Isn't child support for the child?

â€¢*Â´`*â™¥Valenciaâ™¥*Â´`*â€¢

I totally agree!! the money should cover the child's expenses, I hate the way women exploit kids in their divorce and use them as a personal bank account! It's up to the father to pitch in in other expenses they shouldn't be obligatory since they get a big percent taken out of their check to pay for child support

chevalrose

Well, child support goes to food and clothing, it doesnt always cover the extra things, like braces, yearbooks, limos for prom, etc, etc.

donutgonuts

I think there's a bigger problem at hand... you watching Dr. Phil. Please get some help.

Madame Blueberry!~

That's my understanding of how it goes.

But there are some parents that like to do extra, and I think they're great!

Pete

A child is for life, and Christmas, birthdays, school trips etc....... Should have used a rubber too huh ?

ken401lam

Wife is suppose to manange money, but in today's world, everything is rising beside your salary. So if you kid need more money for school supplies, what is wrong with that? A new uniforms, because he is growing. Year book to be more into school activities. School supplies for school use. Which part is it for the ex wife.
Or rather you just want to use the money and buy beer?

hi!girl

sometimes the measly child support just isn't enough! some men just have no clue what it takes financially to raise a child.

redpeach_mi

i can agree with that. but most women get a fraction of what it really costs to provide for a child in one month. it's not like the mother was asking for more money for herself, it was for the kids. it really depends on a number of things. who was providing health insurance for the children? how much was he paying in child support? we don't know enough about the situation to make an assumption.

Yam King 7

Whatever the judge ordered is what the man has to pay.
Anything over that is at the man's discretion.

mikah_smiles

It costs a lot to raise a child. If mom is spending all the child support money on handbags and shoes, then the ex shouldn't be paying for that, but sometimes kids can be really expensive (illnesses, clothing, shoes, school supplies), and mom might need some extra help to cover that. Child support might not be enough to cover those extra costs.

annswers

Yes -- it is to help in the support of the child (food, shelter, clothing, transportation, school activities, extra expenses ..). It is never enough. The cost of raising a child properly is much more than the court defines.

jens4real

Because the money from child support is not nearly enough to pay for a child's living expenses. Maybe the father should have to tell the child "no" sometimes when they want something.

Yes it's suppose to be for the child, but I'd be willing to bet that 99% of it goes to the Mama to do whatever she wants with it. I know quite a few cases of this personally

Racer X

A divorce attorney will be the first to tell you that the money can be used in anyway needed to raise and care for the child. This can be directly to the child in the way of clothing, school needs, etc.; or it can be in less direct ways like paying utilities to keep the heat and lights on where the child lives, or to help make a car payment so the custodial parent has reliable transportation with which to transport the child to and from where ever he/she needs to be.

In short, the payor can't designate where the payee spends the money.

Ginny

yes the money is soppose to be used that way, but it dosen't always work out that way.

Spring

The goverment doesn't see it that way , As long as the child lives in the house with the other parent her or she can use the money how ever they see fit . ie : the electric bill , rent , even a car payment .
I know because my husband goes threw the same thing .

Yes the child support should be for the child. Not for the mom, but some mothers take advantage of that since the child doesn't know better.

Marc X

She CAN call up the ex and ask him to pay for the kid's field trip to the moon. Doesn't mean he has to pay it. He's already been orderd, by the court, to pay a certain amount, and that is his obligation. If she wants to change it, then she needs to go back to court and provide evidence that the child's best interest is incontravertibly served AND that the ex has the financial capability of paying the additional support.

I'm sure we'd ALL love to have our kids in the latest peer pressure fashions if we could JUST get someone else to pay for it.

lotsandlots

If the child lived with you, you would be spending way more money than you give her in child support. Its your child, why is money an issue. Does your child have cloths, food, and a place to stay? I am sure your child support does not cover it all. Its a year book, and school supplies. Not like she is asking you to give her money to live a lavish lifestyle.

aquarius

Child support is court ordered, so legally, the ex isn't required to pay any more than that. Whether or not the ex chooses to pay more is up to his/her discretion and personal moral code. If the parents are communicating with each other and cooperating in the rearing of the child, any large expenditures should be agreed upon by both parents.

