Just found out ex husband possibly cheated on me?

I have been divorced for 2 years from a man I was married to for 5 years. We still talk through emails occasionally, maybe every couple of months or so. I just found out from one of my friends that when were married he saw my ex husband on a couple of occasions with another woman and that what they were doing was inappropriate. He did not tell me exactly what he saw, he just said that what he did see should not have been going on. Needless to say, I am furious. I had suspected he had cheated on me, but convinced myself I was wrong. The first thing I wanted to do was email him and ask him if this is true, but I know I should just let it go and never talk to him again. I am currently in a relationship with a man I hope to marry one day and by no means want my ex husband back, but it is so hard not to confront him on this. If we did not talk anymore it would be one thing, but since he still says he cares about me as a friend it makes it hard not to say anything. So, I want to take a poll. Who thinks I should confront and who thinks I should be mature and let it go?
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yeah, I am cooled off now. Literally found out about 20 minutes ago, so I got a little riled.

Brunette wife

Since he is your ex i would just let it go because really why does it matter now since you have been divorced for 2 yrs.

Your with a new guy now so concentrate on that relationship instead.

QuestionableCharacter

Let it go. Don't waste your breath or emotions on times gone by.

sarah

If you are happy enough to marry this guy you are seeing now, maybe you should ask yourself why you still keep in contact with your ex, and why this new information bothers you so much.

free_angel

Let it go! He's your ex and you should care less what he did.

Sarah

If he is your EX husband then just let it be. He's your EX for a reason :) Dont let his stupid behavior continue to influence your life any more.

Dana D

You should celebrate the fact that your done with this loser!

I would next consider dumping your "friend" that didn't alert you to this behavior.

Brutal Baby

Let it go!
your already divorced...so who cares?

DILLON

Let bygones be bygones. At least the discovery validates your decision to divorce him.

iyamacog

He's been your X for 2 years. Forgettaboutit! ;(

*. Bre Babe .*

move on. Don't even e-mail him. He's an ex for a reason. Cut your loses.

VillageGirl

Let it go. There is nothing you can do about it now, and acting on your anger and frustration with something that happened in the past will make it much worse, trust me.

amare

You two are divorced and now you have a good man, so why are you continuing to waste time on your ex-husband? Let it go and stop communicating with him. It sounds like you still have feelings for him. You need to move on. He cheated on you which means he had no respect for you or the marriage. You have a good man, hold on to him and focus on building a life with him. Let the ex go and move on! He really is not worth you time!

Audiophile

Do not confront him.

Do go to the doctors and be tested for everything under the sun just to be safe.

Do not email or call him anymore - he's your ex and you have a new guy, leave the old one alone, especially if he can still push your buttons. The new guy would not like that.

Nicole

Well due to the fact that you are not with him an have moved on is enough said. Confronting him would only upset you more that you think because even if he was cheating on you he might not admit it. Stay focus on your new relationship and let him go. Leave the extra baggage in the past. And why didn't your friend tell you this sooner, you ain't even with the man anymore and no matter how many times he say he cares about you remember you guys broke up for a reason. Let him go and the mess too!

Tommy T

Why do you care? You are not with him anymore...

I would be more concerned about your "friend" who told you... it just doesn't seem right.

Rica 82

Just be mature and let it go. It would be different if you were together but you're not so what's the point.

Mickey

Let it go our you are going to screw up what you have going on now. If i was the guy you were with and found out you wanted to confront him on it I would be pissed. Move on.

wc2ketey

It's time to let go and move on. You sound like you're better off. Time to leave the past behind. All my best wishes for a wonderful future.

marcellahanseth

i wouldn't bring it up, but i sure would not even think about another relationship with him, talking together, and emails would be enough for me...i had to see my ex t he other week, the thought of even talking to him again, sickens me..

carol

No I would not say a thing and in fact would not ever have anything to say to him ever again.
You have someone special in your life now so respect the guy your with and quit communicating with the ex.
When you move on you move on and in all honesty what other person in your life wants to deal with your friendship with somebody that you once were intimate with?
In reality it never really works for the long haul because most women that he would one day truly connect with would probably not be comfortable with you in the picture.
Most women are more emotional about these matters and are very territorial so don't waste your time on him any longer.

Ron Akia

As long as he's your ex it's a dead issue and should be done with.

rope14u

WHO CARES HE IS YOUR EX, THE PAST IS THE PAST, LET IT GO QUIT WASTING TIME ON A EX, HE IS AN EX FOR A REASON

benthere

be mature and let it go it duznt matter anymore

His mommy

I'd totally be the same way and want to confront him out of anger, but you know it's best just to let it go!

And if I were you I'd put his email under my block/junk mail list!
Haha...make him wonder why you're not returning his emails...

Stressed out in New England

You are seriously dating someone, are contemplating marriage to him, but are still hung up on something that possibly happened while you were married to your ex-husband? Sounds like your friend is trying to stir the pot a bit by telling you some irrelevant bit of gossip. Get past it. It's ancient history and it no longer matters. Why do you care? It sounds like you have managed to forge a new life. Concentrate on that.

Kevin

Who cares?! You have been divorced for two years!! What difference does it make now?

jude

its fine to be angry at someone who betrayed u, but its never good to confront it after the fact. u already know what happened, u know he cheated, just what do u hope to accomplish by confronting an ex? i would stop all contact with the ex, and leave the past in the past. just let it go, and enjoy your new man and life, and cut all ties with the ex. its a good thing to stay angry, its human nature. but its a little bit late to confront someone your no longer with.

DianeP

Be the better "man" and let it go. Why would you care after 2 years of divorce? You need to find closure and find yourself again before your past destroys any hope of a future. Stop letting what your ex did control your life. Let it go....all of it. It doesn't matter anymorel

shady

Are you not divorced now? Cant get any money outta it...let it go.

mochabiznswmn

He is an ex leave him there ..he is an ex for reason..don't go back move forward leave him in the past

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