K. I'm crying now. Thanks. I don't really have any friends...?

Allison, aka Nice Lady

Well what did you expect?

You specifically told us to yell at you. And you told us that you had cheated on your husband. So, we are going to scold you.

It doesn't mean your life has to end. You can use this serious misjudgement to fix your life and marriage. Whether or not you do is up to you.

This is not a slip up. A slip up (although a bad one) is you got wasted and did it with some guy. What you did was a short term affair - you were sleeping with him for seven weeks. Which means that in between those times you didn't feel bad enough to stop what you were doing, and only stopped because he went on to another girl.

This is very telling - I honestly think you are most upset that this guy dumped you, rather than by what you have done to your marriage.

cinnamon apple

your kids love you
your husband must love you to stay with u
instead of crying think of ways to improve your relationship

luvlisteningtomusic

You need to get councelling!!!

Poopy

Go see a counselor. He/she can help you figure out what you are missing in your life, and figure out better ways of getting it than by cheating. It is also possible that, with such a huge emotional upheaval going on, you will need some help from an anti-depressant to get back to normal.

Does your hubby know you cheated? Contrary to what some others say, DON'T tell him. No reason to make him feel as miserable as you do, just so that you'll feel better by confessing, is there?

Get yourself in a better place, then go to counseling - preferably with hubby (if not initially, then eventually include him when you're able - the therapist will respect your confidentiality and will not tell him about the affair). You've learned to your sorrow that the path to happiness does not lie in the way of running away from your problems and into the arms of another. The path to happiness is found by working on, and fixing, the problems you have.

Good luck, my friend. I know it's hard, but try to learn as much as you can from the experience so that it will not have been in vain.

TQUEEN

turn to your family
like cousins or sisters
nobody on yahoo answers can
really help you because we dont know what
your situation is...turn to somebody that knows all
about your kids...husband [bf]...ur life OR go to a therapist
to let out all your anger && sadness

colleenjp78

What? Why should you be feeling sorry for yourself? I see "No, I'm not going to cheat again." Where do you get that you should feel sorry for "you" if "you" cheated? The person who needs pitty is him. No one deserves to be cheated on. Infidelity is so wrong on many levels. There is no good reason you or any person can give to justify that kind of action. So stop feeling sorry for "you" and feel sorry for "him" and the children otherwise you will lose one of the most important things in life!

I know I sound a little harsh, but it's the truth.

taterbabie_4u

go get some counseling.........................

Drock

just be a nice person go out there don't depend on the internet and be the best you can be more importantly yourself

jefskta

Cheater eh? You should be crying for all the pain you are causing your family. A divorce would have been a better option. Guess you come first eh?

Phil M

You're going to have to do one of the hardest things you'll ever do....

Thats forgive yourself. Its a big step but it can happen. You cannto change the past, but you can be active and be in a position to do good in the future.

"Luck: Its where hard work and opportunity meet"

Now, you're just being untruthful because you said you'd do it again if that guy wanted you. you also implied that the only reason you felt bad about it was because he ran out on you and it only lasted 7 weeks.

Tell your husband what happened and get some couples counseling. You obviously have no idea what it means to be in a committed relationship. I could tell that by your first post. Being faithful isn't about "being good", it's a matter of loving your spouse and respecting him. You have a lot of issues to work out. When you treat people like dirt, you should expect to feel like you do now...and not because people are yelling at you but because you have done something terrible.

mgnlok

Sorry but you won't get any sympathy from me for your cheating , I do feel for the ones you betrayed and the ones that love you.It seems like you only feel bad because you got caught. I suggest you talk to your spouse instead of us ,he is the only one that seems to still love you since he didn't kick you out of the house yet he may still give you a chance. Oh yes by the way Once a CHEAT always a CHEAT

layn da smckdwn

yeah, thats what happens when you live that type of life style. It reflects on how you feel inside. you have much to learn about this thing we call LIFE. I feel sorry for your husband. Poor guy.

jack s

sounds like you need it in the butt

natasha

counseling! What did you expect lady. Good people dont sleep around and then talk about enjoying it. If you arent happy get a divorce

No one

Okay, calm down, back up and start from the beginning. Apparently you cheated. We all make mistakes. Question is whether or not this mistake can be rectified or has it simply blown everything to bits. If it has then accept the consequences of your actions, dust yourself off and then move on. That is all you can do because you certainly can't change the past. Stand strong and proud (even if you aren't) and live your life. You will be fine, and you will have friends to talk to.

bright

talk to a priest he can help

Lucci

Instant Karma never fails.

If you did that then there is no reason you should feel sorry for yourself (selfish) you should feel sorry for who you hurt.

C.B

If you cheated you better apologize to your husband and get it over with. It is better to do it sooner then later.

cindra

Go to your telephone book, in the yellow pages and look up counselors or psychologists. Find a local psychologist or counselor in your area and make an appointment. I think it's important for you learn more about yourself, your feelings, and what triggers decisions and behaviors. Counseling is a good thing. Also, I think it's important for you to be as open and honest as you can possibly be with your husband.

do.drop

Right now, you sound pretty overwhelmed, and that is understandable. I am sorry you have no one to talk to, i don't know how old you are or what happened, by your coment, you have children, and mentioned you won't cheat again. So, sounds like you have alot on your plate, trust me, it is going to calm down eventually. You need to calm down as best you can also. Otherwise your not going to be able to think rationally, just emotionally.Thre is always someone you can talk to, even if it is the crisis hot line, they are trained and can also help you find help with this. Give it a chanch.

princess_sahara2003

you need to tell your husband these things

djmixah7

im not buying this really, you want help yet all your questions and answers are private so is your email and so is your im? how you expect people to do? i still think you are a troll with nothing to do. if no then feel free to email me if you need company.

splashdesign238

As said previously, some pro help is necessary.

I'm sure you do have friends, and just feel as if you don't. It's a good sign that you're crying. It shows that you do care.

But you really should be crying to your husband. This should be your first step to restoring peace in your relationship.

Seeking others is continuing your problem. Go back to your husband. Just put your eyes on his shoulders and tell him to hold you.

That will empower you to make things right. :)

qweesh

hhaha, you cheater!!! i HOPE EVERYONE IN YOUR FAMILY DESPISES YOU!!

curlz

Sounds like you need a counselor, honey. I don't know you're story, but if you're feeling this badly...you need to get yourself some help.

caliguy_30

Get over it. Stand up and act like a wife a mother and a woman, because that is what you are. You made a mistake? move on. learn from it and don't do it again. There is no point in loosing yourself into depression. Acting like a guilty person or a victim does not help at all it only amplifies the problem.
Move on, the past is the past. what was is over now focus on what is to be and make sure you do it right.
Good luck.

mikah_smiles

Nobody here in Yahoo Answers land can help you. Only a counselor or someone else you can talk to can help you through this.

Good luck. Sounds like you need it.

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