Lazy husband?

tiny2kool

damn i didnt know my wife had a yahoo answer account

Ralfcoder

Ask yourself, are you better off with him or without him?

Tough Guy

Divorce him.

Mrs. Kittyâ™¥

Your husband really sounds like a douche. I dont know..if you already went to counseling and prayed together, then all I could say is continue to make your relationship work. I dont believe in divorce unless he's cheating...but if you feel a separation would help, then maybe that would be a good idea. This way, it could be more real to him, that you are sick of his attitude.

Sweets

Well it doesn' seem like hes ever going to change so you need to ask yourself, "can I live with this for the rest of my life?" If the answer is no, then I suggest you hire a lawyer first. I wouldn't support this but you said you've done EVERYTHING to help him and he obviously wants a wife whos a maid and thats it.

Good Luck

Go on strike! Only clean up after you & the kids/.....when he runs out of clothes he will get the picture...It is hard to change a man but it is possible to make them care more..

Good Luck!

honhill

Some men are like this, usually with women who will put up with it. My husband was like this with his ex wife and they ended up being very bitter towards each other. I, on the other hand, will let his laundry remain unwashed or the floor unvacuumed if he is being that lazy. I don't think that everything should always be 50/50, but everyone should pitch in. As Eleanor Roosevelt said "Noone can walk all over you unless you lie down and let them."

upbunny2007

Get rid of his lazy A**

ladybug

Next time take him up on his offer of divorce......I mean threat.

Either he will never change or he will need a huge wake-up call before he does. Either way you need to be prepared to walk away......and mean it.

Sounds like you are doing it on your own anyway. If you leave you will still be doing it on your own but you won't have to put up with his crap.

An0nym0us mAn1Ac

You need to lose the loser. Or perhaps you can trick him into doing something. Start going out and doing things with your kids and your friends. Leave his sorry butt at home. Once he sees you doing your own thing he will either smarten up, or you will find someone new.

Christina C

You have to threaten him and be the boss. Don't let him step all over you like that. If he responds in a negative way then stop it all. Stop the washing, cleaning, everything and see how he feels. You work so hard for your family and you deserve to be treated with respect so show him that without you, he has nothing.

C_DOGG

Hire a gardener and a cleaning service once every two weeks and have him pay for it. Hit him in the wallet and he may change.

alonemom

I was married to a man like that for 22 yrs, remember the ONLY ONE YOU CAN CHANGE IS YOU. He is never going to change, so you can either accept the way things are or move on.
I divorced him 3 years ago, and now i am in love with a great man, he cleans house, never sets around, sure makes life so much more enjoyable knowing that i am not resposible for everything around the house any more.
Good Luck, wish you the best,

icon_star

My husband has been that way before when he was laid off, or even when he was working. He never helped with anything at all and it stressed me out more than you could believe. He currently has been laid off again and I was worried that he would fall back into the habit of not helping me do anything. He has been amazing though and helps me with everything. I dont know how I got him to do it but I did. I wouldn't stand for it though. Its not fair at all. I dont know if you have tried this or not, but go for like a week not doing any of the things you usually do except for taking care of the kids. I tried that a few time and he realized all the work I actually do. He now helps me so much.

missnasa2001

There are a few things you can do! For one you could walk through the house naked and say "hi" then carry on about your business and take on a few hobbies yourself! :)

Don't cater to any of his needs. Naked or not! LOL

Start going out of the house more, cook for him less or not at all. Don't clean up after him. He'll get the picture. You didn't sign on to be his servant did you? Start telling him to pick up your dirty underwear and ***** him that your clothes aren't washed, etc. etc.

Steve R

Can u afford to leave him? Do you have a paycheck?

