Is yelling/anger a part of a healthy marriage?

johnnysunshine11

It's not. Have you ever seen how redneck and immature a couple looks in public arguing or yelling at each other? It's just as ridiculous at home. It's not healthy particularly with children in the home and any couple who allows it probably won't stand the test of time since respect doesn't allow yelling at your mate.

Just Surfin

Depends on how it's expressed and whether it resolves anything.

No marriage is all roses and song all the time. Arguments happen.

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Alison

I don't think yelling is, but anger....sure. Everybody gets angry. I think it would be very unhealthy if married people didn't get angry at eachother. Once in a while that is. :)

Hercules Rockerfeller

No but it'll lead to part of a healthy divorce.

Lonestar

It can happen, but it's not a healthy habit to get into. Both my wife and I try to work things out and listen to one another so it doesn't reach that point.

TRIXIE

no.

Pussycat

NO. Marriage needs good and open communication. Husband and wife need to exchange their opinions or thoughts freely though, Yelling/anger are just explosive way of expressing emotions. Non- judgmental still straightforward communication/conversation should be in a healthy marriage.

Rx4u

It is unhealthy to bottle up anger. It leads to heart disease and depression and some even say cancer. Being angry certainly isn't good for you and unaddressed it eventually manifests itself on the outside on a person's face. You know you've seen those people that it shows on..It's okay to get angry and yell once in awhile. If you get into it, it's best to diffuse it with laughter at the situation.Yelling and screaming kills each other's spirit and your marriage. Once it starts, try stopping it by being the first one to break it by giving a hug or having some kind of signal that you think it's getting out of control.

Guy D

Not yelling, but ARGUING.

justsome_guy16

No its not. I find it very sad to see marriages and even relationships going on like that. I have three sisters and they have all been in bad relationships. One night I was taking a nap and I was living with one of my sisters for the time being. Her boyfriend and her were having an argument and last I heard the door slam and he took off in his truck. She was crying so I said come sit in my lap and I will comfort you. She kept saying that he was allways right and she was allways wrong and I said no he is not allways right. What I should of done is came in there and told him to leave, I dont ever want to see you around here again. Realizing what kind of man I was thinking I used to pick on my sister alot when we were younger until I was about 16 or 17 and I didnt really pick on her anymore. Now I have been really sticking my neck out for her and one of my other sisters. my other sister seems to get on my case for nothing. It is allmost like she wanted me to hit her a couple of times. I never would hit her. I usually just left or got away from her.

roger

Absolutely NOT!
It's not managing differences well--period.
Occasionally, one might raise one's voice in frustration--but both should know that this is a mistake--to be absolutely minimized.
A key thing to note is that men can get noisy easily
and women can can be more easily offended by such noise
Managing all differences WELL is the key
Differences can be honored--and should not elevate to the conflict level
Look in Wikipedia under "relationship education"-- look for basic principles

Sugar_Plum

I suppose it's normal.

Tho, when my husband and I argue and one or the other starts shouting we ask the other not to. Then we talk it out. But, when my husband is very angry, he does shout and get angry. On the plus side we never go to bed mad, now that's part of a healthy marriage.

Vitiran

Yes!! Well, no really. Getting angry and yelling is normal (kinda). But should never be directed at your partner.

Everyone has a right to get angry and will mostly likely get angry while in a marriage (as with any close relationship -- especially one that is new). And one can get so angry as they want to yell (and should if they feel that way).

However, getting angry and yelling doesn't even have to be around their partner. Do it outside. Yelling at someone doesn't help anything. In fact, it destroys a relationship. Who wants to be yelled at? I don't know of anyone who has said "Stop talking to me in that intimate, understanding way and start yelling at me in that angry, unbearable tone!"

One who has really become enlightened also knows that your partner never gets you angry. YOU become angry. It's always a choice.

Hope that helps.

Janet W

No not at all. It's destructive. Why would you think that yelling is healthy and sitting down with some self control and talk is not a better way to handle your lives together. This is a very sad question.

Say it Like it Is :)

I think if I was able to yell i would be healtheir.

soyousay

You know, i think it has a lot to do how you were raised. If your parents yelled at each other, and that was their communication style well that's how kids learn how to handle situation. However, if your partner had the family that sat down and talked things things out... They may look at you like your crazy,and why are you yelling, when they are in the same room as you?

GunsNRoses

Yes! Definitely! Its part of the communication process. We cannot read minds by telepathic ways. Its very hard to keep the wife [a woman in general] fully happy happy every single day in and day out, sometimes you need to speak your mind out, when necessary.
Never! Never bottle up anger deep inside or else you will explode at the last minute and may cause more damage to the unknown situation. Always vent out the steam somewhere safe.
I always try very hard not to make the beautiful wife mad or angry, because I know the outcome consequences and also it cause wrinkles on her face, because of the frowns. I much rather see that happy glowing face than a frown, sad/depressed, worried, droopy look.

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