KitKat

Yes, that money is for the child, but who has the every day feeding and care of this child? If the man is paying $200 a month in support, the wife's portion should also be $200 a month, right? Well, who can raise a child for $400 a month? If the child support is being used for something like rent, which is for the child, since a roof overhead is a necessity, there may not be enough left over from what the mother makes to afford extras like year books and school supplies.
The mother does spend her own on the child in terms of rent/mortgage, lights, telephone, gas for the car to take said child places, car insurance so the child is protected in the event of an accident, clothes, shoes, food, doctor/dentist, medicine, the list goes on and on.
It just absolutely kills me that men can sit there and say, "I pay you X amount of money every month, you should manage it better for the kid. That way I can take all the extra money I have from not having all these extra kid-related expenses and blow it on my blonde girlfriend".

It is but most parents who are a single parent use it for food or for bills. I know when mu dad sent his check my mother already had the money for everything so it went to my college money!!! most parents just keep it for themselves and not the child.

dex_40033

That's my take on it but sometimes child support doesn't cover enough for other things like extra activities they want to do. If you get a greedy woman who all she wants is you to pay for everything plus spends the support on herself which a lot of low down women do then it's screw you I'm giving you child support so you use that for my child. Now if you get one that's willing to chip in as well then you can work out situations such as I speak. As you can see that's a sore spot with me because I have an x that uses the money I pay her for herself and my daughter doesn't have decent clothes at her other house so my wife and I buy her stuff to keep at our house. Listen at me venting :) sorry

suzanne m

Yes but I think it's only fair to pay half toward extra's like books and school uniforms. Ask to see the receipts and then give your Ex wife half.

King of Biscuits

There are many things that go into paying for the child. People often think it's just things specifically for the child, but as a single dad I can tell you that once I begin to receive my child support, it will probably go towards food, rent, bills, and such. These are things that also are needed by the child. Since I am single I also have child care which is a huge expense. If you think about it, the other person is only giving part of their check to the other while the other gives their money, time, personal life, and often sacrifices alot more than the other person.

renosgirl2006

does the mother have custody? the children are living with her? hmmm then if shouldn't be a problem for you to do that. You sound like someone i know very well.......

Dandelion

I think because like if you were still in the relationship you would have an idea of how much you were going to spend and thats what they use for the child support annual payment or whatever. But then things always come up like the child decides to join a team that costs money and you have to buy a bunch of stuff that you didnt know would have came up so it wouldn't be in the child support. The mom will cover a lot of that, such as even small fees for school outtings, but she wants you to help out with the extra stuff too. It cost a LOT to have a kid, especially when extra expenses come up if they join a sport team or get a hobbie, want toys, etc. It depends on how much you are willing to spend on your child for the extra things to pitch in and help the mom out. It's really hard being a single mom, living with two kids and working. It's a lot easier being just a single dad living alone with lots of free time for other things and only having the kids on weekends usually. Child support covers the neccesities of the kids, but when the mom calls asking for money so she can get the kids a year book that is up to you if you want to buy them that so they can have it when they are older.

mac babe

My mom used child support money to pay the rent so I had a roof over my head

Eleez

Child support is to help with the child's expenses, however, alot of times the court bases the amount of money on what the exhusband (or exwife) makes vs. the actual cost of raising a child. Therefore the paltry amount that the mother of said child receives, often isn't enough to cover the actual expenses. I've actually hears of a child support check coming in at $2.61. for an entire month. The mother then has every right to call ex-husband up to split the actual expenses for raising the child.

On the other side of this, there are those who will take advantage of the system, spend the check on themselves, and demand the ex to pay for the actual expenses.

There are 2 sides to every story, and i would imagine the situation is different with each couple.

steponme

It shouldn't have to be a matter of who pays for what. Both parents should try to use all of their finances to make the child comfortable, in school and in real life. Women often get stuck with the responsibilities of raising a a child when it should be up to both parents. This responsibility comes with finances that need to be paid. If the one parent cannot afford it, the other parent should step up if they can. Think about if the couple was together and raising their child. They would use their common resources to make the child happy. It shouldn't be any different if the parents are divorced or seperated.

Laura G

Children are expensive and costs come up daily. Yes, the child support is for the child. That support goes towards rent, utilities, lunches and other day to day expenses that go along w/having a family. There's always going to be extra expenses that the other parent simply may not be able to afford. Honestly, you think she wants to ask for more money??

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