Married women....please help?

JustMyOpinion

Have you felt like this for the past year? If so, it may not be just a phase.

Do you want to try and fix your problems? Consider going to marriage counseling if you're interested in making your marriage work.

I believe in marrying for life, till death do you part. BUT, sometimes things just don't work. It takes 2 people giving 100% to make the marriage work. If you don't want to put in the work, you need to leave.

If you're going to leave, do it now before you end up bringing children into the picture.

I will tell you this. I married my high school sweet heart when I was 21. For the first year of our marriage, we were both pretty miserable. We found out I was pregnant a month before our wedding. I was still in college, working a full-time job at night. He was working a full-time job plus a second job. We rarely saw each other, and when we did, we fought all the time. Looking back, I think we were both in shock about how much our life had changed in such a short period. We were pretty much thrown into the world to sink or swim. We had to buy a house, prepare for a baby, get used to being married (which is a big enough challenge on it's own), try to make ends meet. I felt isolated. I missed my mom and dad. I really did not want to be pregnant. I wasn't even sure I wanted to be married. I called my mom one night in tears. I considered several times that first year of walking out.

That was 5 years ago. We are so beyond happy now. That baby I was pregnant with is now 4 years old. She and our other little one are true blessings. I'm more in love with my husband now than I was when we married.

I'm not trying to romanticize or sugar-coat marriage for you. I'm only trying to give you both sides of the picture.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

luvtochasecows

Before I can answer that question, I would need to know what you want to do. Does he not let you go out partying at the bars or does he not let you buy a stick of gum. There's a difference in what you want to do. If it's something reasonable, maybe you should just discuss it with him. You might be the one who feels you can't do anything, and he really hasn't said anything. I know I started off marriage being scared to do anything b/c of a past relationship, but it wasn't my husband's fault, I just assumed all men were that way and shouldn't have.

oracleofohio

If you want out, that's your right. I'm betting it's the age difference, the energy and goals of someone in their 20's is different from someone in their 30's. You might feel bad now, but how bad will you feel in 10 years if you still want out and wasted 10 years....

Confused

Just leave. Dont feel bad. You arent happy, so why keep yourself in it? Just go before kids get involved. No one should ever just settle. Trust me. I did that thinking that that was as good as life would get but I was so wrong. I also had a child with this man, but I finally stepped up and said that my happiness is what really counts in life and I left. Now I am married to the man of my dreams and am so HAPPY with my life. Your happiness is all that matters. When you are happy, so is everyone else that is in your life. You should never sacrafice your happiness just because you "feel bad." Get out and do what makes you happy.

Kimmy

i bet the age difference has something to do with it. if your really unhappy leave.

kim h

If you are unhappy and want out I would do it now.

mia_may_i

Our age difference is not a problem 49 & 37. Be the woman of your house and enjoy your husband and do and go everywhere together. It could be worse..just be thankful. I was taught at an early age that no one is put on this earth to entertain you, but you. I bet you he married you because you like to go places... psst opposite still attract.

â™¥Makeup Freekâ™¥

You didn't mention if you loved him or not?? If you love him then you should try to work it out, if you don't then you should leave.

senora zamora

don't do him any favors no one wants someone to stay with them out of pity. go on a trip if travel is what you want maybe a little spce will make you miss him, either that or it'll make you realize you are over the relationship and you should move on

lilmiss90

im not married but i know exactly what you mean... my ex and i were 11 years different in age.. and it was like i always wanted to do things while he wanted to sit at the house i finally got tired of it called my mom and asked her if i could move back in for a couple weeks until i got myself together she said yes one day he went to the store and when he came back all my stuff and me was gone. don't stick around it wont get any better im sure you've been going through this for awhile just tell him its not what you want and leave.

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