Mother's Day Gift for Woman Who Doesn't Take Care of her Kids?

Valerie X Account #20! At Last!

You know what you do....for the sake of the kids?

You be the BIGGER person, you show these children COMPASSION, and you buy an inexpensive, but THOUGHTFUL gift. And you have her son make a card for her. Moms love hand made cards.

This is one of MANY chances you will have to show who you REALLY are. Who will you be?

Make the right choice! And Happy Mothers Day to YOU!!!!

ouragon

I totally agree with Valerie. If you're buying the gift for your son, do it right. Be the person who stepped up and raised this boy when someone had to. Don't be petty.

sheloves_dablues

She is a mother, but is not actively parenting her child. You are not obligated to get her a gift.

Winter is over... yay!

Why would you be OBLIGATED to get her a gift?
She doesn't even have custody, why would you get her a gift? She`s the one that should get you a gift, since you're the one being a mother to the child!!!

Tabo

If you wanted you could get a gift card for a clothes store for her child. But, I doubt she would redeme it.

I understand your will probably get into a argument with your sister if you don't get her something. Thus, you feel obligated.

You could just get her a blank card and write "Happy Mother's Day" and then take her and her son out to dinner and bowling afterwards that way you know your gift has been used. If you give a gfit certificate then..well.. will it be used?

Additionally, I wonder why she does not attend her child's events? Is it because of job obligations? If not then I would again try talking to your sister about it.

Good luck!

ColdHardTruth

Obligated? And what gift will she feel obligated to get you as the woman that's truly being his Mother? However, for the boys sake, the arcade certificate would be a great idea.

And thumbs up to you for stepping up for this child.

Daddy's Girl

Talk to her son about what he would like to buy or make for his mother.

Why are you obligated?

Lola

Well this is a trickie one, I would let him pick the gift out. I believe this mean a lot to him if he pick the gift out.

Sofia

Take your nephew out and let him pick a present - IF he wants to. He can give the present to his mum himself.

Keep yourself out of it. One day he may realise why he doesn't live with his mum... and that could be really hard on him because from what you have said she doesn't sound particularly nice x

RESTRAUNT DUDE

A SWIFT KICK TO TAKE HER TO A CUSTODY BATTLE

I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH SWEET MILDRED

cherring4

Maybe she wants to take care of her kids properly but doesn't know how. Go to the book store and get her a book about raising kids properly and how to take care of them. It is not an offensive gift but some help.

silly_duck96

Obligated to get her a gift? Why? She isn't your mother. I wouldn't get her anything. If she is this negligent she probably doesn't even remember Mother's Day. Don't get him a damn thing. Don't make her think she is a mother.

Real Talk....Ya dig

Get her a broom, and tell the B#fCH to fly off..............

ev()luti()n_24

Why are you obligated? If you want to get her a gift then it's because you want to, don't let it be because you feel you are obligated to - because you're not.

Jessica

just give her a rose.
thats all i would do.

NONAME

why don't you send her to rehab, or help her take steps to get custody of him. if not stop holding it over her head and acting like a teenager.

Sunny

You have custody. In no way are you obligated to get her a gift. A gift is something one gives willingly and freely from the heart...that's the very definition of a gift. You don't HAVE to ever give a gift...it's not a law.
If you just want to be mean though, send her an 8x10 glossy framed photo of you and her son doing something fun together or hugging.
Edit : she's not YOUR mother...take the kid shopping and let him choose something and make a card together.

wanting it

You are a better woman the me honey!!! I got my step kids mother a gift 1 year even though we have FULL custody. The only reason I did it was 1.) It fell on her supervised visit and 2.) for the kids... that was 5 or 6 years ago and I am sorry if she doesn't support them IN ANY FASHION LIKE OURS DIDN'T THEN DON'T WASTE YOUR $$$$$$ THAT IS JUST ME 2 CENTS WORTH

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