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Joanie Pony
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yes You will be sorry wasting your young years. He is being honest no marriage no children in there. He already has children so it wouldn't be fair to his kids to start another family. I think you want a clean slate and have a mate that has the same goals as you. |
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Rachel
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If you really want marriage and kids and he doesn't, then it will eventually drive you apart. If you don't have common goals then you are both just wasting your time. |
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abc
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he has told you that he does not want more children and he does not want to get married; if you want to get married and have children this guy is not for you.....really pretty easy |
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GoLdEn
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worry about urself first. Never give up ur dreams for a boyfriend |
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Happy-2
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Don't try to forget about him, go through a healthy breakup that provides you with the closure you really need in order to move on. Tell him exactly how you feel about him. List his good qualities for him. Remind him (and yourself) of the happy memories from your relationship. Then, tell him your hopes and dreams for yourself. Tell him you want a husband and children of your own. Tell him that you wish you could have shared those things with him, but that, since he has passed that stage in life, you understand, and must look for someone who can help you fulfill your dreams. Have a good cry, hug him, tell him you loved him, and say a sincere and heartfelt good-bye. |
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Ein Edelstein
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If you give up your life desires for this man, you will end up hating him for him in the future. |
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♥☆Mrs. Rose☆♥
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You need to talk to him and tell him that marriage is an important goal for you and if he is not willing to compromise, then he is not a very good boyfriend. He obviously isn't comitted 100% if he can't marry you. |
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TeKe
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Move on..this guy has already told you what he wants.. |
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Kathryn C
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Think about what you want in a person. dont settle!!! if u KNOW you want kids and you KNOW you want to get married and he doesnt, then he is not for you.
the person you are supposed to be with will match you in those areas, or at least be compromising |
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jewels15
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Don't marry him. Don't give up your dreams for anyone . You will never be happy if you do. Thank God you have this information now and not after you committed. Don't ignore the facts, they won't go away. |
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starael
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Move on. You'll be unhappy if you stay. |
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so Fresh
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Don't rush anything. Don't push him. But you might have to make that decision later on down the line. If you clearly are not on the same page with someone - you should find someone who is. |
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Jane Marple
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Why did you get into that relationship in the first place knowing you had different goal in life?
Move on and continue your search for the one. This current man doesn't love you the way he should be, he's killing time.
Let him find a woman more of his age with children and give yourself the life you want.....a loving husband and the happiness of children. |
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cfc64
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IF YOU TRULY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO COMPROMISE, NEVER LOOSE SITE OF YOUR GOALS THOUGH, TRY SITTING DOWN AND TALKING TO EACH OTHER OR MAYBE EVEN SEEK SOME ADVICE FROM A COUNCILOR, AND AS FOR THE AGE DIFFERENCE AGE IS JUST A NUMBER AND SHOULD NOT MAKE ANY DIFFERENCE TO TWO PEOPLE WHO REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER, HOPE THIS HELPS A LITTLE BIT, BEST OF LUCK. |
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jmattiesmufc
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8 years older and WISER, from what I can surmise.
The fact of the matter is this. It doesn't matter how much you love each other and all of that good stuff, marriage and children are two issues there's no "compromise" for. You can't really meet in the middle on stuff like this. Either he's happy and you're not or the other way around.
You have to find someone who wants to settle down and reproduce. Relationships only work if you are BOTH happy, and that can't happen in the one you have now. |
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lucyjive
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I know it is hard... but he is older and feels he has had his marriage and his children and decided he dose not want any more. This dose not make him a bad guy, however, you want children and a marriage and if you give up your dreams of a family you may grow to resent him for it.
I think you should cut your losses and end the relationship on good terms. If he decides your worth it, he may change his tune later. Good Luck, I hope you get the things you want : ) |
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.Cami.B.
