Ladies, would you forgive your husband for hitting you if he said he was sorry and brought you flowers?

Mrs. Kathy Rainwater

Never!!!! Run, run, run. a man who hits a woman then tries to make up with material gifts is no man. And do you expect so little of yourself that you think flowers make up for that kind of abuse. A woman is cherished not hit or beaten.Where is your self worth and ego?????He is a thug, a bully, a very immature person. He will keep hitting you and maybe one day kill you. Or even worse, cause you to have brain damage and live life in a wheel chair or nursing home.

Poppet

Absolutely NOT!!!!!

BTW - didn't they ban your other account?

God I hope your kidding. I don't care how sorry he was it is unacceptable. You really need to rethink your stand on this or get some help because your messed up.

Molly Mullet

That is beyond messed up. You should leave him, the abuse will only escalate. Don't subject yourself to that.

Breeny

it would take much more than that.

and if your husband being 'nice' isn't a regular thing, theres a problem

bigmomma

Are you going to forgive him the 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc. time he hits you? Or maybe you'll like his make up sweetness when you;re dead. He's a batterer and you need to get away from him as fast as you can. Real and loving men don't hit their wives.

Angel M

it's only a peace offering......if you accept it, they think they can do it again and buy you more flowers and it will be ok....you send the wrong message if you accept them......i'd stomp them while he watched

LadyRed4u727

i would maybe forgive him, but i would be thinking of a way to get out of the marriage, because one hit is nothing but a portal to pain
If you forgive him once, he will expect you to forgive him again and again
and that cant happen

amber c

No because if its in them to do it once its in them to do it again or better yet every time they get mad enough.

you should consider leaving..

Hazy Daisy

Never.

what did you say

What do you mean by hit?If he gives you a black eye and than it turns into being push down the stairs flowers make that ok.I think not

Chris L

NO.. There is a thing called the cycle of violence. It goes from the Honeymoon stage (I love you.. blah blah blah), to the Tension Stage (yelling, etc), to the storm (hitting, etc). THEN back to the Honeymoon (I'm sorry.. blah blah blah). The cycle WILL repeat and the honeymoon stage will get shorter! Women, educated yourselves

Very happily married.

And this is why domestic abuse continues to happen far too often.

Where is the punshment if you let the guy walk all over you like this?

Jim J

I'm no lady but you will fall into a trap if this happens more than once. Domination is a long and careful process. It is possible he lost control but if that is that case then he should see an anger management counselor. If he won't go, he isn't really sorry. Don't mean to cause trouble for you but the longer you wait, the harder it is to leave. Women get killed by getting the crap beaten out of them.

danicolegirl

no, he will hit you again and do the same thing,and im sure the pain and tears and bruises are worth the flowers

ChimesOfWind

No way!
My friends and me sometimes disuss this, and I always said, I would def be out of there as fast as I could
Hit me once and Im gone

poor2riches

No I would not. I have always told my husband if he ever land a single hand on me I would flatten his *** out and he would be gone. I don't have time for that in my life. Does it once will probably do it again if you let him go. Bet he will slide again in a few months then you will have your answer . Flowers will not take it back so be warned.

Corrupt

That's...disturbing. Violence isn't sweet or cute. If you want him to buy you flowers, tell him it would be nice on occasion.

Phoebe

You are describing a sick cycle of abuse.

Forgiveness does not mean allowing abuse to continue....which it will.

Forgiveness means I forgive you the debt you owe me for beating me up; but I will not allow you the opportunity to do it again.

Hit the Road Jack.

Welcome Isabella! March 30!

Hell no. If he EVER hits me he better make it GOOD because that is the ONLY one he is getting. After that, I am out the door forever. I don't put up with that. As for you, your husband should ALWAYS be nice...if he is hitting you you are in an abusive relationship and you need to get out! Who cares about the flowers and apologies...it's just gonna happen again!! DONT let him hit you, get a REAL MAN who is ALWAYS nice to you, not just when he does something wrong...especially abusing you.

EDIT: A few months ago my man brought me flowers for no reason except that he was on his lunch break at work, walked by a flower shop, saw a particular arrangement in the window, thought of me and decided to buy them. They were gorgeous and the fact that he bought them for me not for an anniversary or valentines day(or because he hit me) but just because he loves me and thought of me was wonderful. My man doesn't need to hit me or fight with me to be nice to me. I am not trying to rub it in your face either, I'm just trying to tell you that you deserve a man like that, not one who hits you...EVER...for any reason. You deserve better.

Keelee

H E L L to the N O

That is not sweet, that is a sign of an abuser. I'm sure you do like it when your husband is nice, but do you like it when he is beating the sh*t out of you? Because if he isn't now, that is what it will lead to.

Gypsydayne

No, I wouldn't. If my husband ever hit me, even once, that would be it. He could say sorry & kiss my *$#, but that isn't good enough. A REAL man will never hit a woman- regardless. Yes, it's nice to get flowers when he forgets your birthday/anniversary, etc. But NEVER stay with a man that hits you even once. I've had too many friends who said "But, I love him" and they come crying to me the NEXT time it happens. May not be the next week or the next year, but they usually hit again.

em2muc2003

sorry, i am a guy, but i have to say this. from a guys point of view you should not fall for the sorry thing. he is sorry alright, but not the apologetic style.
if a guy hits you once, it will happen again. and it will become worse. if you let it slide once then you will let it slide again and again.....................
besides, why would you be happy if it takes that for him to be nice?

ASR

No. I have been in a relationship like this before. Forgive them once and they expect each and every time they hit you again. It becomes a nightmare. Seriously if he hit whether he is sorry or not, whether you love him or not, love yourself more and run don't walk out of this relationship. In the end of mine I hated him and myself for staying when the violence began to repeat itself over and over. It took several years of healing to like myself again and the abuse was his fault. But I enabled him every time by forgiving him. So guess what did he do after we split he found a new girl do abuse. I am still picking up the lost pieces of myself to this very day and this happened over ten years ago.

No, your husband should NEVER hit you, no matter what he does aftewards.

If a person makes you feel nervous around them or afraid that they may blow up, then that person is violating your safety. You should stay away from that person b/c they make you feel anxious or nervous. That is no way to live.

Flowers do not make up for something like that. He should be buying you flowers whether he does something wrong or not.

bigjohn B

There is no excuse for hitting a woman, none, nada, nil, zip. It is not cute, if he did it once he will do it again.

Discovery

i wouldn't be with him if he buy me diamond after he hit me.

indiangirl5550

You should not forgive your husband instead you need to get a weapon and hit him.

It sounds like you've never actually been hit, you are just pondering this question? Nice is not getting someone flowers. It's an empty gesture if it's preceeded by a hit.

Firefighters Wife

um...no way, so if you did forgive him, he knows that next time he hits you just have flowers and a sorry ready the next day and hes in the clear!

Stick out your tongue, say AH!

I hope you're kidding too. I hope you're trolling or something.

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