't, he should be prepared to visit her away from his new family. Best wishes ... this is a tough one, I know!

glossygurl59

Talk to ur husband about it.....and just keep a watch on ur daughter and what his daughter does around ur child..

Super G

You have every right to avoid her and protect your daughter. But in order to encourage reconciliation, I would talk to her about why you are keeping your daughter away from her and let her know that you will always be welcoming of her if she is willing to cooperate within the morals of your home.

Also, you could talk to your daughter about her if she is intelligent enough to understand.

AMBA!

I wouldnt do it. it sounds dangerous. do you know her good. Because what if she hurt your kid. if shes only 4 and tha other daughtr is gay and hates this one then it sounds like it could be a child melesting situation. trust me! you dont want that to happen. it will ruin her life emotionally. Take it 4rm someone who has been in a similar situation!!! â™¥

goodluck!

Marsha

Remind him as a prent he ALSO has duty to protect his child. If he won't you will. As far as you not taking his daughter's crap personally-HA! I certainly would. She is 20, not 12 and no longer a child. I hate to point out the very obvious, but she means no goodwill toward you or your baby. Someone has to be a protective parent. I guess if these things hurt her 'feelings' oh, well. She'll just call her freaky gay friends and cast a spell, or whatever it is they do.
Sorry to hear that your husband is not 100% in support of you.

hmm....

well if she dose end up coming then maybe you can send your doughter to stay with your parents while she is there... or you can be by your daughteres side all the time she is there...... or you can discuss with your husband that you do not feel that your 4 yr old should be arounf this girl and tell him that she has threatened you in a way

Wilma S

I say trust your instincts. If you are afraid it is going to cause a rift between you and your husband just make sure your daughter is never alone with her.

sean

you dont have to say nicely if she said she hated you.
im sure she wont care since she hates you and your daughter anyways..
ignore her, and avoid her.. you owe her no explanation.. if your husband wants to tell her then thats his buisness.

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