Men! What do you think about equal rights when it comes to custody?

Cero

There aren't any equal rights for men in divorce except on a rare occasion. I've knew one single dad who never got child support. The judge didn't even suggest it in the beginning like they do with women. The family court system is extremely biased against men. Unfortunately, the laws won't change until you have enough men protesting and scaring the hell out of the politicians.

Are there deadbeat dads? Of course and I think there are way too many of them. However, tell me why a man that wants to be in his child's life should be denied simply because a woman says so? All men aren't deadbeats, so why are good men punished along with the bad? Sometimes this world is just depressing.

alialoggi

So, you are saying that men cheat because they will one day be married, then divorced, and screwed over in the custody arrangement? My husband cheated, and left the marriage. He sees the kids during the weekend, when he isn't busy. He doesn't call them at all during the week. This guy should have 50/50 split custody? The kids don't want that, and neither does he. Men cheat because they can. Its a whole lot easier for a married man to cheat, than a married woman, who has children.

WillBe

My friend recently divorced, he was part of a balanced relationship... meaning he did half the house work, took care of the kid as much as the wife did etc. She no longer had feelings for him, and eventually he got tired of hanging on (I think that most people would cheat at this stage because they will too scared to let everything go, but he did things the right way - he suspects that she cheated but has nothing to prove). My question is, Why Should Men Get Married?

To me it seems that Men lose much more then women do. Besides our wife, we automatically lose most of our parenting rights - we literally have to beg to see the kids and feel like criminals in front of a judge, we lose the house (and sometimes car) until the kids are grown up because they need a place to live in, we don't have as much support from our peers as women do (most men invest all their emotions in their loved ones, the rest of their relationships are acquaintances) , the courts do not favor us at all. Our life radically changes overnight, just because we signed and got married! It's no wonder that divorced men have 6 times the chance of committing suicide .. divorced women suicide rates are not effected.

I'm not saying divorce is a walk over for women, loosing a partner is never easy. But to me, it seems like men are at a disadvantage when they get married. and the feminist "get divorced, and live happier" motivation surely does not help families, being materialistic and egoistic does not help either... it's a two fold, Everyone seems to be lazy and gives up so easily, it does not seem like anyone even tries anymore!

It's very easy to say if you love the person you will know when to get married etc, but marriage is a concept invented by the human race... Marriage is not that simple, the biggest factor that drives relationships into the wall nowadays is Money and less "quality" time. It's all good to say that love will fight everything, but I don't think that's completely realistic.I also think that not being able to live without someone is not healthy, whilst being able to live without and choosing to live with that person is the perfect balance - sometimes relationships must survive on respect when the passion and flames are gone - not love.

ouragon

My ex has primary custody of our children because it was and is best for all of us. The flip side of this is that there is a tremendous stigma attached to being a noncustodial mom. No one says anything to my face, but be attentive to the remarks made on Y!A.

POCHY1

MY ADVICE SPEND ALL THE TIME POSIBLE FOR YOU WITH THE KIDS AND LET THEM KWOW ALL THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR THEM AND HOW IMPORTAND THEY ARE FOR YOU GOOD LUCK

Sheryl F

My husband has full custody of his 3 children from a previous marriage , he is the better parent , the mother has visiting rights but chooses most of the time not to have them as she has better things to do , sometimes the children can go up to 2 months without seeing there mum , its her chioce not theres . The children are so use to it now they dont even ask about her anymore nor do they miss her . She also does not pay child support nor will she get a job , she is an absoulute loser on all accounts .

Katie M

Some men aren't capable of being good parents but some women aren't either. My son is trying to get shared custody and he's fighting the fight of his life. Makes me sick because he truly is the better parent. The mom lies and will do anything to hurt him and she knows that keeping the kids to herself is the most painful thing she can do to him. So she does it. Makes me sick.

misskelleygirl

In Idaho...Men are awarded 50/50....if they want it. Our court system believes it's best for the children, when both parents are involved equally. (Which I agree with).

However...isn't it sad, that so many men DON'T keep their kids 50% if the time. My Husband is one of these men.

Oh we have 50/50 in the paperwork...And no, I don't receive child support.

I also have my daughter 80% of the time. No, I'm not complaining. Not at all...she's the joy in my life. I absolutely live for her.

Anyway, I have her so much, because she gets in the way of her Father's social life.

So before you spout off about Father's not having rights with their kids...you should probably delve further into the details.

I'd happily split my daugther 50/50...Even though he can be less than a stellar parent...she still loves him, and needs him. I want her to have a good relationship with him!!

And I'm so very sad...he doesn't want the same.

Lioness

Women have been awarded custody for years as typically, they were the homemaker and the men would go out and work. Therefore, the reason women get custody. However, there are some men who do not wish to pay child support, or get back at their wives for divorcing them and create a custody battle. It is not b.s. - it is just what had been routinely done for years. It's great if that parent's can co-parent for the sake of their children but sometimes men can be bitter.....in fact, that is what I am hearing from you.

Johnny

I think the best interest of the children should rule.

Forlorn Hope-only 5 suspensions

courts give immediate rights to the mother, cos the court systems are outdated...

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