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You want to know what I think? I think you already have an answer, you're just looking for confirmation for that answer. Well, if you already have that answer than go with it. I think you're leaning toward looking for another guy, but I may be wrong. One thing is for sure though, you already have an answer and you're just waiting for the people here to confirm that you've made the right decision. If you asked me, I'd say just go for what your heart has been telling you all to do all along. Good luck with life! Hopefully I won't have to answer another one of these "Marriage..yes or no?" questions from you. I wish you a everlasting, joyous, and wonderful marriage and the rest of your life. ^-^ |
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jules
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if he's 8 years older, i'd say he's probably pretty sure he knows what he does and doesn't want. if your goals are pretty clear to you, i'd cut my loses and look for someone on the same page. good luck. |
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TheVeryThoughtOfYou
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Well, I'm not sure how old you are now, but let's say you stay with this guy without getting married. Will you wake up at age 40 and lament never having children of your own?
The one thing that's really important when you're deciding who to be with---especially who you're going to marry---is if you have the same goals in life. If you want marriage and children and he doesn't because he's in a "been there, done that" state of mind, then you guys aren't in the same place. One of you will end up resenting the other if you don't agree on what you want and need for your life to feel full.
You only have one life, dear. If you choose to spend it with this guy, it sounds like you're going to pass up the opportunity to have the family you want. There is someone out there---lots of someones---who want marriage and a family like you do. Don't give up on your dreams and goals! |
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trybi
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you have been together for only one year...... move on ....
his life is complete, don't give up on your dreams for a guy who doesn't share them .
move on before it is too late |
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Beloved One
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I think you should leave, though you love him. Even if you did convince him to marry, if he doesn't have a heart towards it (and the trust you would need to make it work) then as soon as things get hard he would resent you for the marriage. There are so many men truly seeking a good wife to cherish- don't let yourself waste years you could be spending with a man who will truly love you, have the same goals, and joyfully raise children. It sounds very hard, I know, but it's cheapening you and your love. It's degrading. I would go to God and ask Christ for a husband that is well-suited, honorable, loving, etc, everything you want and long for, and then step out in faith and disentangle yourself from this man who doesn't love you enough to promise you his life. Why give a man like that your heart? |
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I heart Jordan Staal!
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I'm kinda going threw the same thing right now...He wanted to get married but no kids. Now he has no intrest in either but has said he wouldn't be upset if I was pregnant. I really wanted to have kids but marriage was no rush if we are already together. Now I want to get atleast engaged..maybe married in the next 2-3 years. Kids some time after that.
If we do talk about this we fight. Its easier just to not talk about it. Im giving it a few more months see how things go and if he isn't willing to take the next step I'm moving out and starting over myself. I don't think anyone should have to give up their goals for some one else. Love plays bad tricks on your mind. You think its ok to give up your goals and its really not! I think being hurt before by his ex isn't helping in your case...
I think you need to do whats right for you...in the end that is the only person you can count on!
Good Luck! |
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BeaRDog
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You should never give up your goals. That is the means of providing for children in the future and having a carrer. He should support your goals no matter what and stick with you through and through. Thats what a Husband would do. Would he? Answer yes or no and there is your answer. |
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goddess
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If you pressure anyone into a situation they don't want to be in then the outcome will always be bad. Why are you going to give up on your dreams and goals for someone else? A marriage is about compromise yes but it is also about supporting one another. Is he supporting your goals and dreams? Doesn't sound like it. Maybe it's time to move on. |
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Schwinn
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First of all, you and your boyfriend want different things. Is he worth giving up your life goals for. Is being with him more important than your desire for a family.
Also you don't sound like you are ready for marriage either. You don't "count" your previous 2 year marriage as a previous marriage? That doesn't make sense.
Maybe when you are ready for marriage, your boyfriend will be ready also. |
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Lisa
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Find someone who wants the same things as you. Don't settle for less than what you want, you'll regret it later. |
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tigger
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i taken as said is yes!!!!!!!!. because you love your boy friend very much. it nice of both of you is married. if you marriage your boyfriend i will said well done. good luck for future |
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EM.ox
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Thats tricky, but if i it was me i would find someone who does want marriage and kids :) Cos you have to do what you want. You don't want to be regretting it your whole life. |
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Stina Lady
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If his is saying this with no hint of ever changing his mind, it may be time to move on. You don't have the same goals and he probably won't change his mind. |
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