Marriage out of highschool...?

Love My Hubby - Hate His Mom

Young couples who marry during or right out of high school have about a 50/50 chance of getting divorced (based on statistics).

Every other couple who gets married stands a 50/50 change of getting divorced (based on statistics).

I'd say, if you love each other, go for it.

tickling the clouds

watever makes you happy...go with your gut

wat may be wrong or right to someone may be different to someone else..

hott2trot555

it deffinately complicates things but if you really love eachother then maybe it is for you. or have like, a long engagement. try out the idea a bit. see how it works for ya. ;]

Futility Knife

I'd root for them

Ria J

My husband and I started dating when we were 14 & 15. And we are married today. We are 32 & 33.

I cant say that it is all peaches and cream. There are ups and downs. However, we plan on growing old together.

It's kinda nice to have someone so close to you that you have known 1/2 your life. Maybe we just got lucky.

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I think its a little 2 young but its not my life what eva makes those 2 people happy

Biggles

Do not do it!!! If you get married you don't get any of your parents health care or any of that good stuff. Not to mention paying for your own place and going to college. I would wait till you have enough money saved up.

Lexa

well considering they've been dating since freshman year through senior year...? 3 1/2 years thereabout.. The age is young, the time spent together is reasonable. I'd wait a bit longer, but that's just me.

By the way, either way, having kids or just marriage in general would seem stupid.

rmouser

No

One of my best friends got married right out of HS they now have three kids and been married for 20 years!

Patrick

although stupid may not be the right word, you will come in contact with a plethora of new people once you graduate. Marriage is a very big commitment, so you may want to wait longer than "less than a year after graduation" before you pop the question.

cavsfan45

if they are planning to go to college it would make things harder.

MamaBear

It was more acceptable 50-60 years ago, when there were fewer career opportunities for women and fewer people attended college, but nowadays, marrying after high school usually means that one or both of the couple won't be attending college and therefore reducing their employment prospects.

Also, most marriages that succeed are between people who have had a chance to experience a bit of life, gotten to know other people and gotten to know themselves better than most 18 or 19 year olds have.

It can be done, of course, but I can't help but wonder what you will be missing by jumping into marriage so early. On the other hand, my view of the world and my place in it may be much broader than yours. I had a chance to travel, finish my education, work in a challenging field and date several men before I decided to marry in my mid-20s. That was what *I* wanted. Your wants and needs may be different.

blair

There's nothing wrong with getting married to the person you love, no matter how young you are.
Just remember love has to be worked on, marriage won't come super easy, but it is so worth every minute.

k.c.

it would depend on thier commitment for each other.

jessie ngmwa

NO TO YOUNG AND PEOPLE CHANGE AS THEY GET OLDER go to collage live enjoy life you can still date but please do not do it

IRock Haha u Don't

no i couldnt say why not but go to college first and stuff like that ok get education

ang253

No, not stupid at all !
I was married at 17 & now 50 yrs. later have never been sorry.
They say marriage like anything else you do in life is a gamble so ..........why not !!!!

Courtney E

I feel that a couple needs to be together for at least 5 years before they get married, engaged is ok before then, but not actaully married until after 5.
4-5 years into a relationship is a long time, but that seems to be the breaking point for most couples Ive known. and I do not think any of those 5 years should include any dating during high school. Kids are still very young in high school and havent been out to explore the world yet at all. Whether the kids go to college or they work, whatever they do it brings on a whole new life style.
There are just so many divorces today because people are not taking marriage seriously enough. So I think that people she be out of high school have plenty of dating time and time to explore and see what they want to do with their lives.

mizzzzthang

The best way to find out if 2 people are truly meant for one another is to spend a bit of time apart. After doing this, if the feelings are as strong as ever, it just may be the perfect match. Lots of 18 year olds are much more mature than the 18 year olds of my day (myself included lol), and many more are much more serious about life. If it was meant to be, there's no way to stop it. Take care, dear!

roderick_young

It's encouraging that you're asking the question, as it shows you're thinking and planning.

