Military gf/wives help!?

Kristen

I feel for you...really. I had to say goodbye to my husband in 2007 to go to Iraq. He came back March 2008. Definitely the longest months of my life. All anyone could tell me was "Just be strong" which is like saying "Just breathe" well duh.

For me, here are some things I did that helped me:
1. I sent him care packages like crazy. He said all his buddies over there were jealous because he got so many and had the coolest things in them :)
2. Made him cookies and sent to him
3. Made a "magazine" of me (kinda' like playboy with articles I found online and pics of me) (HE FREAKIN' LOVEDDDD THIS LOL)
4. Made him a home movie
5. Sent him pics of EVERYTHING - our dog, the yard as the season's were changing, anything new being built in our town, me at work, stuff like that and he told me when he got home how much that ment to him because he never felt left out of anything even though he was so far away.

Hope this helps
Feel free to E-mail me lost_carolina82@yahoo.com
One military wife to another, ya' gotta' stick together :)

HollyyMarie

the thing that helps me the most is to drive
i dont know why but it does
i love driving, i crank up my music and drive
gets stuff out of my head for a bit

just keep yourself busy and know that he loves you and misses you and that he will come home. it does seem like an eternity but it does get easier with time. you'll see yourself in a whole new light! youll see how strong you are, you dont know how strong you are until you go through something like this.

being the girlfriend or the wife is the hardest job in the military, but the most rewarding job of all.

don't think about things too much! thats the killer

he loves you, know that believe that. youll be okay :)

good luck
hollyy

Irksome

sweetie there's nothing to say. You'll deal with it just because you have nothing else to do.

Rely on your friends, your family, get a hobby, work hard, whatever keeps your mind off things!!

My husbands been gone since November 08 and won't be back till february 10

Sweetdaddy Rex

There are support groups for just that very thing; Contact them ! A good start: GOOGLE Army Wives Club, and go from there ! ( I put 21 years in the U.S. Navy ). My wife had lots of support from the Navy Wives Club !

J.J.

You stay busy. Dwelling on it will not change the outcome of his return or non return.

Get on with you life.

KavaD

Take some time to cry. There's no use trying to not cry right now.
During the time he's gone, don't stop living. Take classes if you're not in school already. Get back into a hobby that you may have neglected since becoming involved with your Fiancee. If you don't work, get a job. Get a gym membership and use it!!
You want to stay busy for many reasons. Two good ones are
Time flies when you're busy and You want something interesting to talk to him about.
If you sit and pine for the next year, neither of you will be happy.

Gabiko

meditation.
Go somewhere quiet.
Sit with your back straight on the wall.
Put you your palms on your knees.
Your fingers up.
Slow you breathing to 3 seconds (inhale) and 3 seconds (exhale) or whatever makes you comfortable.
During all of this you eyes should be closed.
Do this every night before you go to bed.
This will calm you.

I really hope that I helped. email me and tell me if it works :
gabicalo98@yahoo.com
:)

A.R.

I heard that there is nothing a person can say to military spouses at this point. Your spouse misses you and is thinking of you every second. So...keep busy and keep a journal. IDEA: At the end of each night write down what you would say to him if he were there. You should not mail it to him. He doesnt need to feel warm and fuzzy right now. If you mail him something... mail him simple words.. i love you, im thinking of you each day... blah blah. keep it short. Really, dont be selfish. You share him with the entire world. Good luck.

Anthony

Hey Im a guy who has went to the military and its the same thing for him too. So what I did when I had to go through that, I just kept thinking about the past. The times before this moment you know? You cant think of this moment, you have to think of whats this going to do for you guys positivly. I.E yax free pay........thousands of dollars.....mucho bueno. Go to the gym, join a club....keep your mind busy....Most of all you have to be STRONG FOR HIM!

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