My Husband Cheated on Me?

Adam Smasher

Your husband was honest with you and told you what happened. Give him credit for that. If he really wanted to be with this woman, he could have let you go and gone to her. He said he wanted to work on the marriage, so at least try. If that fails, then you can leave. But if there is even a small chance at working it out, shouldn't you try? Or are you ready to be done with this marriage as well?

Aure88330

well. it was his turn to cheat on you

rouge_music@rocketmail.com

did you tell him this? try talking to him about it

Merdith A

You are both as bad as each other, stop being childlike and work on your marriage. Try and think back to why you maried each other in the first place....and work it out. If Not mutually move on.

Fernando D

well u did it so i guess it was pay back

desireenyankees2

after what you did you owe him the chance......

Mel<3

it looks like both of u could use a nice true talk together.
hang in there and dont leave just yet!
because he is being honest with u and he even said he liked her, he isnt keeping it from u which means he does love u
please stayy and both of u talk it out or go to a counselor

Elle

try couples therapy. (try watching the movie Fireproof)

Rachel.

well if you cheated on him & he hasnt never cheated on you except for whenever he kissed that girl, and make sure that he stops talking to her. hes is ******* married. then try and work on the marriage.

D B

It seems like some dormant volcano... Like all this stuff I'm reading is like WTF OMG. But it seems like it's old news for you...

If you guys have a lot of trust issues, I wouldn't waste my time.

Both of you did each other wrong atone point, and maybe you guys are only wasting time......

littlepixie

I think you guys got together so young..that could be a big reason why You both have cheated. If you guys truly love each other stick it out. But don't stay if it happens again on either side.

Caucasian Pearl â™¥

leave him start over again

Bruce S

Let me get this straight. Your husband kissed another woman and really likes her but wants to work on his marriage. Plus you cheated on him too...Your marriage is doomed. Get a divorce. You are no better than him.

triskaidekaphobia

i'm thinkin you both have lots of stuff to work on. stick it out and grow up together.

tiaaa .

I think that you guys aren't truly happy with each other. I wouldn't allow this if it happened to me. If you cheated on him before, and he cheated on you now, I don't believe your marriage is working. Unless he is just doing this to get back at you for cheating on him a year ago.

chiliredkitty

you married young, now you are dealing with the consequences.I am sure when you cheated on him you expected forgiveness, so shouldn't that work both ways? Work on your marriage.

You deserved it if you cheated on him

no offense, but his cheat might not even be real, that's just what it seems like maybe it was to get your attention or to make you feel the way he did when you did that

but if he really likes her, why would he tell you then beg for you to stay, looks like he just wanted your attention

fletcher219

So, you're swingers. Hey at least you two have something in common.

Cassie S

you know what the same thing happened to me three years ago..and me and him are not together anymore he is with her and they are expecting a baby if you really love him and he says he loves you fight for him...

gwily

dump the loser

Witchay Woman

Sounds like yall have issues and need to talk to a marriage counselor PRONTO.

dx2000fan

Did he just kiss her? Was that it? I'm not saying that is okay, but that is far different than "cheating" in the sense that they slept together. If you cheated on him then you should understand what he's going through.

But you both need to sit down and re-evaluate your desire to make the marriage work. Obviously you both have had times when it did not matter to you. If its worth saving then try and save it, but if both of you cannot sit down and communicate on what you want, then maybe its time to call it quits.

MsJanbo

Neither of you are ready to be married. He's cheating and you've cheated. My god, what is wrong with people today? Does marriage mean nothing anymore? Let him go. Both of you need to focus on yourselves and grow up!

Ya-sai

What does FY mean? Anyway, seems your hubby wants a second chance. Did he know about the FY? Give him a second chance, what have you got to lose?

rjkdlsjllsdj

Leave! as a man, I am telling you to leave. If he really wanted to work this marriage, he should not have anyTHING for any body else, PERIOD!

Once cheated, the man has to either see how much it hurts the family and should not do it again or drag on with the current relationship and make mend for the rest of his life. Same goes with women. Many has excused it as mid-life crisis, whatever you want to call it, it is wrong. This is one thing in life that should not be wrong more than once, otherwise, don't get married to begin with.

jhnny_greene

You come here and ask this question about him and in the end you say you cheated on him. Did you tell him when you cheated or told him at all? He told you - have enough gumption to stand there and take it like a woman and tell him you can work it out or let him go on the range for a day like you did. I can't believe you would ask such a question when you did worse than a kiss. Come on girl - if you love him and he loves you work it out - if you don't you will regret it down the road.

Nena S

People like you and your husband give marriage a bad rep.

Cheating is NEVER the answer !!!

Angel Taviyn & Tanner due 4/5/09

so does he want u and her? or what .....i mean my husband cheated on me and iafter .....a long time i learned to forgive and sort of ...just sort of forget ...so it can happen but ...that means he dont see the girl or nothing i told her and him i dont want to contact the minute i find out u even look at him or vice versa its over ...i dont deserve it ...and since u did cheat on him its only fair to listen to what he has to say u kno

Sassy

You both have a solid shot at reconciling, if you both want to remain together, despite the infidelity. Seek counseling together.
If he will not go, consider going alone. If you will not go, perhaps he can go alone.

Or you might as well keep packing your things, as it truly takes mutual compromise to work these issues out. You both need help from a professional counselor in re-establishment of trust, which has been obviously breached on both sides.

Trust, respect, and a willingness to remain together must be the goal if you all wish to remain together. These characteristics will not evolve overnight, but if you both honestly look at whether you wish to remain together and why, you may have a chance. Breach of trust hurts on both sides and it matters not whether you have been married 3 years or 65 years.

Get some help! This is not something you or he can fix by yourself.

Good Luck!

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