Me and my wife are having problems...?

Agnostic Queen

First of all, stop grovelling to her.... there is nothing more unattractive to someone who wants to leave you... it makes them dislike you more! And second... dont leave... if she wants out that badly, tell her to leave... you want to be with the kids.... so if she doesnt like you around, she can move out. Stop sulking and telling her how you feel... it actually made me cringe and feel embarassed for you as I was reading this because I can just imagine her sneer and look of disgust...... shes got all the power right now... so take yours back! Get strong.... and tell her to leave... and get yourself together for your kids! Our feelings only get hurt if we let them.... so dont let her hurt you anymore... tell yourself enough is enough and get your mojo back!

Ready"5"

"She says she will not be cheating on me if we are not together anymore"
Sounds like she's cheating now!

Victory

I feel you. I've gone through the same problem. My advice, if you love your children, don't leave. This might be a trick for you to leave, she would have full custody of your child. If you leave, she will claim in court that you leave your child. Do a lot of search on the internet on divorce and child custody. That's if you want to be with your daughter.

I've gone through what you're going through. Right now, don't try to make any sense out of her. Just ignore her, or else you will go through more pain. Continue to love your daughter.

Also, get yourself a good certified family law attorney if you can afford one. If not, do search and more search on internet. You will learn a lot about dirty tricks women can use against their husband. If you gain knowledge, you won't fall in those trappy tricks.

ITALYGAL

I would definitely respect her, she will realize that raising 4 kids and being a single mom is hard. She will miss you. Their is no-one that will love her kids like u do and unless u are abusive, lazy, or just plain not loving to her, i can't see why she would not want to stay away...My best wishes to you.oh! the most important thing that i forgot to tell u was that..THROUGH PRAYER EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE..

dearabbywantabe

Why do you have to leave, if she wants out. You can't make her love you, but tell her if she wants out that badly, she can leave.
If you are willing to talk things out, you are better than her and you deserve better.

This is coming from a woman.

Sadie

ok well first of all, y does she not love u nymore? y does she want u to leave?
nd it doesnt sound like u can do much, she really sounds like she doesnt care bout u nymore.

I.C.U.

Okay u didn't cheat BUT u weren't the best husband either.....anyway to try to make that up to her....or is it too late for that??? Hate to say it but it sounds like she has reached the end....all u can do is try & pray...
Sometimes to get something back you have to let it go.........

Crissy

This is a tough one to answer, but I was in the same sisuation kind of, and the truth is you may push her into staying and maybe even change her mind for a little while but unless she figures it out on her own she will just go back to it.

So I guess the only thing you can do is give her time and space even though it will hurt you cant force it on her, Sorry your hurting so bad,

Doesn't sound like you can make it better. She seems to have made up her mind. You now need to concentrate on you and your kids. I'm sorry you are having to go through this but if she is cheating on you, is that the kind of marriage you want?

fleur d

She's been pretty clear about the fact that she if over you. She wants you to leave, she is sick of ou, she just doesn't care. Be a better role model for your kids and don't let this lady make a door mat out of you. Who knows, you may get along much better once you start taking better care of yourself and developing outside interests. But on the face of it, the future of this relationship doesn't seem like it's going to be there. Good luck.

unhitched

My wife and I...

Gia

Get her some flowers and tell her that she is beautiful.

Yong Sun

The more you make her feel that you are depending on her, the worst it will become. You are a man and you should act like one. If she is not interested in your affections anymore, then let it be. Just take good care of your kids. Be firm and you will see her draw herself closer to you. You see, most women do not like men who are too soft. You had already repeatedly told her how you feel, so let her think it over. You can't drag a bull to drink water, can you?

ostevieo

She is right, she won't be cheating on you if you are not together any more. The question is: is she cheating on you right now? Sounds like it to me.

Bob

This is sticky and complex because of being together a long time and there are kids. I would suggest you keep trying to change to be the best husband you can be. Continue being a great dad to your kids, even better than you are now. Hopefully in time she will change and see that you are different and it will all work out. Do know there may be no change for her so it could be tough.

*** I AM WAITING TO PLAY IN SWEET MILDREDS PLAYPEN WITH YOU

Jennifer

Maybe try to be apart for awhile and try marriage counseling. It takes both of you to make the marriage work so try talking about all the problems and seeing how they can be fixed. How long have the issues been going on? If it's been too long then it may be over. Sorry if it is. You can't make someone love you. Just try to be a good dad to the kids and get along for their sake.

Beth

Too late. You're trying hard now. What about before? Let her go. Maintain a good relationship with your children. That's what you need to concentrate on now that it's over. Good luck.

Jhon J

Hi.. and why does she want to leave you? for no reason? I don't think so.... did you cheat? did you abuse her?

K D

A pathetic guy begging and pleading his case only serves to make the woman run the other way that much faster. You are a little psychotic, not to mention you are creating a very awkward situation that she doesn't want to be in. Tell her to pack her bags and get out if she is so driven. Why should you move and lose your children?

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