Ive been with my fiancee for 6 years engaged for 3 i recently found out she been cheating. do i stay with her?

bill b

In your case, you have to explore the possible reasons for her cheating. You've known her for 6 years. That's long enough to know what kind of woman she is. Do you think there might be a reason for her cheating? What's her personality like? Is she just a 'ho', or do you think her reasons might go deeper? The two of you have a child together, and you've been playing dad to her child. After 6 years, why haven't the two of you gotten married? 3 years is a long time to be engaged. Are you one of those couples who just like saying "I'm his/her fiance" but have no solid plan on when you'll ever get married?

She just might be tired of waiting, and starting to think she'd be better off looking for a man who might actually want to marry her. She already has two kids, and she's no closer to getting married than she was after the first one.

I think the two of you really need to talk about what's going on with your relationship. Maybe with a counselor. You might need to step up to the plate/altar where marriage is concerned. Plenty of people get engaged, then never get married. At some point, it's fair game for one of them to start looking for someone who will.

That bald guy~

hell no you will not be happy if you stay together 4 just the kids

Smoby J

The simple answer would be No!

But it's never that easy when you love someone.

You need to figure out what you want and talk it through. Make sure she is willing to bring up the child with no more cheating and lying. If she is not willing to do that and you dont want to be hurt i suggest you leave and find someone who does. You can still raise your child:)

Aslong as your happy

Wim Wam Woozle

No. Break off the engagement.

binkyj1101

You need to figure out if you can trust her again. If you cant trust her, then its not worth it. There will be too much pain and problems. And you need to make sure she WONT cheat again. I know its hard when there is a kid, but you should NEVER stay with someone because of a kid.

mrs

leave

pinkjay34

leave her she is not worth it u deserve better

Scullycj

Pack your bags and GO...

****

Im sorry about that. People do get over their partner cheating on them and they try and work it out. You have children so its important you try for their sake. Speak to her and try and get your mind clear with it all so you can move ahead. Good luck to you.

hotvix1

you wont be able to live like that, evry time she goes out you will be thinkin who shes with and what shes doin. I would move out you will still be able to see your child

YapCYmixer

Speak to her about how you feel and find out if she is interested to turn back. It'll take a while for you to heal, and for her to adjust, but give her some time to decide to stay or to go- she can't have both.

Bring her to somewhere where you two can sit down quietly and talk, and analyze with her. You can't enforce on her to stay or leave coz she's the one who can stop herself from cheating. and it needs to come out of the love u have for her. before u approach and confront her, pls read up and prepare the following

Maybe her needs were not met in the relationship. check out www.fivelovelanguages.com for every person's love language, and try to pick out hers. hope it helps..

robert x

for your own sake and peace of mind . stay together work things out.

kpopp

So, what do you expect when you're not married. An engagement is just this: a promise to marry. You need to consider why you have been staying engaged for six years?

Really, I have no answer for you. But I still would love to know why you failed to get married!

Sophia Petrillo

Are you willing to forgive her and move past what she's done? If you are not, then maybe you should move on and find a girl that will stay faithful to you forever, no matter what. What if you marry her and she does the same thing because you let her get away with it this time?

weisenheimer

No sense throwing good time after bad. You've spent too much time with this cheater already. There is a 100% chance she'll do it again. Move on, have a life, and be happy.

J Baby

If u love her enough to forgive her then do so and move on! if u feel u'll nvr get over what she did to u then leave!

Lurkily

It's easy to say 'ditch the *****'. But this is a marriage. I presume you married her because you love her. If you ditch her simply because you hit a roadblock that seems insurmountable now, how do you think you'll handle difficulties in a future marriage?

My suggestion is to confront her. Try with all your might not to be angry, not to shout or yell or accuse. Your objective is to figure out what happened that made her want to cheat. Does she feel like you're not paying enough attention to her? Does she feel like you're taking her for granted? Are there things that you could do together to bring back the spark you had before?

Marriage is not a revolving door. It is meant to be a lifetime together. Irreconcilable differences happen, but divorce should be the last and final resort, after trying every other option. I would suggest talking it over, as I mentioned, I would suggest going to a couples counseling session with her, and from there, more options may present themselves.

One should never give up on a marriage simply because things seem difficult now, not until every possibility is exhausted. A marriage vow doesn't read "In health, in wealth, and during the good times". Sickness, poverty, and hardships like yours can strain a marriage, but it doesn't have to break one.

i wouldnt stick around. shes not respecting the relationship. remember that the bible says that the only valid reason for divorce is cheating. therefore it is serious.

europe

:) sure. stay with her and make your life a hell.

J'Adore.<3

Follow your heart.

lonstandingtree

Sorry for your heartache, I was married and found out she was cheating.
The answer in my language is: DO DUCKS HAVE LIPS. NO! that's not to make light of the situation, just my way of keeping the blues away. I really do feel for you.It brings back a lot of memories and current pain.
You'll just know when the time is right, in the mean time live in the solution.
Wish you the best.....

efrain78223

leave her !! don't waist your time with her anymore.

ManOfTheHour

Move on...

lydalskrybal

Could you ever really trust her again if you went back to her? Whatever you decide to do, you have to give yourself time to make the right decision. Could you really forgive her? Because, unless you were willing to forgive and forget 100%, it would be hanging over you forever: one of you will bring it up in an argument, for instance, or either or both could become very insecure. Couple counselling may help, as may a short time apart to decide what you really want.WY

Kay

Anyone that cheats, is not a keeper. You need to find someone who wont do that.

Seriously?

Nope. Leave her - and don't look back. Think of this as a blessing in disguise - at least you found out before you were married to her.

David S

Leave and find someone who will treat you with respect.

random.princess

it depends if u could still trust her if their is no trust theirs no point when u could find nicer and who is more trustworthy .

xx

bored_and_fat

i am of the belief that once they cheat, they will continue to cheat when opportunity presents itself, only a matter of time

i were u i would seriously ask myself do i really want to sign up for that kind of heartache in the long term?

miabella b2b 6th June 2009 !!

Once a cheater always a cheater whether in action or in thought, you cant win with someone like this as its in her nature to betray you.
Still have contact with your children but this woman needs to learn that she cannot go around hurting her man, its s*uttish and she has acted like a wh*re.
If you dont make a stand now she will walk all over you in time to come, move on and let her see you dont forgive infidelity. There is never an excuse that can excuse cheating remember that.

mari

sorry. i would say leave her. you will be unhappy and regretful if you stay together any longer. since you are doubtful now, you will always have that 'what if' thought in the long run.

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