Me and my man constantly argue?

George Balooney

Why do you guys argue? If you gave us more info we could dissect the problem.

Maybe you guys need to be more conciderate of each other. Learn to share your time and not just be about yourself.

Johnny A

...MY MAN AND I...

flychica1280

Pick your battles wisely, don't get dramatic over lil' things. If you can laugh it off then ya'll are good. Otherwise...if its more arguing than loving........let it go.

I miss Thailand!!!!

couples councelling

Unique S

you guys should figure out other ways around things sthen j ust arguing

if you could give an anectdote I would be able to answer more accurately.. Your marriage sounds like most marriages.

sukinon

I wouldn't live like that, It's not worth it. Life is too short already!

iamwhoiam

My husband and I went through the same stage. We fought so much that I didn't think we'd stay together sometimes. But then it went away and now we're good.

Sometimes it's healthy to argue. You don't want your man to agree with you on everything, do you? It would be so boring.

eight-hours

Yes I know what you mean It's like 'Can't live with him but can't live without him'...it's hard if your a sensitive soul and it can be heartbreaking.

Perhaps the secret is to give each other more space to do our own thing. My friend tried this when her and her husband were constantly bickering.....it worked like charm. They still love each other to bits but each is a more interesting person because they have allowed that breathing space into their relationship

Onion Queen

welcome to marriage!!

Chika Yeah.

Go to counseling, remember it's both parties that contribute to the relationship and the arguing. When this happens again, just tell him you'd prefer not to argue and just talk things out without screaming or getting angry. Remind him that you love him and would prefer if he didn't treat you this way and promise you would do the same.

Rayha

Maybe you need some time apart a night out with the girls while he is out with the guys or if you can afford it a little vacation somewhere then you will miss each other so much you will appreciate each other. If it is due to finances I do not know how to answer that a lot of couples are going through this due to the economy and it is really sad if they have children and divorce

*~Josy~*

very normal especially when married because u spend so much time together or either not enough time together, depending on the situation either try to have a lil less time together or more time together... also, is there stressful situations going on in both ur lives that might make u fight? for instance, my boyfriend and i fight constantly but its because we are soo stressed financially, this might just be making u 2 take it out on each other. hope this helps. good luck

irish_jimmy

Welcome to the INSTITUTION.

lilly l

Don't think you both love each other b/c 1 probably doesn't love the other.

Pam H

Marriage counseling. Book store or library for books on conflict resolution, anger management, and fighting fair.

Nini

i have the same problem girl but talk to him both of you lay everything on the table tell him you want to work thinks out that you want to stop arguing... trust me it might work that's what me and my fiance did and we been pretty good.. I'm not saying its going to happen over night but at least you Willl no what you guys are arguing about and it wil resolve alot of problems best of luck i really no how you feel

I<3theclickfive

its normal you are just getting adjusted to eachother. try to put aside some time to talk about it. bickering just makes life spicier as my parents say it.

BLKBELT1

well you need to try to figure out what you disagree on. Then take some time to meet inthe middle. If you love each other very much meeting in the middle should not be a hard thing. The hardest thing to over come alot of times is the cause.

tamarabxx2007

I've been married 2 times, the first time...total disaster, we had 2 beautiful boys. my second marriage is going strong on 5 years, and we use to argue every second we were together. i figured out i just wanted him to say the words "honey your right", and then be quiet. no more arguing, even though sometimes i am wrong, he still tells me honey your right, and stops arguing.

bernie

i don't know if you're married or not but try reading the chicken soup books for marriage and relationships. that help me and my husband alot when we had arguments. I say counseling after that. I just think reading information that could help ya'll is the cheapest way, but if not counseling

carriegreen13

Marriage counseling, I normally would not say that, but if you argue, yell, and throw hissy fits, at eachother and can't come to any conclusion about your argument, then I would seek the advice of a counselor, they can give you tools to help you communicate more and give you tools to act more mature in your discussions, right now, they are not discussions, and you are not communicating.

Marriage counselor.

graveyardspunka

most couples argue about money and family life, so you don't state what you and your man argue about. Me and my husband argues usually about being around each other too much. alot of people argue becuz their love ones never spends enough time with each other, not us. I've been married for 26 years with two kids (who are now grown)When I was younger both me and him argued about our friends staying out all night, drinking and partying too much, just about anything you name it we probably argued about it.As we got older we got wiser we have learned that it better to just talk things out instead of fighting( and some of our fights have gotten deadly) We both give each other space and allowed to go out with our friends, if we should choose to stay out all night long cuz we are either partying too much or the ones we are with have been drinking too much, we have respect enough for the other person to call and let each other know so we don't stay up all night wondering if that person is in jail in the hospital or dead somewhere. I suggest just respect each others answers and complains that you might have about things that may arise

Old Fart

Shi* happens in the best of people.

run_aroundmusic

Arguing isn't "just marriage." There are plenty of happily married couples out there that don't constantly fight like immature teenagers. When one of you has realized (which I think you have) that there's something wrong, than that person should do the mature thing and sign up for counseling. It's a wonderful gift, and can do many things for your relationship. You can also think of it as an adventure that the two of you are embarking on TOGETHER. How romantic.
Good luck!

Flaca

how long ya been together? when 2 people first start living together, in that time when the novelty starts to wear off, there's going to be arguing, guaranteed...but if you really love each other then you'll work thru your differences and find a common ground

blazegirl

Just have a talk each day and try to turn these arguments into loving conversations. I wish you well.

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