Men and Women would you prefer it to be this way when it ends?

Clementine

yes, and it's life, and it's hard, and you gotta keep going. Keep yourself very busy! I took on a part time job - besides my full-time, and spent the weekends in the country with friends, and met tons of new people, and had a great time. the best is when you don't have any time to think about him, until you are "over" it. It's like death, loosing somebody, same thing - you can expect yourself to go through all the stages, and be prepared for it. Plan, and look forward to all the things that you can do, that you couldn't do while in the relationship!

Vicky

I ended one like that once I wanted to fight argue but he was a better than that. I wish him well and never speak bad of him. he is a true friend.

jude

yes it is much easier to end it like this than the other way, and when it ends like this there is always a chance u will one day go back because no bridges were burned, no one was negative, and even if u never see them again you will have this memory rather than a bad ugly memory of that person.

Muschi

I'm sorry to hear that! Everyone is different so you deal with it the best way you can and do what you think is best for you. I think ending it on a good note is easier (and more mature) and a lot less painful than otherwise. Try not to think about your losses but look ahead to new beginnings!

Just that One

Yeah me and my fiance of 2 years called it quits and made it an offical break up two weeks ago.

It was hard and it still kind of is. He was the man that I was going to marry.

We came to the mutual decision to break up though.

He even still texts me telling me what a great gf I was and he never knew what he had (he did a lot of bad things when we where together). He always texts to ask how my day was and he even tells me that he loves me and wishes that things could be different.

We both know that it is over for good because honestly now that I am out I will never put myself in that situation again but it's just sad.

We were civil but yet it still hurts.

Bella

I think it's harder when you choose to part based upon personal choice. It's easy to ditch a man/woman who treats you badly or cheats but when the lines aren't so clear, I think a lot of people feel guilt because they just aren't happy.

Stew

I honestly wish my last marriage had finished so smoothly. I was asked to visit my family several thousand miles away and while I was there, got divorce papers in the mail. I was pretty much thrown away like trash.

Consider yourself fortunate that things went over so well.
Sorry for the pain you are feeling, I know how that goes.

Be strong and know that the next day will have another sunrise to look forward to.

VillageGirl

Yes, I have. And yes, it was the best way to end things. I can't imagine every going out on a blow-up. That would not give me closure and would only give me anger to fester with.

Julie M

Its normal. Your sig. other was someone who for a while was an important person in your life, and your just mourning the loss of that person. Its completely normal. After a while it wont hurt so much and you won't feel like something is missing from you. Its a matter of adjusting and moving on to new experiances and new memories and eventually new people. Ending it on a positive note is fine i guess. It depends on the person. I personally like the explosive ending where i vent out all that was wrong in a relationship and let everything out there while i yell at him before i go...Its my way of letting go of the relationship and releasing it from myself. You need to vent it all out.

amare

Yes; it is hard but it is best to just move on when you know the relationship will not work.

Steve

Sounds like all went well. What is the problem? You need a new man to take your mind off of that deadbeat bum!

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