My GF wants more space?

djp6314

To much of a good thing and all. It is important to have space and respect especially in early part of a relationship. You both have lifes outside of each other as well, and although time together is important time apart is also improtant. If you try and live in each others pockets, you will start to get under each others skin. Talk to your partner find out whats what and respect her views as you hope she will respect yours. See where things go from there, but the only way you will solve this is by talking.... honest and open comunication is always the best.

HunnyBunny

FOr one thisng If your Living with a girl and Her Friends Its going to Start Fights You and Her need to get out on your On. when My bfs Friend moved in with us for a few months all We did Was fight

Joy

It is not healthy in any relationship to spend all of your free time together. I would not leave my home to give her more space though, you live there to. Ask her to define what she means by "lead our own lives" if she means date other people, then its over. If she means just have other friends and not spend 24/7 with each other, then your relationship can benefit from that. Good luck

martiek7

First of all you are not living together as a couple. You are communing with others. After about a year or two relationships are no longer in te honeymoon stage where all is new and good. You end up with the dirt and grit of a true person and have to be honest with each other about your feelings for the "real" person. Now what about you? Are you finding that you have eft behind some of your own expectations for your future? Are there hobbies or interests that you temporarily set aside because you wanted to make room for this new person in your life? If so - take back this time for you - your girl will either come around or she won't, but you will still have the things in your life that you enjoy and make you tick. You don't get happiness from another - it's just nice to have someone to share it with.

Zenthae

I dont think it sounds normal, she should be able to have space with still living with you. It just means that you dont always have to be in the same room, or doing the same thing. Maybe she wants to play a game or read a magazine and you could be sitting on the computer in a different room.

Or going out occassionally with out you is healthy to.

But if its all the time without you and you have to go home to your parents. I would say feelings have changed in the relationship.

sparda3000

Is it normal? Yes. Whether you've been together for weeks or years, too much of a good thing... etc
I can imagine it is hard, but you both need time to miss each other. This is the success recipe for all friendships and partners, they need to be there when needed not just ALWAYS there.
If there are any other deeper reasons for her wanting space... that's up to you to find out. Just ask her and if you trust what she says then respect her wishes. For the better.

Jessica B

how old are you? 18 or 19? i will assume so. why doesn't SHE leave? young relationships never last, esp those who live together! quit playing house and move onnnnnnnn. sounds like the relationship is OVER. sorry!

the_hedda_lettuce

When you spend ALL your time with your lover, it does get old pretty quick.
Why not get a place of your own? Even if it means having a couple of room mates?
That way, you and your girl can make "dates" again and you two can figure out if living together is what you really want to do.

kat_luvr2003

she has moved on, and now you should too

head up guy

it will either make or break the relationship m8
i think you should respect her feelings but try not to go back to your parents.get yourself set up somewhere let her see your a good guy with a life of your own and see what happens
be prepared to find someone else

jackson

I know you don't want to hear this but I assume you want an honest answer.

You live with two of her friends and she is spending more and more time doing things without inviting you. If she cared for you most of all this would not be happening. If she was that into you at least one of her friends would see something wrong in all of this. But no..... she is telling them that she is tired of you.

So you could sit and wait it out and the end will be the same. You will be single. She gets the security of having a boyfriend with no accountability or having to respect your relationship. Its a having cake and eating it too kind of thing.

Pack your stuff and leave! First of all this will make her look stupid negating what she has been saying to friends. You are a strong confident man who does not need this kind of thing. Yes she will cry to you and try to get you back after this but don't do it. Go out and find someone that truly cares for you.

Tiss

When someone says they want space, it means they want to break up, but are too chicken to come out and say it. Get your own place, and quit living with women until you are ready to get married.

yahoobloo

When it gets like this it`s definately time for one of you to move on or move out. In this case it seems sensible that it`s you - i`m sure you wouldn`t want to be left there with her two mates and your girlfriend gone - would you....?

sheadrew

Put it this way dude... just like a pet.You play with them you feed them hoping they'll love you forever but you leave them in the house or a cage 24/7 you really think it's gonna be happy not given the chance to see it's nature?once in a while?
We are man on this earth and we have all rights how we chose to live.Space in relationship is just in other word like taking a breather fresh air nothing harmful. If you really love her you should understand what she going through rite.If you do find it hard however you gotta understand you're just gonna turn out possessive or annoying..

clit_tiklr28

Duh! She's basically telling you to get lost.

Leilyn

she's no longer enjoying your company at all. giving her space is not entirely the answer. You have to talk openly, no arguments about what needs to be done. what does she want? what do you want? and how do you plan to compromise?

outspokenchick2004

She likely wants to break up. Happened to me in an 8 year marriage just 4 weeks ago. He needed space and we are officially separated now.

My advice is to find time for yourself, do things that make you happy. Perhaps if she sees that you're not codependent, she'll want to work it out.

I'd tell her that you are thinking abou t finding a place of your own.

Ken R

sounds like she wants to be single again. Talk to her about it, if she says no that she just needs space maybe one of you needs to move out or comprimise on something that you both can be happy with.

lovelynfuller

Ask her what the problem is, and if she still want her space see how it gose for a while, and if she continue that way move on

Owen E

It sounds to me like she wants to see other guys and that you are not the one she sees herself with anymore. She is most likely going out with her GF's to scope out candidates maybe it's time to call it quits. I know this may sound bad but if she doesn't even want to go out with you on the town or with her friends then she has a problem being around you. Really do you want this kind of GF if she has a problem having you around her?. Really consider ending this because it sounds to me like she will just end up hurting you in the end so maybe it is best to leave her before she ends up dumping you. Or another thought maybe you are just becoming to clingy and controlling and she is feeling like you are not open to her needs and wants and for her to have a life as well?. I have been married for almost 8yrs and with my wife for almost 10yrs and will tell you one thing women hate a guy who trys to control them and there life. So if this sounds like you then maybe you have a problem with trusting her and are over jealous to a degree that is ruining your relationship with her.

I'm just guessing but I feel like I'm hitting close to home here.
Women have to have a life and independence as well and also have goals and dreams they are willing to strive towards.
I will tell you this having a strong independent woman that has there life in control is alot better then one that just wants a sugar daddy to spoil them!

Lauren J

It sounds to me as if this relationship is over and you need to move out. Im sorry.

give her space it can go either way right now but if you push her now there's only one way for it to go and that's without you
get a life of your own man

bluemist

Sounds like she wants more of something and it ain't space.

Bright

Time to evaluate the realtionship. If it did not work out, move on.

Stephanie G

* She just wants space , give it to her *

habibi

give it...

if she loves you much...

she will miss you...

she will need you...

bee bee

you sound as if your life is her where is yours she will love you even more loosen the strings you sound a little insercure

Cheese A

She wants to break up, are you too blind to see that?

keira_jenkins

do you know the song

"every body needs a little time away i hurd her say from each other even lovers need a holiday far away from each other"

i think its good to get space some times other wise you get board of each other have nothing to tell each other ect give it some time if things do not improve sit her down and talk to her about things

soto_a81

the weather is getting hot and so is her hormones!!! she wants space, give her space, but dont allow her to come back into your life after she has been used and abuse and the pus-sy is no good.

YBMEUBU

You're through.

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