MY roommate oh and her practically live in BF!?

morbidlybeautiful

just sit her down and explain to her how uncomfortable the situation is making you. You don't have to be mean, just tell her calmly.

teknokate

Tell her unless they are paying for your food hes gonna have to eat her food.

Let's discuss

just say it

Lakers_all the_way

JUST BE UPFRONT ABOUT IT. START OF BY SAYING WITH ALL DUE RESPECT, I FEEL/ THINK ........ AND SO ON. JUST BE HONEST GOOD LUCK

Tell her boyfriend that if he continues to shower and eat at your house, he will have to fork out money to pay bills and buy food. If he doesn't like it, tell him to hit the road.

Jewels is Blk & Indian

Sit her down and explain to her just as you did here all her good points, like paying bills on time etc. and her being cool---but let her know that you didnt sign up to have TWO roommates and that you need to establish some rules for you BOTH to follow as far as boyfriends being there all the time. Hopefully she'll understand, if she doesn't move out. Or at the very least ask her, to TELL him that he doesn't need to be eating your food. That would piss me off.

â™¥â™¥ LINDA â™¥â™¥

Make him pay a third of the rent! Maybe he will get the hint!

Julie F

First, check your lease and make sure that having someone not on the lease living there isn't something that could lead to eviction. If it is, then you could have trouble. But you should tell your roommate how you feel. Maybe come up with a compromise on how many nights a week she can have him sleep over (which applies to you too)? Don't write it in a letter or a note or email...just tell her face to face that while you think her BF is a great guy, your place is just too small to have three people living in it, and maybe he could start crashing at his place more.

CHERRIO A

talk to her

HoldMeCloser

This same thing happened to me too!!

Try writing a letter to her...This way you don't have to confront her face-to-face because you may say something you regret. Or you may come across too forceful. If you write a letter, you can reread it before you give it to her. My roommate understood and we made a compromise.

GOOD LUCK! =]

Tia

get the landlord to do the talking, you can just snicker in the background

free_angel

Tell her you refuse to let her boyfriend mooch off of you and you cannot understand why she lets him do that to her. Next time he eats your food and overstays his welcome, go off on his a.s.s.

Carp

Tell him he has to stay out of your food. If he is unsure what is his GF then he shouldn't touch any food. Your roommate should also be paying two thirds of the expenses(rent, electric, etc) if he is practically living there. Whether she makes him pay her back or not is up to her.

Love my kittys

Ask her if he can start paying 1/3 of the rent, and start paying for your food. The least he can do is replace it. I don't think that is mean. That is asking for what you are entitled to.

Sam

let me answer your

Seriously?

Approach her when you are calm and rational. Let her know that you enjoy having her as a roomie, but the amount of time her BF spends there is concerning...ask her to cut the time down that he spends at your place - perhaps they could split the week and spend half of it at his place?

Just do your best to approach when calm and stay calm...

*havin fun in the sun*

tell her since she has a new room mate, you are moving out and getting a place of your own.

Confidential

I would do exactly what my old roommate did when I started doing the same thing.

1. Have the discussion with her alone. State that you pay your bills as does she, however, he is not paying bills in the household and is using food, water, and other utilities while he is there. Staying the night once or twice a week is one thing, but staying every night means he moved in.

2. Let her know that if he continues to stay there, you are ok with it, as long as the bills are split 3 ways. Them paying 2/3 and you paying 1/3 (utilities and rent)

3. Designate shelves in the fridge using colored electrical tape. Anything that is hers goes with one color, yours goes with another color (you can even tie off baggies of veges with the colored tape)

Basically by doing this, you will likely end up causing your roommate to move out, and you can get a new roommate or ask your boyfriend to move in. I ended up moving out of the apartment I was in and in with my boyfriend.

good luck

Bonnie

Sit her down and tell her that she needs to not have him over there all the time because he is eating all your food. Tell him to start paying for some of that food he is eating and rent. Tell your roommate that you all can get kicked out if he is over there all the time the landlord will assume that he is living there now to. Stay calm and be honest. It should not hurt her feelings. If she throws a fit then go out and get your own place and make sure that you take your name off the lease when you leave.

dfly3770

Sit her down and talk to her about it. It's not being mean, you both live there so you have the right to be concerned, especially if he is eating your food, using your utilities (you both prob share utility costs).

iiidontknowdoyou

Just tell HIM he needs to go HOME, that he doesn't live in your room and he's there to much! Tell him in front of her! He needs to chip in and pay for the food and drinks at the very least or she needs to pay more for him! It isn't ever being mean standing up for yourself and your rights!

Confused

If your roommate pays the bills there too then it is also partially her place too. But, out of respect she should have spoken to you to see how you feel about her boyfriend being there all of the time. If she wants to live with him, then they need to go get a place of her own. When it comes to the food, if you are paying for it, then he doesnt need to be eating it. And again out of respect, he should chip in for the food sometimes and maybe give his girlfriend or you some money to pay for what ever he used (i.e. food, water, electricity, etc). And you have every right to say something to her about it. It doesnt matter hwo you say it, she will probably get defensive about it. But let her know that you dont mind her boyfriend, you just dont appreciate the fact that there is constantly a guy there and you privacy is invaded to an extent and you would appreciate it if he didnt just come over and use your guys stuff and eat you food and not help out a little bit. The food especially. She needs to have respect for you just as you have had respect her.

nancy_aguirre3

just let her kno that u dont feel comfortable, that you dont even do it...just be hones with her thats the best way to go about it. if she doesnt like what you have to say....then bye bye

marypoppins

talk to her. and 100% tell her that you dont want him eating all the food that YOU paid for. or if you really just cant do it, when you're lease is up, MOVE. but i recommend just talking to her first. good luck

~[=~ApRiL Addicted~=]~

i would say i like having him around and all but he comes over every day and it would be nice if he could cut down on comming over.

make a nice dish.
add about 3 tbsp of Dave's Insanity sauce.

he won't touch your food no more.

then unscrew the shower head.
plant a red dye, sold at local hobby and craft store in the shower head and screw back in.

he won't shower there no more.

walk around when he's there, in skimpy lingerie.

your roommate would be 'uneasy' with that and when she gives you a lecture, then bring up her BF doesn't need to be there.

kwflamingo

If she's so cool, you should be able to sit her down and explain in a calm voice that you are uncomfortable with his being there all the time - why don't they split the time between his place and hers. You're not upset, you just starting to get the feeling that he's really living there and if that's the case, decisions have to be made - regarding the rent split, or if you're even going to stay on. But you need to talk about it calmly - don't wait till you get upset and then all sorts of things will fly out of your mouth.

Clementine

there is nothing wrong with telling your roommate to sit down, and have a conversation with her, and tell her that you are happy with her, and everything, but... the boyfriend is an issue, it is your home, and you didn't agree to him being your roomy, too. I had a roommate who had a girlfriend, they would spend half the time at her place, half at ours, so they are not there all the time that way, it worked out. good luck!

Top Cat

just tell her. Or threaten her by saying if the land lord finds out he could have her and her bf thrown out. Which is true.

Fred M

Suggest a threesome.

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