Married people only please...?

The Wife

Married people are very different from cohabiting people. I know, I did both. Married people took vows and made promises through thick and thin to stay together and make it work. Cohabiting people are really just playing house. I am not insulting anyone, I already said I lived with someone before... but there are no ties. Either person can walk away at any time and lose nothing.

Unmarried people who refer to their other by a spouse title are in a lot of ways mocking real marriage. Making seem as if sharing an address is the same thing as being married. It's not.

Dustin

Marriage is a sacred bond that should not be taken lightly. People that aren't married shouldn't claim to be.

To each is own.

Alrozz

Common law marriage is alive today.

When both of the couples receive their mail in the same box and after so many years...that is considered common law marriage and that varies from State to State.

janeannpat

Eh, they are only fooling themselves.

Happy-2

I am no more bothered by it than I am by people calling their dogs their "children". Both are ridiculous, but don't really harm me in any way.

David W

It's pretty much common law after 2 yrs, but yes, they should get papers if they wish to allocate the name.

Computer Guy

Doesn't bother me in the least. If it looks liks a duck, and quacks like a duck...

In some states, BTW, if you live together long enough, you are considered "common law" married.

I would worry that if something happened to one of them, the other would not have the safeguards provided by marriage.
If the members are both concientious, it should be fine. What about children? Is all the property in joint tenancy, with right of survivorship? Are wills, life insurance and 401K beneficiaries aligned? How do they handle health insurance?

Tired and Cranky

NO it doesn't bother me. as long as what other couples are doing doesn't effect my marriage or life I could care less.

I'm just sayin' . . .

Everyone has different ideas, as you can tell from these posts. Personally I have seen un-married couples who have much more committed relationships than a lot of married couples. It really is up to the people in the relationship as to whether being legally married means anything. No matter what anyone else thinks.

My first marriage was an official "god blessed" sacred vow event, that I made happen because my parents were very religious and that was the only way I could justify living with my boyfriend. That ended after 3 1/2 years. With my second marriage - we lived together for three years and only got married when we decided to get pregnant. We have now been together for 20 years and we don't see this thing ending. And it's not because of vows spoken to a preacher, it's because of our complete devotion to each other which is between two people and doesn't have to have an outside authority validate it.

Chuck T

Doesn't bother me...

mike m

I guess people living together aren't literally married, so they aren't husband/wife. I as a married dude don't care what people call themselves though, so go ahead and call your girlfriend your wife if you want to. If you've lived together for a while your state may consider you common-law spouses.

bob b

my thoughts are,,,,,,,, why is it anyone elses business

snowmn_jw

well, I don't like it

TABBY

I am married and have been for 21 years but it wouldn't bother me if someone that wasn't married said they were. As far as I'm concerned living together is basically the same thing.

*VAMPTASIA.*

I Have been Married, and I have Had A live in Partner. Why anybody should get upset about being referred to as Married,is beyond me. Surely if a partner is good enough to live with, then they are as good as Married anyway!

Redgum

I haven't run into this myself - and I find it odd that some would claim to be married when they know they aren't.

There is someone just down the street from me who has been living with his girlfriend for about 7 years now, she's waiting on him to pop the question, but he's apparently hanging on to the notion of freedom...

So, you asked for my thoughts; they'd be curious disapproval. Curious because I'm not sure what they expect to 'gain' from falsifying their marital status, disapproval because it's both telling a lie and living one.

If they're somehow making an attempt to appease the moral majority ( or minority these days ) then they've missed the point entirely...

SidneyMN

that doesn't bother me at all. I refer to my husband as my partner, and people get freaked about it. It's very elitist for married folks to think their "status" or relationship is defined by a word or a ceremony. Why should they care? I will never understand why people take other's relationships so personally.

Mz.Shaikh

Not really.. its their choice on what they want to call their relationship!.. its kinda wrong in a way too cause they didnt take the vows making them not actually husband and wife .. but yes.. again if thats what floats their boat, its up to them!!

Bozz Mozz

Well, I've never had anyone do that. But if someone did I'd probably just blow it off. I wouldn't be offended, but I wouldn't consider them married either. To some people, marriage is just a piece of paper. Or a tradition, or a tax issue. To others, like me, it's something a whole lot more.

The Mrs.

Never heard anyone refer to themselves as married who are not married.

don't violate me bro

does not bother me, but you reporting someone does

Brunette wife

Why would it bother me?...Its their life not mine and they can do what they want.

dlmrgnk

Most all of us do what we need to do to get along in the world. No problem from here.

acmeraven

They are in what is called a "common law" marriage, it requires a divorce to end it, and it makes the children legitimate. Never could figure it out myself either.

louie l

doesnt bother me we still would but we went to vegas and got married. some people say getting married might backfire dont fix whats not broken

Hokie_Pokey

It doesn't bother me a bit.

I lived with my boyfriend for 6 years before we married. And for those 6 years, we lived the life of a married couple just without the legal documentation.

Perhaps the person who responded was a religious fanatic and found it offensive. So I think it depends on a persons religious beliefs. Not so much if they are married or single people.

sara explains it all

I've been living with my "boyfriend" for over 7 years, in our state of Texas, we are considered Common Law whether we like it or not! If we split up and fight over belongings, we will have to get a legal divorce!

Marriage is just a piece of paper and it doesnt mean much especially when married people are cheating and hypocrites of their vows........

sevenstar

No it doesnt bother me...I agree with Mike,,

squirlly3521

Depending on where you are from, if you live with someone long enough, you are consodered common-law married. It doesn't bother me, I tend to stay to my own buisness.

YaWhoDee

My husband and I lived together for 10 years before we married. Our friends were the ones that were using the husband, wife and/or married references while we always corrected them. They all said it was just easier that way and that they thought we were more married un-married than some of the married couples they knew.
If they are using married as part of a deception for illegal gain they would probably be put on my "no longer friend" list but if it is for an easy description of their status then I say...to each his own.

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