In that line of thinking, both your lives will have a much better chance of being easier if you go to college. And, as others have said, it's hard to be married AND devote time to school.

But if you're both planning on working right away, then I guess you've been together long enough to get over the infatuation phase, and might as well get married.

I know of one case where a couple was married right out of high school and it lasted, but about 10 where it didn't. The one that succeeded was two very practical, mature, long-range planners, who got married, then went to college together, with their lives charted out.

ccook_09

(Not sure if this is a hypothetical situation or not)
What's the rush? It sounds like you're off to a good start... but personally, I think a wedding, even engagement should be put of until a later date. Wait until you both are stable with your careers and your relationship, which it sounds like you could be. Financial stability is also important. If you are as happy as you are marriage shouldn't make a difference. Life can be enjoyed with or without marriage. Waiting, in my opinion, would be the smartest choice. It's your(or whoevers) choice.

bm4huskers

In my opinion, the engagement would be fine if you held off the wedding for a few years. When college is involved, quite a few people change and grow, while this might work for some couples and they grow together, others might grow apart. There's no reason to rush into marriage at 18-19 when you can easily wait a few more years. IBut n the end, you have to do what you feel is best for you and your significant other.

poojari

its big stupidness to marry untill you people are not fully established.

tornadokidf5

Although a very romantic scenerio,,Most couple that wed out of High school or early college don't last but a few years,,Usually when the nitty gritty starts and they realized they just saw youth go Bye Bye. But I said most not all,,More lasted longer from the 40's to the early 70's .

babycakes

They know what they want and they know if they are truely in love with each other......I was 16 and in the 10th grade when I married my high school sweetheart...18 1/2 yrs and 2 beautiful daughters later we divorced....we are friends now but we now look back and know we were not ready for that world yet.....we were both in high school married and had a baby 2 1/2 when we gradurated high school....so some are ready and some are not but my advise is to take your time and not rush anything

dcomeasha

To me this is foulish all together if u are enjoying each other now then u will no matter what. Paper ties u down and u have your whole life ahead of u. How is to say that either one of u may decide to do something different and here u are tied on paper and it will take money to untie it and u may mix bitter feels in the mix. Then u have someone that really don't care for u at that point and u stand a chance of losing a friend. Think past the here and now and look more in the future as the what if. Marriage is for the all good bad and the rest. Think with your mind in full detail before jumping in with out a life jacket.

Insect

i thought i was really mature when i graduated, which was only last year. i had a boyfriend of 4 years as well. we truley loved eachother, and still do. i'm 19 now, and we have drifted apart. marraige and divorce at 18 years old? eeeh...too young... follow your heart, if you think he's the one. still...you don't need the title of marraige to prove your love. i would sit on the idea of marraige...be 'engaged' for at least a year. that shows real maturity :)

box of rain

No way! Go for it!

Someone out there has to keep the divorce attorneys busy!

LAURA K

I would definitely say it depends on the maturity level of both of them. Marriage isn't something to be rushed into and the first year alone can be very challenging. But--my husband proposed to me while he was still a Senior (I'm over a year older than him) and we married the next year. I wouldn't change a thing personally--we have two beautiful children and life is good. I would, however, point out how important higher education is and regardless of your best intentions--it's a LOT harder to stay in school when you're married than not. Not sure why that is, but it happens. . . . :)

Britni

I say go for it if you have really thought about it. The only problem I would have with it is how are you going to be able to support yourself while going to school and still having enough to pay for house, utilities, etc. If you have enough money or a plan to work around this then go for it, but make sure you still get your education in this day and time a college education is very important. Good Luck!

Jenny A.

Remember that both of you are still getting to know who you are. The only problem with getting together so young is that you may be a different person five years from now, or you may feel like the other person has kept you from experiencing all the things in life that you want to do. There's nothing wrong with a long engagement, or taking time off to figure out who you are. If you just go out of highschool, you still have a lot of world to see and people to meet, and both of you deserve to experience whatever you want to experience.

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