Elizabeth L

I hate to tell you, but it won't change. i was married to my ex for 23 years and I think he did the dishes and ran the vacuum a total of five times during the whole time. He worked on a dead-end job that allowed him a lot of free time to "play" so to speak. It didn't require him to do much of anything, the pay was terrible, but he got oodles of paid days off and I worked (still do) my butt off five days a week 8-10 hours a day. When i came home, it was , "what are you fixing for dinner?" once I got dinner ready, he would expect me to fix his plate and bring it to him. Then, I had to clean the kitchen, take care of the kids and straighten the house while he relaxed in front of the tv. He spent (still does) long hours hunting and fishing and ALWAYS belly-ached about the money he had to give me to help run the house.
Marriage is a partnership and if you can't work together, why be miserable? Give it a lot of thought. I am a big fan of divorce, but NOT for running out and getting remarried to repeat the same pattern.....

Backhoe

He will not change.

hogsnotbubbles

Next time he threatens pack his bags and say fine then goodbye!! You've already been doing it yourself, so it's not like your going to miss the help!!

Contemplative

Well yes - perhaps time for that divorce.

He is acting like an absent roomie, without much regard for your feelings.

If you are fed up, then move on. He is what he is.

stormieford

Just tell him how you feel yes you end up int an argument make a dinner just the 2 of you and casually bring it up if all else fails then I think you might be looking forward to a divorce but every relationship that can be saved should be saved so just try to stick in there. If he works he may have a hard day at work.

been there done that........

Pends on how much you love him and how commited you really are to the marriage! I dont think that a lazy husband constitutes grounds for divorce...But I do think yall should try counseling again.
Nowadays alot of people are not taking their vows seriously, and thats why the divorce rate is so high.I ,mean its like one spouse cannot even look at the other one wrong without the other one wanting to get a divorce for it!
I am not telling you to stay in a marriage when you are unhappy, but keep trying, and talking to him.If he divorces you then thats one thing, but let him know that you were there till the end trying to save your marriage!!

Wisen Smart

You do not mention if you work (employed) or not. Assuming you are employed, I would think he should help out a bit with the house chores. This is an issue that should have been addressed before you married, now could be too late. Now, if he is the bread winner of the house, then it should be mostly your responsibility to keep the house other than things like taking out the garbage, carrying the groceries and fixing things around the house.

Vloz

Well....the only way to solve the problem is by showing him how serious you are!!! Start off by washing your own clothes, dishes, and clean your own mess. Cook dinner for your kids and yourself!! If he wants to heat his up then let him! Make sure your watching t.v when he returns home from fishing. If that doesn't work you be the one to say I am done with this I am not your mother nor am I your servant! I am your wife and deserve to be treated like it!!! You be the one to say I want a divorse....If he doesn't chnage after that then you know he really doesn't care!

David

Give him an ultimatum and if he doesnt stick with it.... Cave in and spend the rest of your life in misery OR get out while you can

quantumrift

He's basically a bum and a louse. He obviously does not like being around you and does not respect you.

If you've been to counseling and nothing has change, then divorce this loser. He's already abandoned the marriage, so you might as well just make it official.

Kat G

Sounds to me like you are already divorced. He is living like a single guy with a housekeeper. Maybe it's time for you to leave the kids with him and go out.

Rather then confront him you need to find yourself someone who enjoys your company.

june

You don't want to be with somebody who just takes you for granted and makes you un happy. You are the one who should be threatening to leave him, you should do it and see what happens. You don't ceserve to be with someone like that, nobody does. Your a couple so chores should be done together not alone. Best of luck to you!

SecretsGyrl

I had the same problems, never did much around the house. I used to tell him.."honey, when we first moved in, you used to get naked to clean out the tub"...now he just lazy and still wants me to serve him his dinner....lol...love the man...time has changed...i just stop nagging and complaining about it. I just did the best I could do with my two hands. The months later when he noticed I have stop nagging him...he started noticing that, things were a bit different. (****, if I am going to run the household without your help..aint **** you could say to me when things are different in the household. You have no decision making, your opinion doesnt matter) Then he started helping out. Not how i would like, but there's a 15% (lol) difference.

Sometimes you should just step back..and say f*ck it. the man wont change..therefore do things to make him change. Trust me, he will notice.

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